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07-25-2008, 11:52 AM | #31 |
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| I 'd have to make it supervised, and I would tell her why. I'd let her know that your daughter's health is more important then her friendship.
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07-25-2008, 11:56 AM | #32 | |
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Not that I am saying you should divorce your hubby....
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07-25-2008, 12:02 PM | #33 |
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| Well, surprise of all surprises, I talked to DH who immediately picked up the phone and called his mother. MIL naturally denied everything. So DH and I both sat down and talked to Olivia who repeated the story word for word and completely called her Granny out. SO....Olivia is no longer allowed to go to the little cafe in town. Period. She is also no longer allowed to spend the night or any unsupervised time with her Granny. I am absolutely SHOCKED. I imagined a full on WAR with DH with him defending his any and everything his mother said and did. I still can't believe he got just as mad as I was and completely took my side!
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07-25-2008, 12:03 PM | #34 | |
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07-25-2008, 12:07 PM | #35 | |
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07-25-2008, 12:13 PM | #36 |
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| It was a shock and a half because we have been down this road before and it almost caused a divorce. So I was fully expecting the same this time. You could have knocked me over with a feather when he not only called his mother, but put his foot down with her too! I truly expected my post to say something along the lines of: "Confronted DH about his MIL. He completely took her side. The furbutts and I need a place to live. Can I be your DUG?" LOL
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07-25-2008, 12:34 PM | #37 |
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| YAY!!!!! You and the furbutts would have been welcome here (cause I really would love someone to wait on me hand and foot!), but I'm sooooo glad your DH sided with you.
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07-25-2008, 12:49 PM | #38 |
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| Good for your DH. It probably is one thing to sneak a lollipop as someone said, but to feed her chicken and outright lie to her and call her names is another. DH probably did not realize the extent of your frustration until now and good for him that he now can see his mother for who she is. Hopefully things will be smoother for you. And yes, I would stick to my guns about the surpervised visits. One thing you don't want to do is put your daughter in the middle as to have to tell lies to you about what grandma does when she stays over.
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07-25-2008, 12:51 PM | #39 | |
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07-25-2008, 01:50 PM | #40 |
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| Wahoo DH. I hope DH is shown some appreciation (wink wink) tonight.
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07-25-2008, 02:52 PM | #41 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member | OMGosh! I'm so angry for you! I've gone in circles with my MIL too. My oldest was born with a milk protein allergy, he couldn't process it. I have food allergies so we've not done dairy and he didn't have real peanut butter until a few months ago and he's 5. She would sneak it to him and he'd have blistering rashes. I finally showed her once and said if she did it again, he'd be staying the night at her house and she can deal with the guilt of giving him something that HURTS him! I'm so sorry she did that. Since becoming a parent, I've been judged for every decision we made. I used cloth diapers, my mom couldn't understand why! I nursed for 19 months, why would I do that?? it was just constant. I'm glad you stood your ground and I really hope your husband backs you up!
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07-25-2008, 04:18 PM | #42 | |
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07-25-2008, 04:25 PM | #43 | |
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I saw this AFTER I replied! LOL WTG dh. I'm glad he backed you up
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07-27-2008, 04:21 PM | #44 |
Senior Yorkie Talker | I agree with the other person who stated to be honest with this person. I would call your MIL with your husband on another handset so he could hear both sides. Even if he says nothing he will hear how she speaks to you and know how upset you are. I agree supervised is best since she broke your trust. Good luck.
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07-28-2008, 02:45 AM | #45 |
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| i am so sorry you have to put up with this.. im sure it must be VERY hard for you!! i would feel the SAME way if i were you!! i am so happy that your hubby was on your side and backed you up/stood up for his daughter!(im sure thats not easy for him.. but if his mom is disrespecting you-she is disrespecting her son & your daughter, as well!!) she has NO right to go against YOUR way of raising your daughter.. if she really wanted to be involved in her grandaughter's life.. she would be a little more respectful to you and your husband and a little more compassionate to your daughter! im sorry, hun! but again, SO glad hubby stood up to her!!
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