Your Thoughts On Turning 50!!!!!

[debi_s]

Howdy again,
I have never posted in this section....but the idea came to me yesterday.
I will be turning 50 years old in about 6 weeks and I am planning a little adventure for myself. I will be spending some time away from home ALONE!!!!
I was wanting to ask any of you about your thoughts on turning 50 years old!!!
******To anyone already 50.......Just some of your thoughts....Did you dread the BIG 50???.....Who had a great party.....or was disappointed with their party....Who got a REAL SURPRISE???...or was expecting something great and it never happened????...Does anyone have a family member who "Got Them" with some dorky sign or newspaper ad???......DO you 'FEEL' 50?????...(I DON'T!!).......Anyone with any regrets????? Feel like they have missed out on something????...Did turning 50 cause any turmoil.....personally or otherwise .......that made you go out and make any major changes in your life????....ANY THOUGHTS........?????

*****To anyone who has not yet turned 50.......Does anyone have any big plans????? .....A great trip or adventure????.....anybody denying their age???...If you could go and do ANYTHING on your 50th birthday, what would it be????....If you are much younger, what / where do you see your life when you are 50???....What do you think being 50 will feel like?????....

*****ANY ONE ELSE.......Tell me about an experience with a friend or family member when they turned 50.....

I can't wait to hear from everybody......I am writing a book about my adventure and turning 50. ............I have only been a part of this yorkie chat for a short time but I have come to know and REALLY LOVE a bunch of you.....I have found some amazing people with some amazing insights here....not just about yorkies but also about life and love and caring. And just the BEST sense of humor!!!!!!
I'll keep you posted...........PLEASE....let me hear from you all!!!!!
Thanks a million!!!!!!! ~debi s.~

[luvdorkyyorkies]

I dont want to talk about it!...........LOL
Im almost 38 so I think about 40 occasionally.......I mean occasionally too!
When I think of 50, I mainly think about my kids since I had them a little later in life.."will they be happy?" "what will they look like" Cause I dont wnat to know what I will look like!.........hee hee
My husband is older then me and just turned 50......He just told me he better not get black balloons for his birthday........he says he feels little diffrence at 50 then he did 35.

[Carters Mom]

I'm 43 and just trying to get to 46. My dad passed away at 45 from heart disease and its been on my mind for the last 23 years wondering if I'll make it any further.

My husband has his 50th birthday this year but he has always said that his birthday is just another day. His birthday is one month before his youngest son's wedding so doing something extraordinary (such as a trip) will be impossible since he has to take time off of work for the wedding. I'm going to collaborate with his two sons and plan a celebration meal at a nice restaurant for him.

[schatzie]

Well, I have not hit the 50 mark yet, I am only months away from turning 40. WOW, did I just say 40?? Other than now looking for all the wrinkle reducing creams, lotions and magic formula's to make me look atleast 30, Im guessing i will be doing the same when the day 50 comes.

I think it's wonderful that you are planning something really great for yourself on your Birthday - you go for it!!! But, don't think that you have to wait for a Birthday to do that, LOL Treat yourself to something nice more often than that.

Atleast we don't have to multiply by 7 each time we have a birthday like dogs do, he he Now that would be frantic for sure!!

I hope you find all you want when you turn 50 and have no regrets, Happy EARLY Birthday!!

[Cielo]

Hiii Debiii . . . congrats on turning 50 soon!!! good luck on your book and your trip!!! where are you planning on going?

i think at 50 i see myself traveling and enjoying life. watching my parents turn 50 taught me a lesson, never take life TOO seriously and enjoy eveything for what it IS . . .

my parents are divorced . . . in their late 40's they BOTH had a boyfriend or girlfriend who were considerable younger. i thought that was cool, having someone younger MADE THEM FEEL younger. they're attitudes toward life even changed and they were happier people. BUT when the label "50" came around for my mom, she got dumped by her "younger man" and fell into a deep-deep depression (*here we are a few years later and she's NOT over it*). she didn't even celebrate her 50th birthday. my dad on the other hand had a HUGE party and MARRIED his younger girlfriend about a month after turning 50, and aparently they're living happily ever after. go figure.

as for me . . . i'm 25, i had my son when i was young (17) so the 1st thing that pops into my head when i think about myself at 50 is "how many grandchildren will i have at 50, what will they look like, what will they grow up to be?" and also "what's my son goin to grow up to be?", "by the age of 50 how many more children will I have?" OH ANOTHER GOOD QUESTION I ASK MYSELF "will i have finally hit the lottery by 50???" hahahaha

like the NY state lotto slogan says "hey ya neva know!!!"

[Newyork Newyork]

Hi Debi,
I was just lookng around the forums and came across your thread. Congratulations on becoming one of us! A women old enough to be logged!

Turning 50 for me was ok emotionally, but my party stunk!

My hubby asked me what I would like to do, and I told him that I wanted a beach party (July 26 is my birthday). I love the beach and we were having a stellar summer. We also have quite an ecletic group of friends and relatives. I thought hanging at the beach for a day in the sun and a picnic would be a great way to let everyone have their own space (and I could ly out in the middle of the lake on an air mattress...I'm not to fussy on large crowds...but my hubby's family wouldn't understand 'no party').

