Aughhh Stupid Men

[livingdustmops]

Originally Posted by minniemn

livingdustmops- I love that saying... "we all create our own path" I am going to print that out and put it up by my desk.... (if you don't mind) that is such a true statement, one that makes you think.

I would be honored if you put that on your desk. It has taken me many years to understand I must make my own happiness and not depend on other people to do it for me. I also understand I can not blame anyone else for the path's I have taken. Life is the journey.

Words to Live By

"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "...holy sh$t...what a ride!"

[KimMee's Mom]

ok heres my two cents- You can't expect someone to know what you are thinking (which was said in previous posts). If you expect something, then you are going to have to tell him your expectations. You said you have been together for 3 years. Well, unforunately after time you do start to take things for granted. I am not saying this is good or you should put up with it, I just think we get in a pattern of give and take from each other. I think a very good book is the old Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. I have been married 32 years and believe me, there are still hurt feelings and not getting it right. good luck with communicating.

[yokie]

honey you need not follow everyone else's experiences, follow your heart and let him know how you truely feel about the situation. let it be your experience.

[Zeus' Mom]

Originally Posted by rrosenberry

Well not to be mean or hurt you, BUT I just read the book.. He's just not that into you.. You should get it, it is by a man, and it has all the excuses men use,and he says If they are INTO you they don't make all the excuses, etc.
I'm realistic And I know s@*! happens, so ya can't be 100% happy all the time, but if he is just your BF and your unhappy,,, think about it,, imagine it 10-20 years from now. Stuff to consider,, I've been there,, with one for almost 10 years,,and I look back now,, and say " why did I waste all that time" I knew then how he was,,and I see him around and we chat, and hes married w/ 2 kids,,and he is still the same LOSER.. and I thank GOD I'm not his wife.

That is a great book and I agree. If a man is really in love with you, there is no limit to what he will do. He probably knows that you aren't going anywhere and thinks he has no reason to worry. I think you should make him worry and show him that you are too good for the way you are being treated.

[minniemn]

Originally Posted by yokie

honey you need not follow everyone else's experiences, follow your heart and let him know how you truely feel about the situation. let it be your experience.

I don't think anyone expects anyone to do what anyone of us did- we are just sharing our thoughts and experiences, it gives the person asking the question things to think about and apply them to their lives the way they see fit. Which I am assuming is what the person wants or they wouldn't post for suggestions, help, ideas ect.

envrobear- I hope it all works out for you, let us know what happens... and know that no one is telling you to do this or that, we were just sharing what happened to us and what we learned from it... it is your life and you are in the drivers seat.

livingdustmops- I love those sayings that make you think... I am also going to post it in my kitchen so everyone in the family sees it daily- and they can apply to their life how they see fit... we are building an office here, and all the pictures have inspirational messages on them, I love those things... thanks for sharing

[livingdustmops]

Originally Posted by livingdustmops

Words to Live By

"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "...holy sh$t...what a ride!"

Okay, I did leave out the part of skid in sideways with a martini in one hand and a box of chocolates in the other,

But these are things I love...

[yokie]

Originally Posted by yorkiemom1970

I agree totally with your grandmother...and my husband can be a real "task" at times to figure out. We don't share alot of the same interests which has been tough through the years. He loves to race. And he has done well (very well) with it. It's just not my thing. The traveling, the loud cars, the smell, the people... And sometimes I wonder, am I where I am supposed to be? All I want to do in life is raise my babies now and then and just be happy! He does support me with my dreams, but his always seem to be top on the list. I spend alot of my time alone during the months of March-November due to his traveling with the Southern Circuit, Carolina Coalition...long story. But in the end I have to support him just the same as I want to be supported. Sometimes...I just don't know why?

its good that yall support one another.

[yorkiemom1970]

Originally Posted by yokie

its good that yall support one another.

Why thank you Yokie. It's been a long hard road, but yes we do! As a matter of fact, he has become quite the yorkie lover himself. So much that he wants to talk about them too, even setting up his own account here, and staking his claim to one of my recent pups, River. LOL!

"Aughh stupid men", gotta love em regardless!