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|05-22-2006, 10:10 PM||#1|
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Orange County, CA
Non-Pet Owners Just Don't Get it!
I must be in the "Angry" stage of my grief over Jewel's death.
What's the most insensitive comment you've gotten about your relationship with your furbabies?
I have had comments and looks from non-pet owners that are just ugh!
They see me, ask what's wrong, I tell them, and they get the most confused look and say things like "oh, I'm sorry"... and walk away. I don't expect them to understand but I do expect people to RE-spect my feelings. My baby is not "just a dog" she is my "little girl" She is the closest thing to a human son or daughter I will ever have at 41 years old.
My boss has been great in making an exception and allowing me to bring Jewel to work with me due to her illness. When I called to let him know Jewel passed away, his response was "I'm really sorry for your loss, but I need you to come in and work on the projects for a few hours today." I was going to anyway but I wanted it to be my decision. The look he gave me when I ask for 2 hours off so I can be with Jewel when she was cremated was.... he gave me time but....
I guess I should be feeling sorry for people (both pet owners and non-owners) who don't understand the special relationship like we do with our furbabies... but I should be allow to grieve and not hide it! I feel like I'm in a secrect evil club or something!
My husband, being the smart man he is, is telling people simply that his "little girl" died. He is not volunteering that the "little girl" is a 3.5 pound Yorkie. I'm doing the same now...
|05-22-2006, 10:27 PM||#2|
Gus Is The Fuss
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: New Jersey
I'm so sorry for your loss. I was lucky since my family and friends understood how I felt about the yorkie I lost. They were upset for me. The grief I felt was so terrible I would have gone off on anyone that looked at me the wrong way so it was a good thing they did understood.
You have every right to feel the way you do. To hell with anyone that doesn't get it.
Erin & Gus Gus You lost me at stay!
"He is a good heart and a kind soul, and an angel on four feet." MW
|05-22-2006, 10:29 PM||#3|
Loved by Maddie & Libby
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: North Dakota
Oh no! I'm so sorry about your little Jewels! I didn't know she had passed. I haven't had time to be on YT much at all lately and I feel so bad having read about your sweet baby. Sending heartfelt sympathy to you and your husband along with lots of hugs. Shame on the people who can't show you support through this terrible time. My heart aches for you...I am so sorry!
Custom doggie dresses and vests
Memory is a country where I can go to see your face - but where do I go when I miss your embrace?
|05-22-2006, 11:35 PM||#4|
Mom to 6 Beautiful Furkids
Join Date: Apr 2006
This upsets me also. I always hear it is just a dog, but it is not just a dog. They are our babies, it doesn't matter weither or not they have two legs or four legs with fur and a tail, we love them the same and they mean alot to us. I am so sorry for your loss. I am surrounded by people who respect my love for my furbabies, I can't imagine what I would do if they didn't. At the very least people like non pet owners should respect and sincerely try to understand our feelings. You have every right to grieve for her, like you said she was your little girl. I am so sorry for what you are going through. Lots of prayers and hugs from me and my crew.
A dog is a furry person! http://www.dogster.com/?300866 Tracey and the gang
DestinyHarmonyScamperGracieLillieKiwi Hershey Peppi
|05-23-2006, 12:10 AM||#5|
Our Blessings R Many
Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: In the shelter of God's Loving Care.
Blog Entries: 1
My husband, being the smart man he is, is telling people simply that his "little girl" died. He is not volunteering that the "little girl" is a 3.5 pound Yorkie. I'm doing the same now...[/QUOTE]
Corrine I am so sorry for how some that don't have a furbaby in their life are with there remarks and unsensitivity to our loss's. They definately are the loosers. I have experienced the same thing from friends regarding our loss of Cassie but you know what, I still share with them that love I felt for Cassie and still do, it is an honor to Cassie to do so. I truely know what you are going through at this time, it is so hard, she was such a doll, I visited your dogster pages. I know she is happy and all healthy in a new body, giving the Lord tons of yorkie kisses and tugging at him to pick her up and give her hugs and more hugs. I hope you and Dan will think of her in this way to help you at this difficult time. With our love, Patti and Jack
|05-23-2006, 12:25 AM||#6|
Banning Thread Dictator
Join Date: Jun 2005
Blog Entries: 57
It is truly their loss for not understanding. I couldn't imagine not having a dog to love. They fill a place in our hearts that no one else can ever fill. Your memories of Jewel will be with you the rest of your lives.
