Can someone answer my question??

[tammy8833]

i agree with everyone else
and the beer and cigerattes will never END for some people..it comes before food and responsbility...i know a older couple that are on OXYGEN but wont stop smoking and are drunk by noon.. they have 1200 a mo in RX but would rather buy want they think are neccesities...smokes and beer...they are dying..and have had many chances to improve their health but wont...the father has been told he will die any day for about 2 years now...i hate giving them cash...i buy food...but when i did that it was thanks but i really need cigerattes not food...in their sixtys!!! one of the sons live with them and he is just as bad and enables them....

your husband needs to stop...i dont care how religious a person is this is ludicous (no disrepect meant) i can see helping occassionally but paying for the electric?? they most have some money because they are paying for the home...it might cause some trouble being they are right next door...but i cant understand why your husband feels obligated to pay for their bills? have you ask why he feels that way? i think there was a thing in the bible that says something about showing a person how to fish and they can catch their own food...im not a big bible reader although i would say im baptist...but paying once is helping and being christian, neighborly but constantly paying is only making the neighbor worse and more lazy....

who sees the electric bill at home? if he doesnt show him and show how you would probably have 100-200 extra a month

sorry for so long but i have seen so many pathetic looser take advantage of people i just dont have a heart for people who dont help their selves first before begging and being lazy

good luck with it all!!!!!

[yorkiehugs]

Your right, James2:8 says the same thing. Love your neighbor as yourself.

Does your husband love himself that he would take advantage of someone else?

I know that was a strange way of putting that, but there is also the eighth commandment. You will not steal. Taking advantage of something without the thought of repaying it, is stealing. The trash service, electric, asking to "borrow money" ect. and not repaying it. Is stealing.

I hope this made sense, I'm very tired. you can also read Isaiah 55:6-7. Not saying your neighbors are wicked but apparently they need to change their ways.

Again I hope this helps.

[speleogirl37]

**Update**

As of today, The Durst National Bank, Durst Electric Company, and the Durst waste Removal have all shut down!! I showed my husband where it said we could get fined up to $500, and have our electricity cut off. The next day he told the neighbor, but said he had to give them a little time, he can't just cut it off right then. They have had MONTHS of time!! So today, 10 DAYS LATER. I pulled the plug myself!! The extension cord is up and in my house! A little while later the neighbor guy came over, and HAD THE NERVE to ask me to turn it back on. I said, are you kidding me? NO! You've had your 10 day notice, It's over, we're done! I called my husband and told him what happened. I expected him to be mad at me, but he wasn't. I really think it was starting to sink in here in the last couple of days. They went to court last week, and have to be out by the beginning of Oct. I feel sorry for the next neighbors they get! Thanks all!!

[ally173]

great news; and good for you for taking the action yourself; how dare he come over and ask you to turn it back on; he doesnt care if you get in trouble or not ; they are so selfish. don't give them anything anymore; not even a grain of sugar. are they getting evicted; where are they going. on the other hand who cares, as long as they are away from you. good luck.

[speleogirl37]

Originally Posted by ally173

great news; and good for you for taking the action yourself; how dare he come over and ask you to turn it back on; he doesnt care if you get in trouble or not ; they are so selfish. don't give them anything anymore; not even a grain of sugar. are they getting evicted; where are they going. on the other hand who cares, as long as they are away from you. good luck.

Yes, they are getting evicted! As far as I know they have no idea what they are going to do yet.

[suda]

They might want to move in with you if they're evicted, cut all ties now, stop helping them, they have to learn to help themselves and they wont do that while you're propping them up, using extension lead is dangerous and what effect does that have on your power bill, mines dear enough already without neighbors using my power, be strong they sound like bludgers

[tammy8833]

Yay! im proud of u

[ally173]

Originally Posted by speleogirl37

Yes, they are getting evicted! As far as I know they have no idea what they are going to do yet.

be careful; knowing they took advantage of u all this time; they might be thinking of moving in with you for a while; don't let that happen. if they are financially challenged like they claim; there are state assistance programs that they can take advantage of and housing in every state for people like them. but then that's not your problem; they should have prepared for the future.

[Ashley V]

I agree with everyone else. Tell them to stop using your electricity and putting your trash out with yours because it's illegal and YOU could get in trouble for it. If they ask for money, don't give it to them and if they say they need it for food, go to the grocery store and pick them up some necessities, if you feel like you should. If you don't, then don't do it, but do NOT give them money. Do some research for them to get public assistance and if they don't have a phone, offer them to use yours or if they don't have a car, you can take them to where they need to go. They need jobs, so maybe sit with them and help them create good resume and help them apply for jobs. Also, share the gospel with them and witness to them. Bring them to church with you. God can do a mighty work in them and change them for the better. There are still plenty of positive ways to help them get back on their feet without enabling them by giving them money for beer and cigarettes and letting them bum off of your electricity and trash.

ETA - I didn't read all the posts until after I posted this and now I see your problems are pretty much taken care of.

[happy bunny]

Good for you!! We are proud that you made a stand and I'm glad too that your husband supported you, rather than was upset. We are here for you!

[MauiGirl]

Originally Posted by speleogirl37

**Update**

As of today, The Durst National Bank, Durst Electric Company, and the Durst waste Removal have all shut down!! I showed my husband where it said we could get fined up to $500, and have our electricity cut off. The next day he told the neighbor, but said he had to give them a little time, he can't just cut it off right then. They have had MONTHS of time!! So today, 10 DAYS LATER. I pulled the plug myself!! The extension cord is up and in my house! A little while later the neighbor guy came over, and HAD THE NERVE to ask me to turn it back on. I said, are you kidding me? NO! You've had your 10 day notice, It's over, we're done! I called my husband and told him what happened. I expected him to be mad at me, but he wasn't. I really think it was starting to sink in here in the last couple of days. They went to court last week, and have to be out by the beginning of Oct. I feel sorry for the next neighbors they get! Thanks all!!

Good for you! If you were on "Dr. Phil" he'd say cut the cord, and quit being a door mat. You have done more than enough already, and shouldn't let "takers" take the fun out of giving. Stand strong now and let then find their way on their own; you will both be better for it.

[FlDebra]

Originally Posted by speleogirl37

**Update**

As of today, The Durst National Bank, Durst Electric Company, and the Durst waste Removal have all shut down!! I showed my husband where it said we could get fined up to $500, and have our electricity cut off. The next day he told the neighbor, but said he had to give them a little time, he can't just cut it off right then. They have had MONTHS of time!! So today, 10 DAYS LATER. I pulled the plug myself!! The extension cord is up and in my house! A little while later the neighbor guy came over, and HAD THE NERVE to ask me to turn it back on. I said, are you kidding me? NO! You've had your 10 day notice, It's over, we're done! I called my husband and told him what happened. I expected him to be mad at me, but he wasn't. I really think it was starting to sink in here in the last couple of days. They went to court last week, and have to be out by the beginning of Oct. I feel sorry for the next neighbors they get! Thanks all!!

Glad to hear you were able to extricate the leech. Who knows, maybe this will be a wake up call they can't ignore and they will start getting their act together. But even if they do not, it is not your duty to raise them. You and your husband already went above and beyond Christian generosity.

[charly]

Originally Posted by JeanieK

Unplug the cord. You are enabling them. People like that are parasites and they making a living by living off of other people. That IS their job.

If they can afford cigarettes and Beer they can afford to pay their own bills.

Just say NO.

DITTO, DITTO Oh! thats great too hear. lt's really terrible when some people take kindness for weakness.