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01-31-2012, 06:53 PM | #1 |
Donating YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Hamilton, Ontario, Canada
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| I need your prayers!!! I will try to make this as short as I can. In 2007 my daughter was diagnosed with anorexia. Due to lack of medical treatment for eating disorders here in Ontario Canada my child became so ill that for most of 2009 she was in hospital and we almost lost her twice. Prior to being hospitalized her doctor and counsellor asked me to quit a high paying job that I loved as my DD needed 24hr supervision. She was becoming very ill and with no support available from the medical community the job of keeping her alive fell to me. I had been off work for a year due to a serious medical issue myself and had only been back to work for weeks when I left to care for my child. In April she couldnt bear the pain any longer and at age 15 attempted suicide, because I was home I discovered her attempt very quickly and at that point they hospitalized her for the first time. She spent months in the hospital and was getting worse. I lived there almost 24 hours a day sleeping in a chair. This was at the request of the hospital because the level of monitoring she required could not be provided. Due to lack of medical care I was living off my line of credit so that I could do what they could not, I was told that there was no money in their budget to provide constant nursing. In total combining lost income and the out of pocket costs for everything that they couldnt offer that she required our family lost over 80,000 dollars. Due to our tax laws most of it we couldnt claim. In October she was dying and they could no longer keep her alive. If she wasnt transferred to a residential treatment center in the U.S. she would only have days before she succumbed to complications from the eating disorder. Her heart was failing and her organs were starting to shut down. We tried feeding tubes and I.V. as a way of providing nutrition but she was so sick that the illness would make her sick and she couldnt keep anything down. I even stopped sleeping so that I could get fluids into her via the feeding tube when she slept so that it wouldnt trigger the illness. So in October she went to Utah. I had to pay for all the travel costs and any other costs besides the basic cost of the per dium fee the centre charged our health care system. We are currently in serous debt. I have only been able to find a job working three days a week as I am limited by my own medical issues. We never go out there are ZERO take out or restaurant dinners and I spent almost nothing. I use coupons and price match and we eat what is on sale. I was okay with this. I knew that God helps those who help themselves and I maintain a positive outlook. I count my blessings everyday and I thank Him everyday for all that I do have. I think I hit my breaking point today. I got a letter from Revenue Canada ( the canadian version of the IRS). Somehow they managed to conclude that I owe them 3100 dollars. The letter said that if I dont pay that they will take it from my pay before I even get my pay cheque. How is it possible to make almost nothing but owe 3100 dollars? I am sure that I will hear from friends and family that it must be a mistake and that it will be fine but I have no faith in our government. There was a time in my life when I believed that our system would never allow my daughter to almost die simply because her illness lacked funding. I never thought that I would have to lose so much just to keep her alive. I have been treated so horribly by any person I have had to deal with from our government and when I was begging them to help my child I was actually told that she wasnt sick enough and I was trying to get them to do my job for me that I was her Mother not them!!! So yeah no faith in them at all. I need prayers. The letter said that they are going to take this money right off my pay cheque. I have so little already and I dont know what I am going to do. We have managed to hold onto our house through this hell but this may be the end. I might just be losing what I have left. I need a miracle, I am scared and I was holding on by thread before this. My DD is getting sick again and now with this too I dont know how much more I can take before I crumble.
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01-31-2012, 07:08 PM | #2 |
I♥PeekTinkySaph&Finny Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Baltimore, Maryland
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| I'll pray for you and your family... it's always darker before the dawn...
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01-31-2012, 07:39 PM | #3 |
Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: New York
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| I'm praying for you and your daughter. |
01-31-2012, 08:29 PM | #4 |
YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dallas, Texas
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| Praying for you and your family. |
01-31-2012, 08:33 PM | #5 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | I am so sorry for all you have been going through. I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers.
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01-31-2012, 09:06 PM | #6 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: At Home
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| I am so very sorry for all you and your daughter are going thru. Plese know that I am sending my prayers your way. Sending hug's to you as well.
