Husbands Suck!!!!

[charmed239]

How can they be sooooo inconsiderate????? for those of you that have a good one,,,you are truly blessed..I have been married for 18 yrs, and if my financial situation improves, ( by some miricle) were not gonna see 19 yrs, let me tell ya!,....He put the icing on the cake this weekend...I have been very very sick for 7 days straight...Im talking literaly cant get out of bed sick!. and all he did was complain, about the dogs, aobut the house, about the kids. he seemed discussed with me, because he actualy had to get up and move,...He NEVER ONE TIME, ask me if I needed anything, he left wed and went hunting, (we havent gotten heat yet) the house was FREEZING, the electric heater was left upstairs,,(and I couldnt get up there) He could have at least told me he was leaving, and brought my meds and put them on my bedstand..BUT NO!..Hell how about asking me if I needed anything b4 he left, and we were having problems iwth the phone and I couldnt dial out,,,my neighbor actuallly went to the phone co, and took care of it,,,,,and then,,thurs fri and sat, he went to the bar untill 3 am...I soooooo dont need this. sorry just had to get this off my chest..Im only 38, and he is a fool if he thinks that im gonna be treated like this now that im better!!!!.UGH!!!

[Tammyh]

I'm so sorry you're going through all of this 18 years is a long time to be married and you've got a lot invested. I'm not sure if you've already tried but maybe marriage counseling as a last resort? The person you're with should make you feel special and better about yourself and you deserve that. I wish you all the best and hope that you and your husband will be able to work this out and that he'll be able to give you the love and respect that you deserve.

[phfgkl]

I feel for you..I'm very fortunate, that I'm one of the lucky ones. Hubby works, I don't. He has to travel a lot(sales), but about 3 weeks ago, I had diverticulitis. I had to go have cat scan done, he was on the road and I called him crying(we've been married almost 32 years), I told him I was scared, which I was, I was hurting so bad. He told the guy he was working with, if she needs me, I'm sorry, but, you're giong to have to take me home(they were 10 hours away from here). I told him this cat scan is going to cost me $1200, he said don't worry about it you get you in and get it done. When he got home, he waited on me hand and foot, he has many times. And, he just agreed to let me get my biewer baby. He really doesn't want anymore dogs, but, he helps out with them. He gives the little ones their treats first thing in the morning when he gets up, changes out pee pads, and quietly shuts the door so I can sleep..All I can say Is I wish everyone had a hubby like mine...I do feel for you, and I would see about getting out of that relationship..There are places you can get help, especially if you have children at home

[yorkiekist]

Sorry you have to deal with him! Your example is just one more reason that I am not married nor ever want to be. Its been my experience that most men are whiners and the good ones(yes there are a few!!) are very hard to come by.
A decent man would not have left you alone while you were sick and would have at least fixed the heater for you. But obviously you love him as you have been together for 18 years. Kudos to you!! Maybe marriage counceling or talking things over with your pastor would help. Hope you get better soon!!

[Brodi mom]

Honey i put up with that crap to until one day on a wed i just packed up and left no money no place to go but home to my moms.. thought I would not go back home but did and dont regret it.. have a good guy now but he can be a stinker to but only because he has been walked on and done wrong son many times... you go girl do what you need to do..stay strong and pray....

[chachi]

My first HUsband wouldnt do anything either. We divorced after 7 yrs. Now I am married to a much more supportive person

[mkawczak]

What sre you doing there???? Money issue are the least of your problems. Homeless doe'snt sound that bad...I too have been married for 18 years this past July. The only reason your husband treats you that badly is you allow it. My husband cooks,cleans,parents,works,roof's ont he side,cleans up dog poop,puke,he even grocery shops. Girlfriend,your husband doesn't deserve you. Don't wait until January to make your resolution. CHANGE IS GOOD!!!!

[Miasmom]

I am in the same boat your in! When things improve here financialy I am gone!
My husband don't do anything either. I can't even get him to do yard work. Forget about helping with the kids. That will never happen.
But sometimes it helps to vent!

[abaddon248]

mine too! doesnt do anything! and if I have a day off from work he will call me and ask me about 10 times if the house is clean already!!! but if he is off from work and im working HE WILL NOT CLEAN THE HOUSE LIKE I DO....I havent been with him for 2 years and I am already getting fed up with it. he had the nerve to tell me that If i do get addition to the family (pet) that he will not clean up after it.....he doesnt even clean up now.....i just laughed inside

[abaddon248]

Originally Posted by charmed239

How can they be sooooo inconsiderate????? for those of you that have a good one,,,you are truly blessed..I have been married for 18 yrs, and if my financial situation improves, ( by some miricle) were not gonna see 19 yrs, let me tell ya!,....He put the icing on the cake this weekend...I have been very very sick for 7 days straight...Im talking literaly cant get out of bed sick!. and all he did was complain, about the dogs, aobut the house, about the kids. he seemed discussed with me, because he actualy had to get up and move,...He NEVER ONE TIME, ask me if I needed anything, he left wed and went hunting, (we havent gotten heat yet) the house was FREEZING, the electric heater was left upstairs,,(and I couldnt get up there) He could have at least told me he was leaving, and brought my meds and put them on my bedstand..BUT NO!..Hell how about asking me if I needed anything b4 he left, and we were having problems iwth the phone and I couldnt dial out,,,my neighbor actuallly went to the phone co, and took care of it,,,,,and then,,thurs fri and sat, he went to the bar untill 3 am...I soooooo dont need this. sorry just had to get this off my chest..Im only 38, and he is a fool if he thinks that im gonna be treated like this now that im better!!!!.UGH!!!

for him to leave and not even take care of anything for you is selfish..because you know if he is sick you have to be at his beck and call...and the bar thing...i can understand 1 or 2 drinks just to finish off the a good day but to stay till 3 am is excesive and wrong.

