l looked at your picture in your public profile, now l know they were trying to flirt with you.
lts good to be careful, but really when a man sees a pretty woman he will approach you. l'm sorry to hear about your husband. When you've been together for so long thats a huge adjustment after a loss of that magnitude. lt's weird how you can not want the attention but get it anyway. l don't think they are being rude but just want to get with you as my twenty two year old daughter would say
Do they spook you when they ask you that, or are you just tired of the question like in don't want to be bothered.