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ehunney · 11-14-2006, 01:59 PM

Jess, I know this is a really tough stressfull time for you and you feel lost, but please do not let your boyfriend pressure you into something that could have negative effects years from now. The decision to have an abortion is your decision, not his and if you feel you shouldn't then that's your decision and no one elses. There are many people who have had their children and have lead, happy, healthy, successfull well rounded lives. Your a strong girl and whatever you decide you will be okay and you will get through this. I'm sending the biggest hug I can give and I'll pray for you.

chattiesmom · 11-14-2006, 01:59 PM

Sending hugs your way. My heart breaks for you. Please, trust yourself and your parents and sit down with them.... Chances are they will go ballistic at first -- so expect it. You are their baby girl and I am sure that having you carrying their grandchild at 17 is not what they had in mind for you. You might be surprised at how quickly they will throw their support behind you to help you make the right decisions for you and your precious baby.

GORJESS · 11-14-2006, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by OLIVIA_KARHIS

so he rather have you have an abortion,then for him to have a kid "just out there." yeah that is SOO wrong and makes no scent at all. I know its going to be hard.. but you need to tell your parents.. maybe they will be understanding and help you out any way they can. You never know.. My best friends dad is a deacon and she freak out when she found out.. but she took them to the church and told both her parents.. couldnt kill her in a church right?

but they where VERY understanding and helped her out any way they could... your going to have to tell them sooner or later.. Its better to get it over with and not have it eating you alive every time you see them.

I really want 2 tell them but i'm so scared that they will kick me out the house and I wont have anywhere to go. That's why i haven't told them yet.

Thorsmomma · 11-14-2006, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by OLIVIA_KARHIS

so he rather have you have an abortion,then for him to have a kid "just out there." yeah that is SOO wrong and makes no scent at all. I know its going to be hard.. but you need to tell your parents.. maybe they will be understanding and help you out any way they can. You never know.. My best friends dad is a deacon and she freak out when she found out.. but she took them to the church and told both her parents.. couldnt kill her in a church right?

but they where VERY understanding and helped her out any way they could... your going to have to tell them sooner or later.. Its better to get it over with and not have it eating you alive every time you see them.

Just becareful not to judge people. You don't know what he's thinking.

I do agree however, that it is SOOO easy for him to tell her just to do get rid of it like it isn't a big deal, cause HE doesn't have to go through it. SHE does.

Thorsmomma · 11-14-2006, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by GORJESS

I really want 2 tell them but i'm so scared that they will kick me out the house and I wont have anywhere to go. That's why i haven't told them yet.

Do you have sisters or brothers?
Do you really think they would kick you out of the house?

GORJESS · 11-14-2006, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by ehunney

Jess, I know this is a really tough stressfull time for you and you feel lost, but please do not let your boyfriend pressure you into something that could have negative effects years from now. The decision to have an abortion is your decision, not his and if you feel you shouldn't then that's your decision and no one elses. There are many people who have had their children and have lead, happy, healthy, successfull well rounded lives. Your a strong girl and whatever you decide you will be okay and you will get through this. I'm sending the biggest hug I can give and I'll pray for you.

Thanks so much

Rockster's Mom · 11-14-2006, 02:03 PM

My lil sis was in your position at the age of 17, and her BF wanted nothing to do with it. Let me tell you she was scared to death to tell our parents, but she did and they were really upset at first but helped her. She decided to have an abortion which was very hard for her to decide, but in the long run it was the right thing for HER todo. Please tell your parents, they might surprise you and be very supportive and sympathic, but do execpt some helling at first since they will be very upset and disappointed. Also, please make a decision based on what you want and what is best for you and your baby. As for your BF, tell him to take a hike, because it is obvious he does not care about you nor your baby. Good Luck!!!!!

GORJESS · 11-14-2006, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by chattiesmom

Sending hugs your way. My heart breaks for you. Please, trust yourself and your parents and sit down with them.... Chances are they will go ballistic at first -- so expect it. You are their baby girl and I am sure that having you carrying their grandchild at 17 is not what they had in mind for you. You might be surprised at how quickly they will throw their support behind you to help you make the right decisions for you and your precious baby.

it is soooooooo far from what they wanted 4 me

GORJESS · 11-14-2006, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Thorsmomma

Do you have sisters or brothers?
Do you really think they would kick you out of the house?

I have 3 brothers and 1 sister. My sister was 19 when she got pregnant and she got kicked out.

Thorsmomma · 11-14-2006, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Rockster's Mom

My lil sis was in your position at the age of 17, and her BF wanted nothing to do with it. Let me tell you she was scared to death to tell our parents, but she did and they were really upset at first but helped her. She decided to have an abortion which was very hard for her to decide, but in the long run it was the right thing for HER todo. Please tell your parents, they might surprise you and be very supportive and sympathic, but do execpt some helling at first since they will be very upset and disappointed. Also, please make a decision based on what you want and what is best for you and your baby. As for your BF, tell him to take a hike, because it is obvious he does not care about you nor your baby. Good Luck!!!!!

