Wow I'm really stunned that she took money from you. I have had friends come over with their kids/twins and they've broken stuff but I just laugh it off. I have a 4 year old nephew who has always been clumsy. He's never gotten into anything but he's just a cluts and trips over things. With that said, I'm sure you don't let him run wild in the house but maybe keep a better eye on him. I know it's probably annoying and makes for a unrelaxing visit but it's obvious that she gets very upset over those kinds of things.
Maybe take a playpen for your son to play in while you are there, so you know where he is at all times, and so she doesn't have to rearrange her house for your visit. Just a suggestion. It is hard though when you are the friend with no husband or kids, to be as understanding every time. Sometimes you just have a bad day and the last thing you want is a rambunctious child at your house. Just a different perspective
