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12-12-2009, 10:53 PM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Michigan
Posts: 124
| I don't know what to do.. Today marks the end of a 3 year relationship. I'm at such a loss for what to do. Right before the holidays too. I just can't imagine any worse timing. Things were rough I'll admit that but I'm the kind of person that believes in working things out together.. but HE isn't. So he decided that it was best to "take a break". I've been in enough relationships to know that taking a break hardly ever turns out to be just a break. I'm heartbroken. I feel like I'm going to go crazy. I'm absolutely sick to my stomach, my legs are like jello & I feel like my head is going to explode. I'm kicking myself for letting myself ever get so involved with somebody. It almost makes me feel like I'm the idiot. I just can't understand how you can give your all to someone, do everything you can to be there for them and still have it not be enough. I feel so useless. There were things I did that bugged him, he told me & I went and did my best to change them but it just wasn't enough. The worst part about the whole thing for me though is the friends that I want to turn to are his friends too (we are in the same circle of friends and thats how we met). He was with them all tonight while I drove around aimlessly in a snow storm not even knowing what to do with myself. My once best friend who was my go to girl is no longer my friend. I have no one to go to. So here I am YTers, writing to you Ugh. And to top everything off I have a very short fuse, so while we're on the phone (YES he did it over the phone ) I got upset and threw my phone against the dash of my car and its not longer working. Brand new phone too & I just spent 90% of my paycheck this week on Christmas presents. I sure hope I have an old one laying around somewhere and I can return his present tomorrow to pay to get my number transferred to another phone. I feel like such a wreck
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12-12-2009, 11:45 PM | #2 |
Donating YT 11K Club Member | I'm so sorry. If you need someone to talk to I am here. I am right with you on that one. If you see my last thread you will see that me and my bf of 4 years broke up. Like you we have the same circle of friends..we all went to HS together. Some of them aren't talking to me..they've been avoiding my phone calls..which i find weird. Idk what he said to them about me. My true friends stuck around..my girlfriends, just 2 of them so i know i can count on them but it's been so tough. After out 'break up' we got back together the next day..him saying we never broke up and i had thought we did...stupid i know. Things haven't been working for a couple months now..all because of him changing on me. Well today I have no spoken to him all day...went to his house..he wasnt there..called him-no answer and he wasnt working. I dont knwo where he is and im at a loss. I think im going to have to end things for good cause im not happy with the way things are. So we can relate. I'm so sorry...i know right now you will feel like nothing i say can make you feel better. It's all numbness. I felt/feel numb. I dont know what to do with myself but i feel like if things are meant to happen they will happen on their on. Just hold tight and talk to me if anything.
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12-13-2009, 01:20 AM | #3 |
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| I'm so sorry...you & Jax deserve so much better! I believe things happen for a reason...I'm going to say I think this happened because the person you were meant to be with is not him. He's out there...be patient & you'll find him! I hope you can go to your family for comfort...or just here on YT
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12-13-2009, 04:08 AM | #4 |
No Longer a Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: New York
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| I am sorry you are sad. Give it some time and just try your best to occupy yourself. Let him have his "Space" and take the time to think about things. You may just realize he isn't worth it. Sending some hugs & kisses |
12-13-2009, 05:55 AM | #5 |
Luv my 7 Furkids Donating Member | Im so sorry....believe me (an old far_) 53, Im one who gives their whole heart unconditionally too. If your partner doesnt have the same value of commitments, your really better off. Try to think positive, no matter what, there trully is something positive in all negative if you look hard enough. Good luck to you. |
12-13-2009, 06:21 AM | #6 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: upstate ny
Posts: 5,847
| Someday you will look back on all of this and count your blessings! Until then, don't let any guy determine how you are going to feel about yourself! Work on that short fuse you have - sounds like it gets you into trouble - and work on feeling good about yourself without a guy. When you do that, you will find you're much happier and someday, you'll find the perfect man who appreciates you for what you are. |
12-13-2009, 06:30 AM | #7 |
Donating YT 12K Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Council Bluffs Iowa
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| I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I know how much it hurts. But I believe that things happen for a reason and you cannot find Mr Right while you are with Mr Wrong. So hang in there, the right man will come along and it will just click. My theory, If it doen't colme easy, better let it go cause it isn't meant to be. Meanwhile work on being a stronger person, so you can go into your next relationship axs a whole peerson who knows who she is and does not have to have a man to complete herself. This might sound like odd advice. but read Cesar Milan's "Be A Pack Leader". It is not just about dogs, it is about being a leader and having the confidence in yourself to be a leader in general, not just for your dogs. Good luck to you. |
12-13-2009, 07:36 AM | #8 |
Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Farmingville , New York
Posts: 266
| Well sad. Very good advise. Good luck to you. Your heart will mend in time and you will be happy again. |
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