Yes, tell him to jump off a bridge or something!! But seriously, ignore this guy. It might even be good to cute off ties with him now. Just a thought, to cut down on your pain/hassle.

BLowry · 11-14-2006, 02:08 PM

Jess, this is your decision! You have to do what is right for you and your baby. I agree...I feel you are young to be a Mom but, not impossible. Honestly, if you were my daughter, yes, I would initally be upset but, worse things could happen. I have 2 grown daughters myself and the thought of them getting pregnant did cross my mind...I never casted stones. You really need to tell your parents, their reaction may surprise you. Have you thought about talking to a counseler, priest, phsycologist? You are bringing a little person into this world that you will cherish for the rest of yours and (his/her) life and it is your right to do what you want...Please don't let your BF pressure you into something you don't feel comfortable with..You are the one that will have to live with the decision.

HUGE HUGS to you.

Thorsmomma · 11-14-2006, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by GORJESS

I have 3 brothers and 1 sister. My sister was 19 when she got pregnant and she got kicked out.

I guess where I was going with this is could you go live with one of them if your parents kick you out?

Rockster's Mom · 11-14-2006, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by GORJESS

I have 3 brothers and 1 sister. My sister was 19 when she got pregnant and she got kicked out.

I can see why you are nevous about telling your parents. Maybe you could ask you sister for some advise on how to handle it since she has been there. Sometimes it helps to talk to some one that has been thru it and also maybe she could go with you to tell your parents.

RLC12345678 · 11-14-2006, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Thorsmomma

I guess where I was going with this is could you go live with one of them if your parents kick you out?

That is what I was thinking. What did your sister do when she got kicked out?

Tiggerwit · 11-14-2006, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by OLIVIA_KARHIS

yeah, where you can pick out the parents.. make sure they can give your baby everything he/she needs and still be able to get updates and see him/her as they grow up.

My boyfriends sister has done this. They've adopted two kids and the moms are still involved in their lives. She's a close family friend.

11-14-2006, 01:59 PM	#16
ehunney Princess Bella Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: virginia Posts: 2,186	Jess, I know this is a really tough stressfull time for you and you feel lost, but please do not let your boyfriend pressure you into something that could have negative effects years from now. The decision to have an abortion is your decision, not his and if you feel you shouldn't then that's your decision and no one elses. There are many people who have had their children and have lead, happy, healthy, successfull well rounded lives. Your a strong girl and whatever you decide you will be okay and you will get through this. I'm sending the biggest hug I can give and I'll pray for you. __________________ I miss you two more then words can express, but I still have hope that I'll find you and hold you again! Tucker and Teddy always say: "If I want it, it's mine and if I put it in my mouth, it's food."

11-14-2006, 01:59 PM	#17
chattiesmom Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Alabama Posts: 17,674	Sending hugs your way. My heart breaks for you. Please, trust yourself and your parents and sit down with them.... Chances are they will go ballistic at first -- so expect it. You are their baby girl and I am sure that having you carrying their grandchild at 17 is not what they had in mind for you. You might be surprised at how quickly they will throw their support behind you to help you make the right decisions for you and your precious baby. __________________ Silk Step-In Harnesses www.foxypups.etsy.com

11-14-2006, 02:08 PM	#26
BLowry My furkids Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 4,625 Blog Entries: 1	Jess, this is your decision! You have to do what is right for you and your baby. I agree...I feel you are young to be a Mom but, not impossible. Honestly, if you were my daughter, yes, I would initally be upset but, worse things could happen. I have 2 grown daughters myself and the thought of them getting pregnant did cross my mind...I never casted stones. You really need to tell your parents, their reaction may surprise you. Have you thought about talking to a counseler, priest, phsycologist? You are bringing a little person into this world that you will cherish for the rest of yours and (his/her) life and it is your right to do what you want...Please don't let your BF pressure you into something you don't feel comfortable with..You are the one that will have to live with the decision. HUGE HUGS to you. __________________ Brenda

11-14-2006, 02:03 PM	#22
Rockster's Mom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Fort Worth, Texas Posts: 1,279	My lil sis was in your position at the age of 17, and her BF wanted nothing to do with it. Let me tell you she was scared to death to tell our parents, but she did and they were really upset at first but helped her. She decided to have an abortion which was very hard for her to decide, but in the long run it was the right thing for HER todo. Please tell your parents, they might surprise you and be very supportive and sympathic, but do execpt some helling at first since they will be very upset and disappointed. Also, please make a decision based on what you want and what is best for you and your baby. As for your BF, tell him to take a hike, because it is obvious he does not care about you nor your baby. Good Luck!!!!!