I Hope NO ONE Takes This The Wrong Way!!!

[chloe'smom]

Originally Posted by RRRJeep861

I've seen these volitile threads a few times on here. It starts out with a fairly simple question or comment then the firworks begin. It's gotten to the point that just by reading the first post I say to myself, " oh no, she never should of said that!" and then I watch it happen. It's like dueling keyboards, some just want the last word in and can't let it drop. I've also noticed that those kind of threads are the ones with the most viewers: interesting. I've also seen the excuse that "it was said on the spur of the moment", but it takes a while to type it, which allows the sender time to think about hitting that send button. I even had to think about if I should hit the send on this because this is one of " those" threads. I must also say that there are alot of other people on hear that no matter how many times I've seen the same posts on the same subjects their always nice,because the people asking are new and the replier never forgets that ,thank you for that.

Those are my thought exactly. I didn't mean for this to be one of "those" threads, but I think that it is something we can ALL work on. I try my best to treat others the way I want to be treated. If someone is going through something on this forum and I can't give them any positive solutions, I don't post anything. Because I know that one day I am going to need positive advice for something that I may have flubbed up on. Now if I am always negative to others, how can I expect people to give me positive feed back?

[JCarlson2004]

Originally Posted by red98vett

I really think for the most part - people here are GREAT. I honestly haven't seen any rude posts but will take your word for it.

Look at the BIG PICTURE - more often than not....Threads are usually very helpful and most people really do care - This site is full of some pretty awesome people - I know here and there we'll see posts that make us shake our heads - but when you get THIS many people posting on one site - things are bound to be said that rub us wrong. Being a pretty active member... I think the site has far less controversies than it used to. IF you see someone being outright rude - maybe try pm'ing them in the future ? They may not even know it. Everyone has their own posting style...some are more blunt than others & I've seen apologies made just for that reason alone...

[red98vett]

Originally Posted by chloe'smom

Those are my thought exactly. I didn't mean for this to be one of "those" threads, but I think that it is something we can ALL work on. I try my best to treat others the way I want to be treated. If someone is going through something on this forum and I can't give them any positive solutions, I don't post anything. Because I know that one day I am going to need positive advice for something that I may have flubbed up on. Now if I am always negative to others, how can I expect people to give me positive feed back?

That was very well said and you're very right

[KiKiPie]

Originally Posted by chloe'smom

I am looking at the big picture. I am only saying that some of the apolygizing can be AVOIDED if people would just THINK before they hit that reply button. It is hard to forget that someone has hurt your feelings just because they may throw in a I'm sorry once in a while. I am not saying that people aren't sincere in apolygizing but where will it end. I will send a pm in the future, but the people who are consistently rude to others need to know that it is not cool! I am not talking about a disagreement that is handled and moved on from, I am talking about the personal attacks and that is un called for! I am talking about the threads that go on and on that are attacking people's character. I think that YOU are one of the few that know how to post a joke. I can read your posts and for some reason I can tell when you are serious and I can also tell when you are joking. Not everyone is as good at that craft as you are! Why can't we just kill the personal attacks. Up until recently, I loved this site, but now sometimes when I log on it is like WWI! Am I the only person here that sees this as a problem?

Yes I know exactly how you feel. Great post!!

[MinMuf1]

OUTSTANDING POST!!!

[txshopper73]

GREAT thread! I use to see a lot of negative threads (and partook in quite a few), but in the past few months I think those numbers have been cut down a great deal.

As far as personal attacks, maybe I'm just not on the computer as much as I use to be but I seem to miss those completely. That's probably a good thing.

But, with that said, this forum has over 11,000 members. Everyone has different personalities and come from different back grounds. But the one thing that everyone must remember is that this is just a computer. You cannot read a person's face to know if their tone of words are serious, or if they are just playing around.

I can tell someone to kiss my *** but if you can't see my face, you don't know how to take me...am I making sense?

[GeorgiesMomma]

Originally Posted by txshopper73

GREAT thread! I use to see a lot of negative threads (and partook in quite a few), but in the past few months I think those numbers have been cut down a great deal.

As far as personal attacks, maybe I'm just not on the computer as much as I use to be but I seem to miss those completely. That's probably a good thing.

But, with that said, this forum has over 11,000 members. Everyone has different personalities and come from different back grounds. But the one thing that everyone must remember is that this is just a computer. You cannot read a person's face to know if their tone of words are serious, or if they are just playing around.

I can tell someone to kiss my *** but if you can't see my face, you don't know how to take me...am I making sense?

Great post and you make total sense. I try just like Chloesmom to say something positive, and I don't think there is any room for personal attacks anywhere in life, but that is just me. However, having said that maybe I am missing something here because I don't see that too often on YT. Especially with the large group of people I think we all do pretty well. Lastly, and maybe it's because I grew up with 3 older brothers but if I post something and someone tries (tries being the operative word) to attack me personally I shake it off they don't know me personally so what do I care. I don't normally post anything personal on here really I save that for close friends and family.