Well...it was smoking hot on the day of the party and, as usual, my disorganized husband was way behind schedule (I was supposed to be letting HIM do all the work! LOL) By the time we got to the lake there was only two parking spots left! I tried to save one for my sister and some lady started yelling at me for trying to do so (who says Canadains are so darn polite!) As I started to panic I noticed some small bites on my legs...sand fleas!!! When my sis and hubby finally arrived we took a look at the beach. Not even a tiny spot to lay a towel let alone parking for all the other guests... (scratch scratch)...This meant taking the party back to our house. (sniff sniff..yes I did cry!)...(scratch scratch)...Now we have a great back yard...but being a control freak I knew I wasn't about to have a nice relaxing day trying to entertain all these different people types on such a hot day and I was going to have to play the hostess. (scratch scratch)

As the ecletic group of people started making their arrivals there was a definite 'split' happening. My hubby's family in the shade, old friends in the middle of the lawn, my family in the house and on the front deck(hiding mostly so they could drink there beer...it was HOT out!), neighbors walking around looking lost... and me wandering around in my bathing suit (much to my mother-in-laws shock!)...(scratch scratch) As the hostess now, I spent the hot muggy day walking from group to group making sure every one was happy in their little huddles on the hottest day of the summer. The drinkers (hic) were on the front deck, the tea sippers in the shade. (And boy did I wanna hang on the deck with my beer guzzling sister, but I had my husband's family to think about...not mine). (scratch scratch) On one of my 'walk-bys' the glass sliding door got stuck and we were stuck out on the deck! Yippee! Realizing the beer was in the house we started calling and calling, but no one out back could hear. Finally my hubby noticed me missing and came looking.(scatch scratch)
Consequently, every one ate an early dinner and most just left out of boredom. At nine pm my daughters finally showed up with flushed cheeks and copious amounts of food for the 'party'...appetizers (thanks to my hubby) But there were very few guests left to eat it. (scratch scratch) My son (who lived in an apartment without airconditioning at the time) came home from work and fell asleep and never even made it to the party. (scratch scratch)
As the night wore on, and the tea sippers left, I pulled out a bottle of wine and with a few of the stragglers that stayed, sat around our fire pit out back and .... well, got loaded.
My daughters have since disallowed my hubby to plan any more parties!
If I could do it all over again...I would just go away somewhere ... a cabin on a lake ... or SOMEWHERE with a beach, a good book and my own bottle of wine...and just spoil myself!
So....what did you do?

[debi_s]

I'M BACK...........!!!!!!!!

Hi,
Funny you should ask that question....(and had such an experience on your 50th!!).......I just returned 2 days ago and have been avoiding yorkietalk....because I am up to my eyeballs in stuff to get done and I knew if I EVER sat down to this I would get NOTHING DONE!!!

I can now reveal the BIG SECRET.......I DID IT!!!!! I ran away from home....I left and NO ONE knew where I was going until I was GONE!!!!!

I mailed everyone an Easter card on Friday with a note about where I was going and my 'itinerary'...they received the cards Saturday after I was LONG GONE!!!!! (yes, including my hubby).....NO ONE KNEW !!!!!

Sat 3-26-05....6 AM....flew to San Juan, Puerto Rico......boarded a Celebrity
Cruise ship for a 7 day cruise of the sunny, southern caribbean...ALONE!!!!!!

Sun 3-27-05...Casa De Campo, Dominican Republic...
never left the ship...just sat on my balcony and daydreamed and relaxed!

Mon 3-28-05....Day @ sea......

Tue 3-29-05..(my 50th)..Bridgetown, Barbados...went horseback riding.....
(yes....my butt WAS SORE!!!)

Wed 3-30-05...St George's, Grenada......the spice Island.....destroyed by
hurricaine Ivan...but still beautiful.....bought tons of fresh spices!!!!!

Thu...3-31-05.....Charlotte Amalie, Antigua.....shoping....beautiful beaches....

Friday 4-1-05...St Thomas, U S Virgin Islands...shoping...sky lift to "Paradise
Point"......relaxed......

Sat 4-2-05...San Juan....flew home to Charlotte, N.C. ...Hubby and grandson
met me at the airport....

....got home 8 pm Sat....a hundred people at my house....I was exhausted.... cleaned up the mess until after midnight.....

Sunday...so tired I was almost sick.........cleaned some more...(no one cleaned anything while I was gone!!)

Monday...back to work...spent all day chasing my tail..got nothing done....

Tuesday...(today)..car battery was dead this morning...hubby out of town.....had to get a "jump" and spent $75 on new battery.....now 2 days behind on paperwork and 4 loads of clothes to get done!!!!!

I left town and no one knew where I was going...they only knew I was going somewhere.
I was the only person on earth to be THAT EXCITED about turning 50!!! I have planned this for over 1 1/2 years!!!! The anticipation almost killed me.....I never told a soul!!!!! except one MD friend and a nurse friend who both helped in the deception!!!!! I had a blast......

