I forget things more often now. What was the topic, and what is sex?

Are you the OP's husband? :p:D

All joking aside....sorry I could not resist that one.

I would suggest that you speak with your family physician. He/she can help you figure out a cause and suggest solutions. OR...if your physician has a Nurse Practitioner I would strongly suggest you make an appt with him/her. They are very thorough and can help you!

the only time i ever want to have sex is if i've had a few drinks! sad, but true!

i blame it on having 2 small kids and my husband is basically a 3rd kid - always having to clean up after them all day long. when they finally go to bed, i just want to be left ALONE!

i don't really mind having sex, but i don't initiate it cus i just have no desire. i was honest with my husband and told him just what i said here. i think he was relieved actually cus now when he wants to have sex he just tells me and we can cut right to the chase. he's exhausted by the end of the day anyway so knowing i don't care for a marathon is fine with him!

Woah?! it's alittle hot in here. lol jk Have you given a thought about fantasys or roleplay? Sometimes we need to go back to the basics or take a look at it from a different angle. Maybe you don't have to go and take a trip to Turks & Caicos but try a hotel that specializes in creating intimate settings.

Oh yea... RELAAXXX

Ah, the old "slam, bam, thank you ma'am".

No, but I am the best I ever had! :D:D:D

Only a Marine :D

I am pre-diabetic. I get my thyroid checked often and my levels are fine. I am; however, battling the diabeeetuusss.

I like going to strip clubs! but I have gotten kicked out for being too touchy with my man. I am kind of picky though, and want to see a girl who can really dance. Seriously, if I know I can dance better? Get off... Next girl!!

And i am working out. I am also starting personal training sessions next week.

I weigh between 130-135 and I am 5 feet tall. I would love to see my 115 body back! I am pretty self concious about this extra weight thanks to those meds I've been on. At least I've lost 15 pounds and kept it off, but the last 15 is a huge biotch.

Ok but how do you avoid the babytrain?

I cannot risk getting preggo! (yet ;) )but you know, the time I did go off it for like a month (and my ladyfriend never came?) I do recall having more sex than I am now, which is like none.

Maybe you're onto something!!

it's just I get such bad migraines, and cramps, that I've been on the pill to help a girly out. I don't have a ladyfriend every month either. It's too much trouble. I double or tripple up on packs.

I gotta ask... did you say "diabeeetuusss" because of the diabetes commercials with the old man?

Sorry, I'm not on board for the strip club at all.

This has never happened to me. Ever. But I have a friend who had the same problem her whole married life. She thought she had no desire. She ended up divorced and met a different guy. Guess what? She wants to do it all the time now. In her case it was the guy.

I'd rule out any medical issues. The pill can cause lack of desire. So can weight and depression. (I had weight issues after my kids but even then I still had tons of desire.)

Sometimes, though, when you don't do something, you don't feel like it (like going to the gym ... once you get there, it's fine. Same with sex.) Sometimes you just need to do it to get back in the swing of it. And think about it. Think about what you like and want. Get some romance and spark back. Text your husband with a risky message. Go to a hotel for a night. Buy yourself something pretty. Even if you have weight hanging on, you can buy something pretty. When you feel better about yourself, you won't be so self-conscious. Get your husband on board with it. Get him to pay attention to you. When we get caught up with being wives, moms, employees we sometimes lose us. Learn to be nice to yourself and take some time for yourself. And be affectionate. Be very affectionate. It's hard to jump into feeling sexy when you've been running your tail off all day. When couples are affectionate at other times, it's easier to transition. Hug a lot. Touch a lot.

As far as dryness, there's things you can buy to rectify that.

You can get the romance back if you want. You're way too young to be living a sexless life (everyone is in my opinion.) Sex and love are too important a part of a relationship to do without or do it by just going through the motions.

Good luck.

that article is amazing! so many good things in it!

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD READ IT.

Hahah yes! Sorry if you didn't find it funny....

I think the Pill has something to do with it. I have never been on Birth Control and I have an active sex life. You just have to be creative. It was hard when my girls were little but you need to get away and find some time to date again.