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01-31-2012, 10:27 PM | #7 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: FtWorth,TX,USA
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| Here in the US we have people that specialize in Tax problems (Public Accountants). Would you possibly have someone like that there and would one of your friends there maybe specialize in TAX help. My DH was PA for several years and did nothing but write letters to the IRS and try to straighten out Tax problems. Can a letter be written asking for clarification? If there was an oversite on your part in the past,you could be looking at alot of penaltys and interest (at least that is how it works here). Sometime here an extention can be asked for until something can be worked out. You need professional help with this,especially if you dont think that you made a mistake. I am so sorry about your DD,you are describing someone in my family as well. This is an illness that alot of people dont see as an illness. My heart goes out to you. |
01-31-2012, 10:42 PM | #8 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Chandler, AZ, USA
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| Prayers being said for you and your family. I pray that you have the strength to get through this and things get better soon. |
02-01-2012, 03:34 AM | #9 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Chessington, Surrey, UK
Posts: 5,062
| Tina21 - My heart truly goes out to you. Why is it that stuff like this always seems to happen when we're at our lowest? In the UK, we have a free service called The Citizens Advice Bureau who will go into this kind of problem very thoroughly for you - do you have anything like this? Would you be elligible for Legal Aid as you're on a low income? I'm so sorry, I don't know how your system works. You have got to stay strong for your daughter, as you have been doing - please don't crumble now. Are there any charities that might be able to help you? We seem to have charities for almost everything over here - most of which are only to willing to help people going through extreme circumstances. In the meantime, a great big hug and lots of prayers from me Sally x |
02-01-2012, 04:49 AM | #10 |
Luv my 7 Furkids Donating Member | Im so sorry, you and yours will be in my prayers. |
02-01-2012, 06:42 AM | #11 |
Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator | I'm so sorry for all that you and your daughter are going through, it's just heartbreaking. You said your daughter is getting ill again, do you think she is relapsing? Have you tried any of the eating disorder scholarships in the US, where their treatment is paid for by the institution?
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02-01-2012, 06:45 AM | #12 |
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| I am so sorry for what you are going through, both financially and especially with your precious daughter. I pray that God will give you strength and that he will heal your daughter.
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02-01-2012, 09:28 AM | #13 |
Our Blessings R Many Donating Member | God so provides for us in our time of needs, praying you too will see this in your life soon. I am so sorry for all that has happened, most important of all I pray for the health and well being for your dear daughter and for your self in healing of illness that you are both having. Power of Prayer here with many of the Yorkie Talk Family are powerful, I personally have witnessed Miracles through each and everyones prayers in our lives. I find that it is not easy to understand life's happenings but to lean on God for HIS Wisdom and HIS will in my life, guess it's not meant to understand the why's in life, upon waiting for things to turn around, I am always drawn closer to God, and can feel Jesus picking me up and carrying me through the trials that come my way. Do you have relatives in the U.S? Please check into what Wylie's Mom posted. God's Blessings to you and your family. Hugs, Patti and Jack |
02-01-2012, 09:37 AM | #14 |
Our Blessings R Many Donating Member | Wylie's Mom can you please delete the second posting sorry that happened I am having problem logging in and also posting Thank you. Patti and Jack |
02-01-2012, 12:26 PM | #15 |
Donating YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Hamilton, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 408
| Thank you so much for your kind words and support. I am reading these while here at work and am in tears. Sadly there is no help for famlies that are struggling with a child with an eating disorder. There are a couple of places that offer group support by in a pretty limited fashion and there is ZERO financial help. In fact I submitted 15,000 dollars in expenses that were validated as essential by the medical community and provided highly detailed letters from my DD's doctors and the center in Utah and only 3,000 was deemed valid by the government. I am calling Revenue Canada on Friday (my next day off) to ask how they decided I owe them and if they insist on me paying this amount if there is a way to pay slowly so that we dont have to look at selling off our belongings. I am less devestated today and have been having LONG talks with God and asking him for strength. Thank you again for your prayers. They mean more to me than you will ever know. Tina
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