And I am writing a book about the WHOLE thing...from the moment I decided to do "something"....until this day and a few days after!!!!!

ANd all your thoughts about turning 50 will be part of the book!!!!!

Did that possibly inspire someone out there to go have "an adventure"?????

[fasteddie]

Welcome back, debi! Sounds like quite an adventure, that certainly is bold and daring to run away like that, was your family surprised about it? But at least you did something which YOU WANTED to do, so I'm sure the fun memories will last a lifetime. Happy belated birthday!

[aimee]

Welcome home Debi! What an amazing adventure you had! WONDERFUL! I think that when I turn 50 I would like to visit either Egypt or the African Savannah, depending on if I've done that yet (I'm 26 now, been to France, England, Germany, Ireland, Scotland, and Italy) But those are my top two things to do! I'd also like to be actively showing dogs by that time as well, for now I have a lot to learn, and money to make so these dreams can come true - just like yours did! Yay for you!

[Passionfruition]

My mom went parasailing on her 50th birthday, and my dad, who is 1 month younger, went with her!

[Chelsey]

Debi, ur story gave me hope!
Like Schatzie ill be turning 40 in a few months and i think ive had every rimple reducing cream on the market, when i turned 30 i cryed all day and stayed in bed till i was a day after 30, i KNOW im pathetic, but to me 30 was OLD, everyone that came around expecting a piece of birthdaycake were in fits of laughter, coz i was to be found in my bed with the curtains shut and since that day ive been dreading the big 40...
My hubby will be 50 a month before my birthday, we got married for the first time in may of 2004, our wedding was such a blast that we decided to give a 3 in 1 party in june of 2005, his 50th my 40th and 1st anniversary, BUT as time comes closer i get the jitters and want to forget all about the 3 in 1, instead i have the urge to RUN away... i really dont know where to hide myself....
On our wedding anniversary we are going to dress up again ( me in my dress and hubby in his tux ) and we are going to have photo's taken at different locations,instead of holding flowers in my hand, ill make Chelsey a flowergirl dress in the same color as my wedding dress and hold her, this i want to continue every anniversary for as long as we can and make an album, im already picturing myself at 60 having to sit on the couch for the pics coz the dress probably wont fit me anymore lol
Then i look at my mom at 65 and she looks REALLY great, so i hope i have her genes!
i have no idea why i am so frantic about those numbers, i cant wait for summer to start, but this year i am dreading it only because of the 40.
i have asked my hubby how he feels about the 50, he said it doesnt bother him at all... to him its just a day and maybe an experience, ive asked him if he wants us to do anything special on THAT day and he said: what ever u do just dont hang balloons outside, he tried to manipulate me by saying that i have to remember that my birthday is only a month after hes and he wont forget "payback"

[debi_s]

Originally Posted by Chelsey

Debi, ur story gave me hope!
Like Schatzie ill be turning 40 in a few months and i think ive had every rimple reducing cream on the market, when i turned 30 i cryed all day and stayed in bed till i was a day after 30, i KNOW im pathetic, but to me 30 was OLD, everyone that came around expecting a piece of birthdaycake were in fits of laughter, coz i was to be found in my bed with the curtains shut and since that day ive been dreading the big 40...
My hubby will be 50 a month before my birthday, we got married for the first time in may of 2004, our wedding was such a blast that we decided to give a 3 in 1 party in june of 2005, his 50th my 40th and 1st anniversary, BUT as time comes closer i get the jitters and want to forget all about the 3 in 1, instead i have the urge to RUN away... i really dont know where to hide myself....
On our wedding anniversary we are going to dress up again ( me in my dress and hubby in his tux ) and we are going to have photo's taken at different locations,instead of holding flowers in my hand, ill make Chelsey a flowergirl dress in the same color as my wedding dress and hold her, this i want to continue every anniversary for as long as we can and make an album, im already picturing myself at 60 having to sit on the couch for the pics coz the dress probably wont fit me anymore lol
Then i look at my mom at 65 and she looks REALLY great, so i hope i have her genes!
i have no idea why i am so frantic about those numbers, i cant wait for summer to start, but this year i am dreading it only because of the 40.
i have asked my hubby how he feels about the 50, he said it doesnt bother him at all... to him its just a day and maybe an experience, ive asked him if he wants us to do anything special on THAT day and he said: what ever u do just dont hang balloons outside, he tried to manipulate me by saying that i have to remember that my birthday is only a month after hes and he wont forget "payback"

Trust me....it doesn't hurt!!!!!! LOL

plan something so wonderful that you can'y help but be excited....no one on the planet could have been more excited than me about turning 50!!!! It's another day....I still feel 35....

The photo idea is great...but have your pic taken standing under the Eiffel Tower or something....and every 5 years have the photo taken someplace exciting....DO IT FOR YOU!!!! If you don't ...NO ONE ELSE WILL...TRUST ME!!!
(apologizies to any ladies with "thinking" hubbies/families)...mine doesn't!!