Ladies?

[dawn27]

Here are a few things you may want to consider before you make up your mind on what to do:

Do you think that she knows that you are in love with her?

If not, how do you think that will effect your friendship with this women once she figures it out?

Do you want her to know?
(If you do not want her to know, than giving her an expensive gift and a some what lesser gift to the other girl will cause suspicion)

Are you prepared for what may come next if the bf knows of your feelings?

How long are you willing to put your feeling aside while lavishing her in gifts while sitting back and watching her date other men ?

Not trying to be mean just giving you some things to think about.

Love is an amazing and wonderful gift in and of itself. But if that love comes with a price meaning that she will never be yours. Than is it worth loving that person if it means to sacrifice yourself finding true Love.

[DadofJude]

Originally Posted by bWY39

You are a man in love, that in itself is a blessing.
I hope you have the ability to nurture that love, cultivate it and make it grow as love should grow.

My final advice to you is this.

Never allow material things to cloud the true meaning of love.

Good Luck

I will take that advice Thank you!

[DadofJude]

Originally Posted by dawn27

Here are a few things you may want to consider before you make up your mind on what to do:

Do you think that she knows that you are in love with her?

If not, how do you think that will effect your friendship with this women once she figures it out?

Do you want her to know?
(If you do not want her to know, than giving her an expensive gift and a some what lesser gift to the other girl will cause suspicion)

Are you prepared for what may come next if the bf knows of your feelings?

How long are you willing to put your feeling aside while lavishing her in gifts while sitting back and watching her date other men ?

Not trying to be mean just giving you some things to think about.

Love is an amazing and wonderful gift in and of itself. But if that love comes with a price meaning that she will never be yours. Than is it worth loving that person if it means to sacrifice yourself finding true Love.

-No, I don't think she knows.
-I don't think it would affected to be honest.
- I don't care if she does I just don't want to disrespect her current relationship.
-I am completly prepared for him to know I actually think he already does and he doesn't seem to care.
-The last question made me think... I don't think im lavishing her with gifts my gifts to her are usually more thoughtful than expensive just thinks she mentions she likes/loves. The dating the other guy well I think I love her.. everything about her and I just want her to be happy but yes that hurts that she is with him and I am just silently waiting... idk...

[dawn27]

Originally Posted by DadofJude

-No, I don't think she knows.
-I don't think it would affected to be honest.
- I don't care if she does I just don't want to disrespect her current relationship.
-I am completly prepared for him to know I actually think he already does and he doesn't seem to care.
-The last question made me think... I don't think im lavishing her with gifts my gifts to her are usually more thoughtful than expensive just thinks she mentions she likes/loves. The dating the other guy well I think I love her.. everything about her and I just want her to be happy but yes that hurts that she is with him and I am just silently waiting... idk...

Sorry to go all wannabe therapist on you!

I appreciate your honesty, being honest with yourself is one of the most important thing in life and in any relationship. It is also one of the hardest things to do. I hope that we were able to help you in some way.

Have a wonderful valentines day!!

[rubymoon2072]

ok so how did it go....im dying for an update????

[dawn27]

Yes, Do Tell . .. .!!

[roseslevi]

and?????

[DadofJude]

I gave it to her and she jump on me and hugged me, thanked me several times. lol and then after our time together came to a close. She texted me thanking me again and saying she was out of words and she knew she was blessed to have me in her life. Nothing but friendship there.. I think I will shy away now.. although my feelings are very strong it would be a mistake to loose the friendship.

[dawn27]

I'm glad that you had a nice v' day celebration with your "friend".

You know they say that the relationships that last the longest are those who became friend first !! I think taking a step back is the right decision and who knows you may get the chance to go beyond the friend zone one of these days!!

thanks for the update...

[DadofJude]

Originally Posted by dawn27

I'm glad that you had a nice v' day celebration with your "friend".

You know they say that the relationships that last the longest are those who became friend first !! I think taking a step back is the right decision and who knows you may get the chance to go beyond the friend zone one of these days!!

thanks for the update...

Who knows and thank you guys for the opinions

[celstu1]

Im marry my fiance in 1 month. We've been together for 4 years.... but we were friends for about 7 years before that! So you never know what 'friends' can turn into!

Our vday sucked! I had the norovirus, how horrible. My fiance gave me 2 beautiful orchid plants and a card. I, well I never got up enough to get anything for him! My poor babe! I'm going to make or take him to a nice dinner tomorrow night after we drop off the kids with their mom. Hes so amazing! He went and got us (my bro was staying with us and had it too) vitamin water, ginger ale and various other things we were too sick to get ourselves.