Mike ~ Doting Dad to Jillie, Harper, Eddie (RIP), Lucy (RIP), Rusty (RIP) and Jack (RIP). Check us out on YouTube
|05-23-2006, 05:04 AM||#7|
YT 1000 Club Member
Join Date: Sep 2005
I'm so very sorry for your loss And the last thing you want to deal with at a time like this is the insensitivity of others. As Mike said, they are missing out. As a pet-lover (currently owned by 2 yorkies), I respect others and their decision not to own pets - some people weren't cut out to own animals and it's probably a good thing! I just with that these same people would return the respect to those of us who do love animals. Many thoughts and prayers to you both during this time of sorrow. Find comfort in the memories you hold so very dear of Jewels and know that she's playing across rainbow bridge waiting for the day you join her.
Suzi - mom to Gabby and Gage
|05-23-2006, 06:21 AM||#9|
Mommy To 3 Poochies
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: New York
I'm so very sorry for your tragic loss. I can understand how you feel because I lost my precious Katie a little over 7 months ago. I grieve for her every day. I can't even post threads about how I feel because it just hurts too much.
I'm sure that right now, your darling Jewels and my precious Katie are playing together at the Rainbow Bridge. They're probably running across a field of green grass and chasing squirrels and birds. Or maybe they're napping in the sunshine. But whatever they're doing, I know they are happy. That's the only comfort I have ... knowing that my baby is happy and safe at the Rainbow Bridge. I know I'll see her again when my times comes ... but until then, I will hold on to my dream of her playing with all of her furry friends at the Rainbow Bridge.
Dedicated To Jewels ... An Angel At Rainbow Bridge
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
Mommy Loves Codie, Tia & Baby Cali
RIP My Precious Katie - I Love You
|05-23-2006, 06:23 AM||#10|
No Longer a Member
Join Date: Apr 2005
I'm so sorry to hear of Jewel's death. Every time I read of a yorkie's death on this site my eyes tear up and I get so saddened by your losses. I understand completely about your feelings of deep sadness. I would rather spend my days with my Jack than with most people I know any day. When people don't understand about our feelings of deep loss I pitty them, that their incapable of feeling or understanding that pain. I feel those people have a hardness or coldness in their hearts and I feel a bit turned off by them. Don't ever feel you have to explain your pain, you can't explain this to a cold heart, just pitty them.
|05-23-2006, 06:32 AM||#11|
& Bailey & Bella
Join Date: Mar 2005
I understand what your saying..
I too went through this,and later I thought , those that don't understand the hurt and pain we go through when we loose a pet, don't ever know the unconditional love and bond we have shared, and to not know that feeling.. ya gotta feel sorry for them.
Rhonda, Bailey, Josie and my angel Bella Rue'
"Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened."
|05-23-2006, 06:40 AM||#12|
YT 500 Club Member
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: Chesapeake, VA
Sorry for your loss
Some people are just not as understanding. I remember when it took Remmy to have surgery on his bladder. When the tec took him from me I started sobbing. I guess because he is innocent to and he is not gonna understand why I let these people take him and cut him. When I got to work my boss asked me how my dog was and I started sobbing...I could not control it. I know they all think I'm nuts. Oh well no one can ever understand the kind of bond that you develop with your furbaby. Again sorry for you loss.
|05-23-2006, 07:06 AM||#13|
Donating YT 30K Club Member
Join Date: Oct 2005
Blog Entries: 6
I truly feel that those type of people are just insensitive in every way. Until you have experienced the love of a pet you can not imagine the loss and they just don't get it and never will. We are all here for you and most of us have been through this one or multiple times and it never gets easier each one holds a specila piece of our hearts.
Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08
|05-23-2006, 07:49 AM||#14|
Donating YT 500 Club Member
Join Date: Aug 2004
I completely understand..... and no, some people just don't "get it". But you know what.... it's their loss.
I went through some major grieving when we had to put down our 15 yr. old toy poodle a couple years ago (and yes, this happened on a Sunday and I had to take off work Monday - my boss was very sympathetic). My husband was just as upset. It actually shocked me at how incredibly hard I took it. Our immediate family understood completely and were truly worried about me. A few of my friends understood how I was feeling also but only the real animal-lover friends truly understood.
I'm so sorry for your loss. You know that you can find honest sympathy and understanding here any time!