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04-05-2011, 12:19 PM | #1 |
Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Central Texas
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| Mom's funeral was this morning I attended my mother's funeral this morning. I have to say that I have never been this sad in my entire life. I made it through and am home now. It was the most beautiful funeral I've ever attended. My two brothers and a cousin spoke about her with the most beautiful words I have ever heard. The flowers were absolutely stunning! She had more visitors than we could ever have expected. She was well-liked by her community. Also, I had so many friends that came, too. It does a heart good! I'm wondering what I will do tomorrow. Since 1997, I've been taking care of parents. What will tomorrow bring????? I don't know what to do with myself when I get out of bed in the morning. No phone calls from a caregiver, no ordering medicine, no making phone calls to Hospice, no more lifting.......and so on. I can't just sit around the house or clean the house everyday. I don't want to end up being a Stepford Wife. Maybe I should give myself a little time to just sit back and rest, but I've forgotten how to do that. Again, thanks to everyone who kept me and my family in their thoughts and prayers.
__________________ "Betty Boop" The light of my life & the joy of my living! |
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04-05-2011, 12:22 PM | #2 |
Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: S. W. Suburbs of Chicago, IL
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__________________ “Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.” Mark Twain |
04-05-2011, 12:25 PM | #3 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker | I'm glad you had your family and such a wonderful turnout for your mom. I know what you mean about taking care of parents -- it becomes your identity and suddenly it's over. I cleaned house -- my house was cleaner than it ever was before and hasn't ever been since. Why not go on a trip? Pack yourself and Betty Boop into your car and go visiting? When you get to Southern California, come and see me! |
04-05-2011, 12:34 PM | #4 |
T. Bumpkins & Co. Donating YT Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: New England
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| I know it is hard I second the vacation idea! It's the cure for the blues...
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04-05-2011, 12:41 PM | #5 |
Ultimate Banner! Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: US
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| My heart goes out to you. ((((hugs)))) I think a little time to recoup is a good idea. You never know what window God may be getting ready to open for you.
__________________ Bitsy loves Sophia and Peyton |
04-05-2011, 12:42 PM | #6 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: California
Posts: 449
| It sounds like you had a beautiful celebration of her life. She sounds like she was a wonderful woman, and how lucky you were to have had her in your life. My thoughts and prayers are with you. |
04-05-2011, 12:57 PM | #7 |
BANNED! Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Illinois
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| Time is theb est healer. Again, so sorry for your loss. Just make sure you take care of yourself. |
04-05-2011, 02:06 PM | #8 |
Donating YT 100K Club Member & Top YorkieTalk Poster! Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: western KY
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| I am so sorry it is a rough road but you can make it and you have lots of friends here to help anytime you need us
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04-05-2011, 02:16 PM | #9 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Toluca Lake, CA
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| I am glad your mother had a beautiful funeral a fitting tribute to the most special woman in your life. Take time to relax and nurture yourself. If you need someone to care for there is always another Yorkie. All my best to you during this time of loss and rebuilding.
__________________ CarolynBuster Brown "The happiest people don't have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything." |
04-05-2011, 02:23 PM | #10 |
LoveMy2 Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: East Tennessee
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| Do something for yourself. You have our thoughts and prayers for healing. |
04-05-2011, 02:25 PM | #11 |
♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas
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| I know how you feel. For the longest time, you will find yourself still starting to reach out your hand to rub her hair again and you catch yourself......reality returns. It is so hard when it really is finally over and tomorrow looms without Mom. But, with the grace God gives us, somehow we do go on and quietly, so that you don't notice, life has this way of keeping us going moment by moment until we come through the worst of these days of loss. Just go ahead and grieve and rest, and you will know when it is time again to take a step onward. You and your family are in my prayers.
__________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis |
04-05-2011, 03:02 PM | #12 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Long Island, New York
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| I understand your deep sadness when it involves the loss of someone as sacred as a mom and when part of your identity involves caring for someone so dear. You will always be her daughter, someone who was loved deeply by her. I lost my mom 35 years ago and we were extremely close. After all of these years I still dream about and think of her a great deal, so I know how powerful a mother's love remains. It will sustain you, even in this time of grief. I know you are lost, and I certainly understand why. Please allow us to help you with the pain you feel. You are not alone.
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04-05-2011, 03:14 PM | #13 |
YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Massachusetts/Florida
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| My deepest sympathies are with you and your family. Take some time for yourself. Healing takes time and only you can decide whats the next step for you.
__________________ LD that's me and Pasquale "If at first you don't succeed, then skydiving is definitely not for you!" |
04-05-2011, 03:22 PM | #14 |
I♥PeekTinkySaph&Finny Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Baltimore, Maryland
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| Oh I got chills and tears reading your post. Funerals are very hard, going from happy memories of the past to the pain and sadness of a beloved's departure. Your Mother sounds like she was a wonderful person and will be missed by many. I've kept you and your family in my prayers since I read your first post about your Dear Mother, and I will continue to pray for you as you begin to heal from your loss. Try to think of things you've wanted to do but couldn't, due to your commitments. Spend a day relaxing (or two). Breathe deeply, and smile, knowing now that you have a very Special Angel watching over you... and that she will always be with you... Hugs and love to you, Kathy
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04-05-2011, 03:25 PM | #15 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: E. Falmouth, Mass
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| First I would like to say how very sorry I am at the passing of your mother....my deepest sympathies. You have a special gift that will always make you smile when you think of your mom..... memories. You also have the satisfaction of knowing how much you gave of yourself, taking such good care of her. I would also suggest that you do something special for yourself, even if it as simple as getting a manicure or reading that book. Do take care of yourself...sending hugs.
__________________ Rosemarie, Levi and Lily "The purity of a person's heart can be quickly measured by how they regard animals" ~ Anonymous |
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