Mom's funeral was this morning

[dexterandalana]

i am glad it was a beautiful rememberance of her life. Who knows what is in store for you in the next stage of your life but take some time for you now! all i can say for certain is that there will be a piggie in your near future

love to you and your family at this difficult time!

[Connie]

My heart just breaks for you. It seems it's after the funeral when it really sets in that they are gone. When I lost my Mom, all I did was sleep and eat. It's been 4 years and I still miss her so much. Life is never the same.

I'm praying for God to comfort you and I'm thinking of you! *HUG*

[Sammy Mommy]

This is such a difficult thing to go thru. You have to take care of yourself. My Dad came to live with us while in hospice care. After he passed away the house seemed so quiet and empty. I missed taking care of him. Take time to grieve, to heal. Remember all of your cherished memories of your Mom. Sending prayers and hugs to you.

[bella_mia_hairy]

My deepest Sympathies to you and your family.

It is always very hard to lose someone you love, and even harder when you were their caregiver for so long... My mother and I were both caregivers to both of my grandparents the same as you...Take one day at a time it is hard to adjust, but in time the pain you feel today will slowly go away...

My grandparents have now been gone 11 and 13 years and I still find myself picking up the phone to talk to them and realize they are not with us.
Just know that each day it gets a little bit better Always Remember the love and good times that you shared with them, and they will live on in you!!

[linda44]

Im glad to hear it was a beautiful ceremony. It gives some sort of closure. Now just take care of you.

[Lil Sis]

Originally Posted by boopster

I'm glad you had your family and such a wonderful turnout for your mom.

I know what you mean about taking care of parents -- it becomes your identity and suddenly it's over. I cleaned house -- my house was cleaner than it ever was before and hasn't ever been since.

Why not go on a trip? Pack yourself and Betty Boop into your car and go visiting? When you get to Southern California, come and see me!

and to Florida to visit me

[yorkieusa]

Originally Posted by boopster

I'm glad you had your family and such a wonderful turnout for your mom.

I know what you mean about taking care of parents -- it becomes your identity and suddenly it's over. I cleaned house -- my house was cleaner than it ever was before and hasn't ever been since.

Why not go on a trip? Pack yourself and Betty Boop into your car and go visiting? When you get to Southern California, come and see me!

I cleaned house like that, too.

Your mother sounds like she was a wonderful and very beloved woman. We all knew that, because you are her daughter. You will be very lost for a long time, but you will evaluate the priorities in your life and eventually decide which things appeal to you to fill your time. That little one will keep you pretty busy anyway. Grief is a long process. Be kind to yourself. I think it helps that the weather is nice so you can get out for walks with your little one. I think it's even harder in the winter.

[Wylie's Mom]

Lila, the way you described your Mom's funeral is very touching. I'm really glad for you that her funeral and eulogies were so meaningful. I'm so sorry for all that you're going through, and all that you've been through.

Like you said - give yourself time to rest, and to grieve.

[Armani Alexis]

Very sorry for you loss, find comfort in all of the special moments you shared...

[MauiGirl]

Lila, I am so happy that the funeral was a nice tribute to your mom. Being surrounded by friends and family at such a time does lift you up.

Nothing in life prepares us for grieving, and I hope you will seek a grief counseling group, or counseling from a pastor if you have one (hospice can refer you to one). They can help you thru this very hard time, as you get ready to discover your own life.

Start a journal where you can "talk" to your mom, and know that she will hear you.

Hugs to you.

[dispatcher]

You are in my thoughts and prayers I lost my mom 30 yrs ago and still miss her dearly. Time will help heal the pain.

[LunasMomma]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom Please accept my condolences.

I liked the suggestion of a little trip, that might help to re-center yourself, and hopefully help your heart to heal some. Maybe after a little while, you could volunteer somewhere, working with children, animals, or the elderly.

Whatever you decide to do, know that your Mom is always with you in your heart!

[ladyjane]

Just seeing this thread. Lila, I am sorry...I did not realize your mom had passed. Sounds like her funeral was touching....I am glad you have good memories of it. I believe that funerals are for the living... a way for us to begin the grieving process. Take care of yourself.
Listen to the quiet voices ... you will be led to something that will fulfill you.
*hugs*

[celstu1]

I am so sorry for your loss. This is more than the loss of a parent, this may seem like a loss of identity. I'm sure this will be temporary though. You sound like such a strong person and I'm sure after a time of rest and grieving you will find all kinds of things to fill your time. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[enchilila]

Originally Posted by MauiGirl

Lila, I am so happy that the funeral was a nice tribute to your mom. Being surrounded by friends and family at such a time does lift you up.

Nothing in life prepares us for grieving, and I hope you will seek a grief counseling group, or counseling from a pastor if you have one (hospice can refer you to one). They can help you thru this very hard time, as you get ready to discover your own life.

Start a journal where you can "talk" to your mom, and know that she will hear you.

Hugs to you.

Hospice has a group that meets the 2nd Thursday of each month. They provide counseling, meals, group sessions and fellowship. I'll be taking advantage of this each month. Maybe make some new friends, too!