I have an odd question - could use some help

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by YorkichonBella

How about: "Why do u ask?" with a smirked facial expression

& leave em like this:



My aunt & her husband recently visited their daughter(she's in her 30s) in CA to help her move. While her daughter was @work, they were doing things to help her out in the apt complex. While in the laundry room, a man asked if it was their daughter who had recently moved in & if she was married? My aunt answered and told him that she was not married. Personally, I never would have. I'm like you in that it sometimes pays to be careful in certain instances.

You are absolutely right. It's a scarey world for a woman alone.

[YorkichonBella]

& to add.....now, really if a guy has the Best of intentions & spoke without thinking, he will try to assure you that he meant no harm & will apologize. If he's a gentleman!

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

You are absolutely right. It's a scarey world for a woman alone.

It definitely is! Just look at that poor girl from Yale. Went to work where she should have been safe.

[livingdustmops]

And the final lie you could give them is that you have a girlfriend...if you know what I mean...

Now this is NOT a good line if down the road you might be interested..

[charly]

l looked at your picture in your public profile, now l know they were trying to flirt with you. lts good to be careful, but really when a man sees a pretty woman he will approach you. l'm sorry to hear about your husband. When you've been together for so long thats a huge adjustment after a loss of that magnitude. lt's weird how you can not want the attention but get it anyway. l don't think they are being rude but just want to get with you as my twenty two year old daughter would say Do they spook you when they ask you that, or are you just tired of the question like in don't want to be bothered.

[YorkieShadow]

V its not helping that your talking about this on a public forum where any one can read ekkk. but yeah I would say I live with someone.

[MeganS]

V, there is this line from a show that I adore. The woman's husband died, and she is being asked out by a man and she says
"I'm a one-man woman, and I've already had my one man."

It really touched me. I don't know if you would be looking for something that straight forward though haha.

I know that that must be a difficult question for you to answer. I hope you find the answer you're looking for and it helps you feel better

[Lou]

Hi V,
Wish I'd seen this sooner. In my young married days I worked as a watress and when guys would ask me if I was married I got in the habit of holding up my left had, wiggling my fingers and saying "It's the real thing."

I think that would work for you since it isn't a lie and I bet you are still wearing your wedding ring aren't you.

Hugs

[margaritaville]

V, when my brother passed, his wife had him cremated and has his ashes in an urn. When people get a little too friendly and start asking question she cuts them off with a, "I've got to run, I left my husband back at the house".

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by margaritaville

V, when my brother passed, his wife had him cremated and has his ashes in an urn. When people get a little too friendly and start asking question she cuts them off with a, "I've got to run, I left my husband back at the house".

Hahah that's pretty good!

[crystalsmom]

Originally Posted by BaxtersMommy

Your personal life is no ones business. I feel strongly about that. I didnt marry until I was 33 years old. I was Miss Independent.

If I were you, I would tell them that you do have a special someone. Your husband will always be with you & God is by your side too. This way, you are not lying.

V, I didn't read through the others but I think this one is wonderful. Nosey benders don't have to know your life and I do know you worry about safety so this would work really well. I'm sure you got lots of other wonderful advise.

Hey when that right one comes along, you will have to change your answer

[FlDebra]

Hi V -- just saw your post. Yesterday was a rough day for me (1 year), so your question hits home. We have so much in common -- I also live with my youngest son. I had to check the widow box on a medical form the other day for the first time. I obstinately had continued to mark married for a while, as I will always feel married. I also continue to wear my ring. When asked by a stranger, I recently just replied, "I've been married over 20 years." That is not a lie, so I won't have to have a guilty look when I answer. I wasn't asked as a prelude to anything. I guess you would have to have a couple of different responses, depending on who was asking. But I figure I don't need to add anything more to a first meeting. If you are building a friendship, then there is always time to add more. You are a pretty woman, Villette, so I imagine you are going to get a lot of those kinds of questions. Once you decide on a response, take the ? as a compliment.

Megan -- I like the answer from your movie. That is how I feel -- a one-man woman who has already had her one man. I know he was a blessing, but even harder when we lose them too soon.

[scrapindee]

I guess it would be who is doing the asking....government officials probably have a good reason for asking, lol. I think I would go with the I'm living with someone right now and continue to wear your ring.

But on the Yorkie issue, be careful. Tell people they are a mix--especially if they are in a car and you are walking. I have heard of someone's dogs litterally being grabbed and dognapped by an overly friendly stranger in the car.

[Robin Lodal]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

Ya you could try to ugly yourself up a bit. and trade the cute little yorkies in for a big ugly dog.

Ok, now THIS had me in tears! lol hahah

I have no idea what you are going through, nor do I ever wish it on anyone. I do just want to say that I highly respect those who have lost their special someone and are able to keep going and to continue living life positively. (((hugs)))

[stovesj]

It is October so you get one of the knarly gross teeth thingy's and wear it when you walk the dogs. Just flash them your "beautiful" smile and they will probably sprint away like a rabbit!!! It's worth a try and if nothing else you can laugh out loud.