[AngieDoogles]

I'm so sorry things are rough. *hugs*

[amandawash]

Wow. That sounds really bad. I don't think I could do it. I am pretty newly-wed (one and half years) so I really don't know much but have you sat down and had a serious talk with him? I mean like, if things don't change, something will kind of talk? That's really sad, I hope things get better. If they don't, I hope you have the kind of self-respect necessary to leave his a@$. Hope the spinal leak fix thingy went ok.

[Here2]

Im a newbie but with all due respect - wow. But - you seem like a woman that knows her worth and will NOT tolerate this. Good for you!

He couldnt have done less - bless your heart. Remember this... what if you were to get REAL sick? I would talk to him and see WHY he reacted that way. This is deeper than just this week. Its deeper that bringing you meds or something to drink.

I too am a woman that knows her worth. Me and that fella would talk. He would tell me what I wanted to hear or he would walk! All of us married took vows concerning this very thing. Just as we vowed to stay true to each other. I would want to know if he took his vows seriously or just repeated what was said.

I hope I havent offended you. I just see you are fire mad - and should be. I wanted you to know we hear you. Sometimes that can make us feel so much better.

- Michael

[donnarod]

Originally Posted by charmed239

How can they be sooooo inconsiderate????? for those of you that have a good one,,,you are truly blessed..I have been married for 18 yrs, and if my financial situation improves, ( by some miricle) were not gonna see 19 yrs, let me tell ya!,....He put the icing on the cake this weekend...I have been very very sick for 7 days straight...Im talking literaly cant get out of bed sick!. and all he did was complain, about the dogs, aobut the house, about the kids. he seemed discussed with me, because he actualy had to get up and move,...He NEVER ONE TIME, ask me if I needed anything, he left wed and went hunting, (we havent gotten heat yet) the house was FREEZING, the electric heater was left upstairs,,(and I couldnt get up there) He could have at least told me he was leaving, and brought my meds and put them on my bedstand..BUT NO!..Hell how about asking me if I needed anything b4 he left, and we were having problems iwth the phone and I couldnt dial out,,,my neighbor actuallly went to the phone co, and took care of it,,,,,and then,,thurs fri and sat, he went to the bar untill 3 am...I soooooo dont need this. sorry just had to get this off my chest..Im only 38, and he is a fool if he thinks that im gonna be treated like this now that im better!!!!.UGH!!!

I understand but we are the sick ones for putting up with this crap.

[charmed239]

Originally Posted by Here2

Im a newbie but with all due respect - wow. But - you seem like a woman that knows her worth and will NOT tolerate this. Good for you!

He couldnt have done less - bless your heart. Remember this... what if you were to get REAL sick? I would talk to him and see WHY he reacted that way. This is deeper than just this week. Its deeper that bringing you meds or something to drink.

I too am a woman that knows her worth. Me and that fella would talk. He would tell me what I wanted to hear or he would walk! All of us married took vows concerning this very thing. Just as we vowed to stay true to each other. I would want to know if he took his vows seriously or just repeated what was said.

I hope I havent offended you. I just see you are fire mad - and should be. I wanted you to know we hear you. Sometimes that can make us feel so much better.

- Michael

Oh honey dont worry, you didnt offend me at all......I like what you said,,,"He couldnt have done less"..thats soooo true,,...And oh when I get better,(and im on my way there), WE ARE HAVING A TALK!!!!!!!! (he may not get a word in, but we will talk oh yes)....I think this has A LOT to do with his mother!!! ever since he got layed off she has been calling him everyday while im at work! (and she LOVES to stirr up trouble,,,,its a control thing)..and her favorite thing in the world it seems, is to put me down. and I have been blowing her off, so I think she just might figure that if she gets to him, then I will have to live the way she sees fit...(since im not listening to her),,,she is always going on about how I dont do enough for him, and I do way to much for myself,,I have recently picked up some hobbys. and she cant stand it...and it just so happends that my hobbys are getting on HIS NERVES NOW...I go to work, and come home, I dont go out with friends or spend hours on the phone,,,,what I do is surround myself with my dogs,,(unconditional love ya know) and I love to sew, as well as read or watch anything that has to do with the paranormal.....so all I hear from him and her is..."if you would concentrait on your husband as much as you do those dogs and that sewing machine,,,,and that ghost crap, you might be a good wife!"...I guess im supposed to live to serve,,,,but toooooo bad, the bad thing is its realy pointless to even try and talk to him...becasue he honestly dont see where he is doing ANYTHING WRONG...I have tried talking to him in the past..and it always comes back to me having MY priorties screwed up...anyting I do takes attention away from him........all I can say is just waite buddy,,you are gonna create a monster you dont want following you in your sleep...lol