we just broke up

[Jaspermom]

You need to go with what your heart AND your head tell you. If you think this morning really was your fault, and your man has apologized SINCERELY for cursing at you when he KNOWS you do not like that, then talk it out and get past this, and go on and be happy.

But if this is only one in a string of incidences, you need to consider the good old "pros and cons"...Like so many before me have said: "DO NOT SETTLE". You have too much to offer, honey girl. Don't don't don't sell it short...

Luv ya!!!
xoxoxox

[stinky]

Come on now. No one here has gotten angry with someone and in the heat of the argument said “F-you”? I’m not justifying it or saying it was right, but it’s not like the guy called her a dirty whore and drug her around the house by her hair.

Sounds like they are on their way back to Luvaville, anyways. I love happy endings.

[vainchick5]

Originally Posted by stinky

Come on now. No one here has gotten angry with someone and in the heat of the argument said “F-you”? I’m not justifying it or saying it was right, but it’s not like the guy called her a dirty whore and drug her around the house by her hair.

Sounds like they are on their way back to Luvaville, anyways. I love happy endings.

I can honestly say not only have I never ever ever said F--K Y-- to anyone in the heat of the moment, especially not the person I supposedly love, but no one and I mean no one, especially not the guy who's supposed to love me, has ever said that to me in the heat of the moment. And we've definetely have had very heated moments, but we walk away and cool off then talk rationally like adults. I honestly see no difference between calling someone a dirty whore or the F word. To me it's all the same, he might as well have. The hair dragging will only happen within a matter of time when the temper can't be controlled. If someone is exhibiting these tempermental behaviors now, I would hate to see what kind of hair dragging could go on in the future. Just my opinion from observations and experiences.

[RMKC]

Very good Post Stacy !

[BabyFidgette]

Originally Posted by vainchick5

I can honestly say not only have I never ever ever said F--K Y-- to anyone in the heat of the moment, especially not the person I supposedly love, but no one and I mean no one, especially not the guy who's supposed to love me, has ever said that to me in the heat of the moment. And we've definetely have had very heated moments, but we walk away and cool off then talk rationally like adults. I honestly see no difference between calling someone a dirty whore or the F word. To me it's all the same, he might as well have. The hair dragging will only happen within a matter of time when the temper can't be controlled. If someone is exhibiting these tempermental behaviors now, I would hate to see what kind of hair dragging could go on in the future. Just my opinion from observations and experiences.

I have.

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by Lexi Rae

i dont know, i just dont know.... help me....if its for real im gonna go crazy
i really am... i got nasty with him at 5am this morning when he got up for
work and he said to me f--k y--.... i had already discussed to him i dont like that talk, its very disrespectful and he said it once again... and never apologized to me... everything is all my fault all the time.. he is a great guy
with great potential,, maybe its me... at 5am i am tired and he just got on
my nerves....he said he is coming to pikkup some of his stuff tonight at my house... im gonna die i tell ya if its for real... what do i do ? dont want to
look like a begger, but said to me on the phone that this is an excuse for me
to break up,.and its not

You are absolutely right, it is disrespectful. You asked him not to say it and he didn't respect that either. Deliberately and willfully disrespectful. Not a good situation. Arguments are one thing, disrespect is another.

Sounds to me like his not appologizing is the least of it. I know it's a tough spot to be in but a girl deserves better. Pray about it and have faith and the right man will come to you.

Have faith. If you don't have it, ask for it.

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by stinky

Come on now. No one here has gotten angry with someone and in the heat of the argument said “F-you”? I’m not justifying it or saying it was right, but it’s not like the guy called her a dirty whore and drug her around the house by her hair.

Sounds like they are on their way back to Luvaville, anyways. I love happy endings.

Never. And if any man had ever said it to he, he would have seen nothing but tail lights. Resorting to vulgarities may as well be draggin her around by the hair, it's disrespectful.

Real men don't cuss at women.

[BabyFidgette]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

Never. And if any man had ever said it to he, he would have seen nothing but tail lights. Resorting to vulgarities may as well be draggin her around by the hair, it's disrespectful.

Real men don't cuss at women.

I'm not saying this to disrespect you Jeanie (so please don't take it that way ) but, she (we) live(s) on the East coast. I truly think men are different here. And, Italian ones? Forget it.

PS. I'm Italian too.

[Bizzymammabee]

Originally Posted by BabyFidgette

I'm not saying this to disrespect you Jeanie (so please don't take it that way ) but, she (we) live(s) on the East coast. I truly think men are different here. And, Italian ones? Forget it.

PS. I'm Italian too.

LOL...Nicole you are so right. You know what I have cussed out my DH and vice versa. Some relationships can take that for what it is...blowing off steam. As long as he doesn't put his hands on me it's all good. The F thing doesn't phase me. I have been with DH for 14 years and counting and that is not something that bothers us. I think each relationship has to learn what is a no-no and where that line is that you don't cross.

If you are one that doesn't care for the language then that is something you lay out in the beginning. Part of growing together is learning the paramaters of what you will and won't tolerate in your relationship.

Not to disrespect anyone but honestly I think that the younger folks on here...especially us East Coast folks are not phased by bad language. Words and arguing don't always equate that a man/woman that will be violent. DH and I can cuss up a storm but I would never ever worry that he would put his hands on me.


Lex...girl been there and gotten up on the wrong side of the bed and been grumpy. Sometimes we just get in that mood and you know what each of us can catch a mood. So talk to him and if you feel safe and are ok with who he is then be happy.

