He doesn't want me but doesn't want to be without me either.

[Lilah Charm]

Please keep running. Do not go back. It doesn't ever stop, him expecting he can leave you in a position and have you still waiting with a plate of cookies and a clean bed to sleep in, a few bucks for a pack of smokes and an @$$ to tap. He is a liar and even if he believes his own lies you cannot. Don't let him use you like that, it is so selfish of him, trying to manipulate your emotions to mask his shameful misuse of you. Next thing you know you have his babies and when he says he's bringing pull ups he ends up at the bar, pops in every few months so the kids and you can shower him with love and adoration telling him how much you missed him and when his ego is full he will leave again until he has been rejected and hurt so many times elsewhere he comes running to your forgiving open arms. Close them and turn around. Run far away and give yourself the worth you deserve. Don't ever see this man again, the brokenness he has inside of himself that allows him to act that way is not your fault or your problem and you can never fix him. Decide what is important to you and stick with it, you truly deserve more so start acting like it and reject scum like him. Seriously- make a list and be more discerning, allowing that kind of emotional manipulation and abuse in your life is so damaging to you and everyone who cares about you. Start caring more about yourself and elevate your standards. Stop feeding the beast of his own mental illness and perpetuating a social cycle with ego inflated £u€¥€£$ like him. There are entirely too many self righteous, self serving, inconsiderate jerks like him around and even one more moment of your day should not be spent fueling his ego.

[capt_noonie]

How do you block someone? I know how on fb but not on phones. I have every spelling of my A-hole ex's name blocked on fb.

[Bentleysmom1985]

Originally Posted by capt_noonie

How do you block someone? I know how on fb but not on phones. I have every spelling of my A-hole ex's name blocked on fb.

I have an iphone. So I just go to contacts>Contacts name and then on that window it says block caller.

So when they send you a message, it will go through on their phone but you will never get it. And when they call you, it goes straight to voicemail, but you will never get this voicemail.

This is good because they don't realize you are not grtting anything, they will feel ignored and leave you alone.

If you don't have an iphone, you can google or look on youtube "how to block someone on xxx phone"

[matese]

I have to agree with everyone that responded. You are a smart gal, do not lower your standards to be just a booty call. You need to move on, find someone that is worthy of you. Wonderful that you block him from all contacts. As women sometimes we get weak, want to believe what they tell us, but this jerk made it more then very clear what he wants from you, sex, nothing more, nothing less. He wants his cake and eat it too, BS to that I say. Stay strong, no is no. Move on, there are many good men out there, you will find yours. (((hugs)))

[Bentleysmom1985]

It has been 3 days since I blocked him, I thought the first day was going to be the worst but it feels just as bad.

I wish I didn't know about the other girl. That's one of the things that makes everything harder, missing him and knowing he's with someone else ....

Like they say.. Ignorance is bliss ... Wish I didn't know

[Silver Lace]

Shouldn't that fuel the flames of your passionate anger towards him; knowing that he cares so little for you that he IS with another woman? It sure would me. It sounds like maybe you are weakening. Please don't do that. Stay strong and keep listening to all the good advice others have been willing to share with you. I understand from what you said that you are missing him so that must mean, to me anyway, there was a good relationship at some time with him. But he is ending it as you said. He does not want you but does not want you to be happy without him.

[capt_noonie]

He is being totally disrespectful to the other woman too! This guy is basically just a POS. Leave him blocked. To me, as a person who doesn't know you, it seems you are attracted to A holes. Many women find "bad boys" appealing but honestly it's not a good idea.

[Bentleysmom1985]

Please know that everyday I come here and re read all of your advice. It's been hard and trying to keep busy.

The days go by slow and hoping for the day that I dont care anymore

[matese]

Get out, take puppy to doggie park, go where there are ppl. Staying home makes one dwell on the past, the good times, then we get weak. Idle time on your hands is no good. Take the puppy for a car ride. Find a state park with in driving distance from you, walk the trails of the park with the pup. You have to keep your self busy, keep your mind occupied. Take the pup to town, window shop, just get out of the house and do something, anything that will keep your mind off what was, focus of the future, what are your goals, what you want you want from life and work for that goal. Your puppy is your companion, your partner, your buddy, take him someplace and have a bit of fun with him. Stay busy, days will fly by. Stay STRONG. (((hugs)))

[Bentleysmom1985]

The first 3 days were terrible, I did push myself to be out there but I felt so weak, I just wanted to be in bed ... Watch tv and sleep. I didn't even have motivation to study.

Today I feel better, motivated to go to the gym and get a lot of things done I've been meaning to do for awhile.

Not even a week has passed since the last time I talked to him, and it feels like a month ...

I know it will get better and it takes time. But at the moment time is going by slowly

Thanks!

[Russpilot]

Yup, as a guy I can tell you right now that there is nothing positive to be gained in communicating in any way with this guy. There is no upside in having him in your life.

[Silver Lace]

I know time must be going slow for you but you are doing great. Just keep it up and it will get better. He would love to know you are suffering without him like you said you were doing the first three days. It would boost his ego for sure to know or think you can't make it without him but you CAN.

[richards6402]

It's going to take some time to get over this guy. Please don't think within a week you will be over him but I hope each day it gets easier. Keep yourself busy and put one foot in front of the other each day. We all have had things happen in our life where we didn't want to get out of bed in the morning but you have to push yourself to go on with your life even if you don't feel like it. Keep plugging one day at a time and don't give in and let him back into your life. You so deserve better than he is capable of giving you.

[DBlain]

each day will get easier, why not type out all the things you hate or dislike about him, LOL make yourself remember the bad not the good, take up a new hobby, join a gym, take a yoga class, take a craft class, take a trick training class for pups, just keep making your self do fun stuff

[capt_noonie]

Writing everything you hate about him is a great idea! I wonder what is it about him that makes you lonely? You have not said one positive thing about him in this whole thread.