Hi V -- just saw your post. Yesterday was a rough day for me (1 year), so your question hits home. We have so much in common -- I also live with my youngest son. I had to check the widow box on a medical form the other day for the first time. I obstinately had continued to mark married for a while, as I will always feel married. I also continue to wear my ring. When asked by a stranger, I recently just replied, "I've been married over 20 years." That is not a lie, so I won't have to have a guilty look when I answer. I wasn't asked as a prelude to anything. I guess you would have to have a couple of different responses, depending on who was asking. But I figure I don't need to add anything more to a first meeting. If you are building a friendship, then there is always time to add more. You are a pretty woman, Villette, so I imagine you are going to get a lot of those kinds of questions. Once you decide on a response, take the ? as a compliment.
Megan -- I like the answer from your movie. That is how I feel -- a one-man woman who has already had her one man. I know he was a blessing, but even harder when we lose them too soon. |