[BabyFidgette]

Originally Posted by Bizzymammabee

LOL...Nicole you are so right. You know what I have cussed out my DH and vice versa. Some relationships can take that for what it is...blowing off steam. As long as he doesn't put his hands on me it's all good. The F thing doesn't phase me. I have been with DH for 14 years and counting and that is not something that bothers us. I think each relationship has to learn what is a no-no and where that line is that you don't cross.

If you are one that doesn't care for the language then that is something you lay out in the beginning. Part of growing together is learning the paramaters of what you will and won't tolerate in your relationship.

Not to disrespect anyone but honestly I think that the younger folks on here...especially us East Coast folks are not phased by bad language. Words and arguing don't always equate that a man/woman that will be violent. DH and I can cuss up a storm but I would never ever worry that he would put his hands on me.


Lex...girl been there and gotten up on the wrong side of the bed and been grumpy. Sometimes we just get in that mood and you know what each of us can catch a mood. So talk to him and if you feel safe and are ok with who he is then be happy.

Glad I'm not the only one! LOLOL And, I wake up on the wrong side of the bed every morning! LOL Can you imagine men up here saying Yes Ma'am and No Miss? That would be the day.

[GeorgiesMomma]

Wow I guess I found a good one then my fiance' has never cursed at me and we have been together for a few years. I have actually never had a man curse at me and vice versa. Now have I thought it in my head sure but to verbalize it never and I can get pretty hot headed at times. Oh and I am 28 too and he is 34. We never even say shut up to each other. He doesn't really curse much at all even when he is watching football (can't the same for myself though ).

[Bizzymammabee]

Originally Posted by GeorgiesMomma

Wow I guess I found a good one then my fiance' has never cursed at me and we have been together for a few years. I have actually never had a man curse at me and vice versa. Now have I thought it in my head sure but to verbalize it never and I can get pretty hot headed at times. Oh and I am 28 too and he is 34. We never even say shut up to each other. He doesn't really curse much at all even when he is watching football (can't the same for myself though ).

Everyone has their thing. DH is a good man girl I wouldn't have spent 14 years and had three kids if he weren't. Girl I am a Leo and he is an Aries...those are both firey folks. I love DH to death but the cussing doesn't bother us. We both can cuss up a blue streak but we know what is a total no-no that will be something that can't be taken back. Each couple learns what their limits are. The FU doesn't bother me but hold on if he calls me a B or tells me I am like my mamma (who is a nasty mean drunk)...lol. Those would hurt and be past that line.

Here is a good one..I know this chick that won't allow the fiance to cuss because that is disrespectful yet they can shove each other and break things.

Every relationship has it's way of doing things. I definitely would tell anyone man or woman to walk away from someone that is loose with the hands. No person should deal with that one.

You know what.... with time you get to learn and see when your spouse is having their off moment and know to avoide them and let them be them. Lexi and her man are fairly new so they are still feeling each other out. When he learns to see if she is grumpy and vice versa they will know not to pay it any mind or to just not bother to let it escalate.

[GeorgiesMomma]

Originally Posted by Bizzymammabee

Everyone has their thing. DH is a good man girl I wouldn't have spent 14 years and had three kids if he weren't. Girl I am a Leo and he is an Aries...those are both firey folks. I love DH to death but the cussing doesn't bother us. We both can cuss up a blue streak but we know what is a total no-no that will be something that can't be taken back. Each couple learns what their limits are. The FU doesn't bother me but hold on if he calls me a B or tells me I am like my mamma (who is a nasty mean drunk)...lol. Those would hurt and be past that line.

Oh don't get me wrong I curse like a sailor. I am gemini and so is he so we have split personalities or so they say. When he gets mad he gets quiet when I get mad I call my girlfriends and tell them how he has lost his mind I do think it is a regional thing for the most part, my girlfriend is single and swears it's something in the public water here because most men have zero manners and consideration LOL. Oh and you sound like my SIL call her anything but DO NOT say she is like her Momma! My nephew found that out when she punched him and put him out of her car Now that is crazy you can't curse at me but you can push me, that definitely doesn't work at all. I agree new relationships need to feel each other out and lay down what they expect from each other.

[Bizzymammabee]

Originally Posted by GeorgiesMomma

Oh don't get me wrong I curse like a sailor. I am gemini and so is he so we have split personalities or so they say. When he gets mad he gets quiet when I get mad I call my girlfriends and tell them how he has lost his mind I do think it is a regional thing for the most part, my girlfriend is single and swears it's something in the public water here because most men have zero manners and consideration LOL. Oh and you sound like my SIL call her anything but DO NOT say she is like her Momma! My nephew found that out when she punched him and put him out of her car

LOL...your SIL is a funny girl...lol. You see you know his swings and what to expect from him. Lexi and her man are in their learning/growing phase.

Girl them is fighting words and for sure would hurt like a knife if he ever dared to call me my Mamma...lol. Just like if I were to call him just like his ex nasty arse step-father....lol. We know them are no-no's with us.

[chewysmom]

Originally Posted by BabyFidgette

I'm not saying this to disrespect you Jeanie (so please don't take it that way ) but, she (we) live(s) on the East coast. I truly think men are different here. And, Italian ones? Forget it.

PS. I'm Italian too.

I got a giggle out of this! My Big Daddy is Italian and he can be a firecracker sometimes. We can fight hard and he has used profanity but so do I. We blow off steam and then make up I can be a hard ass sometimes and my hubby will just look at me, roll his eyes and announce "Oh, Robo Bitch is coming to dinner tonight" It doesn't phase me because in fact, I can be a robo bitch, LOL. It's sort of a funny joke at this point.

You never know what really goes on in a relationship between 2 people so I generally tend to refrain from passing any kind of judgement.