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12-18-2006, 12:59 PM | #1 |
Loved by Maddie & Libby Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: North Dakota
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| Just need to vent I am SO upset! It's a long story, but I'll try to fill you in before telling you about the weekend from hell. My son moved to a small town a couple years ago to work as an addiction counselor in a treatment center that he thinks very highly of and that has a very high success rate. It is the same treatment center we once put him in, only a different location. His girlfriend, Sarah, insisted on moving in with him, but very soon, came to hate the place. She got pregnant and left him. She is a very moody, self-centered person and when in one of her moods, treated others like crap. Well, a few months ago Tyler (my son) told me that Sarah wanted to come back with him after the baby's born. I cringed at the idea, but told myself she probably did some growing up while back with her parents and maybe things would work out. They had their darling baby girl a few weeks ago. Well, this weekend they were coming here to do Christmas shopping. Sarah walks in the door without so much as a hi...in one of her usual stinky moods. I, of course, oohed and awwed over darling little Lily. Maddie is so excited that Tyler is here as she loves him and also wanted to greet Sarah. Sarah yelled at Maddie..."Maddie, NO, Maddie, go on, get outta here..." and I called Maddie over to me. I was on the recliner holding Lily. Maddie came over and jumped up to the arm of the chair and Sarah yells, "No Maddie." I said, in a rather pissed off tone..."Maddie is just fine here...she is not hurting a thing." Even my husband was mad at the way Sarah was treating Maddie. Sarah grew up with 10 dogs in the house and cats. She must be used to them and why she hates Maddie with such a passion is beyond me. That evening my son and I went to Walmart and since I figured we'd be there a while, I left Maddie home, and knew my husband would protect her from Sarah. It was 11:30 when we got home and Tyler went downstairs to bed and I decided to do some cooking so I wouldn't have so much to do the next day. At 2 AM, Sarah comes upstairs and into the kitchen to warm Lily's bottle. She did not greet me...she acted as if I wasn't even there. She walked over to the microwave without a word. She went back downstairs without a word. Now, I'm very easy to get along with. I am the type of person who will let people walk all over me up to a point and then I get mad...and I WAS mad. Of course, I couldn't sleep a wink that night and the next day, I decided to give Sarah the cold shoulder...a taste of her own medicine. I acted just the way she had treated Maddie and I the night before. I kept Maddie away from her and found things to do around the house. She and Tyler went Christmas shopping and then to the movie and my husband couldn't believe Sarah would risk leaving Lily with us and that rotten dog! I enjoyed that part very much...Lily is so sweet and I even let Maddie sniff her, though Maddie is afraid of the baby. Go figure. LOL Sunday morn, Sarah says to Maddie, "Maddie, you look so cute today in your red dress." I thought to myself, shut up you snot...you are only saying that to get on my good side again and it ain't gonna happen...you've pushed me too far. No one comes into my home and treats my Maddie like sh*t and stays on my good side. In the 2 days they were here, poor Lily didn't have a bath. I thought babies should have a bath once a day...at least that's what I used to do. Rather than wash the bottles and nipples with soap and hot water, she just rinses them out. We bought a bassinet for Lily to sleep in when they are here and told Sarah she can take it home so there is a place for the baby to sleep on the main floor, since they live in a 2-story house and the bedrooms are all upstairs. She said she doesn't want it because she want's Lily to know what her crib is for. How ungrateful. I have bent over backwards trying to show love to her...bought all kinds of baby gifts, clothes, a baby swing, spent hours on end making her a special pergamano baby card...not so much as diddly squat from her on anything. She is a spoiled, selfish little brat and I'm afraid Tyler is in for a lot of heartache down the road. They will be back next weekend and I truly dread it. Oh glory days! Sorry this was so long...believe me, I could've written a book! I know I need to pray about this and turn it over to the Lord.
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12-18-2006, 01:50 PM | #2 |
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| well most likely she is young and having a 1st child you can be overprotective! i carried and slept with my girl until about a yr 1/2 old but not washing bottles that's gross & lazy ! i'm sure she will change alot because having a baby will do that too you and make you grow up fast as it's not about you anymore it's all about the baby! maybe while they asre tiny they can use a bassinet but i would be scared the baby would roll out of it as opposed to a crib with higher sides. she may have just freaked out and thought maddie would scratch her of jump on her get excited who knows what other people think?! well anyways you can't tell anyone anything even if you are right they always want to learn the hard way just be there for them if things go wrong!
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12-18-2006, 02:03 PM | #3 |
Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member | Connie - If I were in your shoes I would sit her butt down and tell her exactly what you just said here. NO ONE Should have to feel like they need to sidestep and tippytoe around someone in their own home especially one who's bent over backwards. You are a great grandma I already know this .....and Maddie is so well behaved that I can't see her even being a problem around a baby especially if you're right there. that girl is just being a drama queen to talk to her like that. I have to say I don't think I'd like her too much either. I LOVE my sons wife and can't imagine her acting like that. What does your son see in this moody girl I wonder ?? People who just had a baby should be on the moon .... if she's in YOUR home - you need to set down some rules & let her know what you expect so you don't have to go 'find stuff to do' in your own house. |
12-18-2006, 02:39 PM | #4 |
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| Connie- I'm so sorry you have to endure something like this!! It is hard to believe that this girl is so worried about Maddie being near Lily when she isn't bathed regularly and she isn't properly sterilizing bottles and nipples. I think I'd go along with V on this one and sit her butt down and tell it like it is. It doesn't sound like you're going to be in a winning situation here, so you might as well lay it on the line and hope for the best.
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12-18-2006, 02:50 PM | #5 |
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| I totally agree with V - lay it all out and tell her exactly what you are feeling. Maybe she's clueless and doesn't even realize how badly she's treating you. Sounds like she has ALOT of growing up to do and needs to learn some respect.
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12-18-2006, 02:58 PM | #6 |
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| GEEZ..what is she 5 yrs old.....I wouldnt tolerate her behavior either... |
12-18-2006, 03:01 PM | #7 |
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| Your poor Son I really feel sorry for him.
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12-18-2006, 03:02 PM | #8 |
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| convenient she wants to get back together now that the babys here..... |
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