[chloe'smom]

That is what I was saying, a select few are good at showing the emotion of their posts. Red98Vett is probably the best that I have seen say something jokingly and it is taken as a joke and you can also tell when she is being as serious as a drill sergeant. I am a very outspoken, smart-mouthed individual and if you don't know me you will think that I have absolutely no home training! That is just my personality. But when writing on this forum I am careful to choose my words more carefully because like you said I can say kiss my but jokingly to you but you may think, Oh No She Didn't give me her behind to kiss and thus, The Cilvil War begins.

[Jenn218]

I am glad that someone has finally decided to say something about some of the interruptions of posts and negative things that are said. Yes, we are all different (raised differently, different beliefs, etc), but commons sense and respect should take over before some people interrupt helpful posts or make some smart a$$ comment about something.....that is just not needed.

I have often wondered if spending the $20 on membership to YT was a waste of money and my time. So often, I have started reading what seemed like a very helpful and informative post, and it is either overtaken by some sort of B.S. about nothing regarding that topic or someone replies to a simple and honest question with some rude remark. Aren't we all grown, mature and responsible adults on here? (with the exception of a few)

Let's stick to spreading our love for Yorkies and helping those that do have concerns or questions!

[chloe'smom]

Originally Posted by Jenn218

I am glad that someone has finally decided to say something about some of the interruptions of posts and negative things that are said. Yes, we are all different (raised differently, different beliefs, etc), but commons sense and respect should take over before some people interrupt helpful posts or make some smart a$$ comment about something.....that is just not needed.

I have often wondered if spending the $20 on membership to YT was a waste of money and my time. So often, I have started reading what seemed like a very helpful and informative post, and it is either overtaken by some sort of B.S. about nothing regarding that topic or someone replies to a simple and honest question with some rude remark. Aren't we all grown, mature and responsible adults on here? (with the exception of a few)

Let's stick to spreading our love for Yorkies and helping those that do have concerns or questions!

WONDERFUL post. That is the word I was looking for RESPECT! Great Post!

[txshopper73]

Originally Posted by chloe'smom

if you don't know me you will think that I have absolutely no home training!

OMG! I use to use that phrase all the time! LOLOL!!!!!

[chachi]

I think there are alot of personalities on here and your gonna get alot of opinions and they are not always shared by everyone or the recipient. This forum is alot better than it used to be. I have been here before Fasteddie enforced the no personal attacks policy on here and it was alot worse then. People especially new people were attacked all the time.

[Princessyorkies]

I agree with people should watch what they say about others...expecially those they DO NOT know personally. Some on here just jump and open their mouths without knowing for sure what they are talking about. I have been on this site a while and for the most I really enjoy it here but there are times when I think about leaving because of some of the rude ones here. I had a good friend attached on here towards the last part of last year I think it was and you know what the ones slamming her have no clue what they are even talking about.
You just have to consider the sourse I guess.
Some have said it's better to not know what's going on and I do agree to a point as I don't know what situation your talking about, but just consider they are just jealous people who open their big mouths without thinking or knowing.

[wnalegria]

It is sad that people are getting their feelings hurt by a small minority. The magic word is minority.

I took a vacation from YT because of some of the things being said. At times we all seem to go off and not take a breath of fresh air to stop and look and listen to what is being said. We tend to jump in with both feet and the fight is on.

Do I have clean hands no- I got caught up in some of the ugliness also in the past. Will I be party to it again no. It was childish and uncalled for.

Some folks are just know it alls. No matter what the subject they will know all the answers and have advice for you right or wrong. Some are very good at bluffing- wonder if they play poker?

When things get heated and you are being bated- it is hard but you have to walk away. Nothing that you say will get those people to stop. PM that person who is being attacked and let them know that you support them. Just let the thread drop.

When you do not respond when someone has posted- you make it quite clear that this person is being avoided. That person may try and change their attitude because of the positive reinforcement.

Yt should not be a forum of groups competing against each other. Yt was formed as a fun and informative place for those who love the breed to meet and interact.

[Lola LaRue]

Anytime you get a group of people together, there can be misunderstandings. People have strong opinions on numerous topics and they feel that they can share them with the people on YT. There have been a few times on here where people have irritated me and I thought they were being rude. However, more often than not I just chalk it up to a difference of opinion. I have thought about taking a break from YT before, but then I think about why I am here. Livingdustmops, Villette, Kimberely(TxShopper73?) I felt personally attacked once, but I received the sweetest pm from Livingdustmops reminding me that I am here because I love my yorkie.
There are many knowledgeable people on here and I have been touched on more than one occasion by the support of the YT members. For example, when Courtney had a difficult decision to make, many YT members responded with their support. There are many different personalities on here, but thats what makes it great. I enjoy listening to other peoples opinions. I don't have to agree or disagree.