My Friend hurt my feelings!

[DianaB]

Please don't let this cause a problem in your friendship. Good friends are so hard to find. I suggest that maybe for a while you just have them come over to your house and wait until your son is a little older to go over to hers. Or maybe meet at a restaurant or park for a picnic. Let her know how sorry you are and maybe have your son draw or write a note for her. Just get this put behind you and move on.

[GeorgiesMomma]

Here are my thoughts I don't blame you for being upset by your friends reaction. It was a vase from Kirklands not imported from Thailand. I understand that everything means something to someone, but to me friendship means more than anything. My best friends son is now 8 and has broke things at my house (never intentionally) and I just clean it up and keep moving. In fact I actually just broke one of my wine glasses that I brought back from the Bellagio in Vegas. That meant something to me but whats the use of being upset about it it broke and I told my fiance' we need to go back to Vegas so I can get a new wine glass LOL! Kids can be clumsy bump into things or be curious. Now if your son delberatly gets into things constantly as your friend we would have to talk about that. However this scenario doesn't sound like it and if it were me I would have said oh well now I can get a new vase that I like better, and I would not have accepted your money accidents happen. JMO

[JeanieK]

I am so happy to hear that both of you have gotten over it. It was jsut an accident, and well sometimes things happen to test our friendships.

I'm sure that you don't let your child run wild through her house, she puts thing up so you can enjoy the visit and not have to worry. The only way to know what a 2 year old is doing at all time is to hold him on your lap at all times, And that would not make for a pleasant visit.

I don't care how old your kids are, or how well behaved they are, occasionally they do the upredictable for only God knows what reason. Kids are kids.

[GeorgiesMomma]

I don't care how old your kids are, or how well behaved they are, occasionally they do the upredictable for only God knows what reason. Kids are kids.[/QUOTE]


My sentiments exactly

[monkeyandpenut]

Im happy to hear that you guys are okay again....

[Yorkease]

Glad to hear everything between you two is better now. I would have done exactly what you did. Apologized until my throat was sore and offered what I could. I think you did the right thing. And IMHO, no one can blame a kid for being a kid.

[txshopper73]

Kids will be kids. With the size and weight of the vase, she didn't think it could be broken but as kids do, they'll prove you wrong whenever they can.

glad that you two worked it out. I'm sure she was just shocked and upset at the time.

[vainchick5]

Wow I'm really stunned that she took money from you. I have had friends come over with their kids/twins and they've broken stuff but I just laugh it off. I have a 4 year old nephew who has always been clumsy. He's never gotten into anything but he's just a cluts and trips over things. With that said, I'm sure you don't let him run wild in the house but maybe keep a better eye on him. I know it's probably annoying and makes for a unrelaxing visit but it's obvious that she gets very upset over those kinds of things.
Maybe take a playpen for your son to play in while you are there, so you know where he is at all times, and so she doesn't have to rearrange her house for your visit. Just a suggestion. It is hard though when you are the friend with no husband or kids, to be as understanding every time. Sometimes you just have a bad day and the last thing you want is a rambunctious child at your house. Just a different perspective

[erinmarie]

Originally Posted by ytsirk27

Your friendship shouldnt be ruined BUT she shouldnt have to move or arrange her stuff because of your child. I have two of my own 3 and 7 and would never expect anybody to move their stuff. The child should know better than to mess with it!! JMHO!

I'm sorry, I never believe people who claim their children never touch anything. This child was a 2 year old. That is what 2 year olds do. When my son was 2 he was the first baby in the familly and I was a nervous wreck everywhere we went to visit because no ones house was baby proofed. To expect a 2 year old to "know better" is insane.

kikipie, I'm glad your friendship is still in tact. Just be glad it wasn't something irreplaceable!

[vainchick5]

Originally Posted by erinmarie

I'm sorry, I never believe people who claim their children never touch anything. This child was a 2 year old. That is what 2 year olds do. When my son was 2 he was the first baby in the familly and I was a nervous wreck everywhere we went to visit because no ones house was baby proofed. To expect a 2 year old to "know better" is insane.

kikipie, I'm glad your friendship is still in tact. Just be glad it wasn't something irreplaceable!

I kind of disagree. I know kids will be kids but discipline starts at a young age. People's stuff shouldn't be victim to anyone's child. I think that when parents teach their kids at a young age what they can and can't do at someone elses house, it prevents more accidents. Kids are more than smart enough by 2 to understand. That is what we did with my nephew anyway. He was allowed to play but he knew what he could and could not go near. As a parent you (not you but general) have to also respect the friends house too, especially if they don't have kids. Just my opinion though, no one has to agree.

[ytsirk27]

Originally Posted by erinmarie

I'm sorry, I never believe people who claim their children never touch anything. This child was a 2 year old. That is what 2 year olds do. When my son was 2 he was the first baby in the familly and I was a nervous wreck everywhere we went to visit because no ones house was baby proofed. To expect a 2 year old to "know better" is insane.

kikipie, I'm glad your friendship is still in tact. Just be glad it wasn't something irreplaceable!

well...yes they do touch stuff..My whole point to this is maybe she should be watching him better....my kids no what to touch and not to touch and if they do touch something there not suppose to i correct them. My friend SHOULD NOT have to rearrange her whole house just because i have a kid. Parent s need to take responsibilty for their children instead of saying..oh hes 2..its ok. Its not ok...I run a daycare so i know what alot of parents do./ I have a 17 month old that tried ONCE to pull wallpaper... I said no moved her away and OH MY GOSH..she doesnt mess with it. You have your opinion and I have mine but usually how a child acts is the fault the parent! JMHO

[ytsirk27]

Originally Posted by vainchick5

I kind of disagree. I know kids will be kids but discipline starts at a young age. People's stuff shouldn't be victim to anyone's child. I think that when parents teach their kids at a young age what they can and can't do at someone elses house, it prevents more accidents. Kids are more than smart enough by 2 to understand. That is what we did with my nephew anyway. He was allowed to play but he knew what he could and could not go near. As a parent you (not you but general) have to also respect the friends house too, especially if they don't have kids. Just my opinion though, no one has to agree.

and you dont have kids....hmmm...wierd how some ppl WITHOUT kids see my point!

[vainchick5]

Originally Posted by ytsirk27

well...yes they do touch stuff..My whole point to this is maybe she should be watching him better....my kids no what to touch and not to touch and if they do touch something there not suppose to i correct them. My friend SHOULD NOT have to rearrange her whole house just because i have a kid. Parent s need to take responsibilty for their children instead of saying..oh hes 2..its ok. Its not ok...I run a daycare so i know what alot of parents do./ I have a 17 month old that tried ONCE to pull wallpaper... I said no moved her away and OH MY GOSH..she doesnt mess with it. You have your opinion and I have mine but usually how a child acts is the fault the parent! JMHO

I completely agree! I think sometimes parents are so tired that it's easier to just let the kids do what they want. But the result is sometimes having a kid that thinks its ok to abuse the pets or play with things they shouldn't.

[ytsirk27]

Originally Posted by vainchick5

I completely agree! I think sometimes parents are so tired that it's easier to just let the kids do what they want. But the result is sometimes having a kid that thinks its ok to abuse the pets or play with things they shouldn't.

WOW...did we actually agree on something! haha

[chachi]

By two my daughter had been taught that she couldnt touch things and we could go to others houses without her touching breakables