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Kelz · 07-25-2005, 05:33 PM

okay..so my dad..can be a great guy..but he drinks ENTIRELY way to much.. and then he decides to take it out on EVERYONE! but what really pisses me off is when he yells at my mom.. She would go out of her way to do anything for anyone...and does EVERYTHING around this house... He doesnt do anything..but he thinks since it's his house that everyone should bow down to him.. well i think thats b.s.. tonight he started yelling at my mom about what she cooked for dinner.. long story short. he decided to act like he was 5 and was like i'm not gonna eat this and got up from the table to put his plate on the counter and continued to tell everyone how my mom ruined his dinner..so finally i figured i'd but in and say..well now YOUR ruining everyone elses dinner.. and my mom started crying ... my dad always does this crap to her.. and i got up and got into with him about making her cry ..and he said she should cry it's her fault.. what kinda sh!t is that?!? seriously..i was like how freakin cold hearted can you be?? Then he told me that i needed to leave..haha yeah right! so we got into it more and my mom just cried.. He blames everything on her or me... and it's just simply the fact that he drinks to much... HES A FREAKING DRUNK!!!!!!!!! ohhhhhhhhhsldkjfaskl;djfskl;djfaskl;djfaskl;djf sorry guys i'm just really upset b/c i love my mom so much and would do anything for her and i hate seeing her treated like that!

bkessler · 07-25-2005, 05:36 PM

I'm sorry that you and your mom are going through this.. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.. Good luck

Fran42478 · 07-25-2005, 05:39 PM

I am so sorry to hear about the way your mom was treated by your dad...My sister and I were once in a situation like yours with my parents to..My dad would yell at my mom, say STUPID things in front of people and get really mad and walk away sometimes and my mom would just sit there and take it..GRRR Would make me and my sister SO angry! Then my dad got kidney cancer and he realized how poorly he was treating my mom and how much he really needed her by his side..Since then I have NOT heard him raise his voice once to her...Not saying your dad needs to get sick to realize what is going on, but one day he will realize it..Hopefull sooner rather than later

Best wishes to you and them! And we are hear for you to vent all you want!!

XoXoXo
Fran

lycansmom · 07-25-2005, 05:39 PM

Ah sugar i am sorry my dad is a big jerk as well my parents have been divorced for 11 yrs now he cheated on my mom the entire time they were married. I have only been on speaking terms with him for a little over a year now..i hope you feel better dads suck but hey they are still our dad's right.

Kelz · 07-25-2005, 05:40 PM

thanks guys... i just really wish there was something i could do for her.. ya know?

lycansmom · 07-25-2005, 05:47 PM

we know but all you can do is love her and be supportive.

red98vett · 07-25-2005, 05:56 PM

I feel so bad for your family - usually if a man knows he's the weaker one in the family - he takes it out on everyone around him - there is nothing anyone can say when someone is drinking -

I can't give you advise but I would try to ignore him - I know that can be very hard... but if no one responds to the yelling - he won't have a reason to keep doing it - it's no fun being a bully when you aren't intimidating anyone. Poor girl - I feel for you...I really do.

brosie1823 · 07-25-2005, 06:00 PM

I'm so sorry Kelly! I wish I had some words of wisdom, but I don't really. All I can tell you to do is continue to be supportive of your mom and hopefully things will work out in the end.

MeganS · 07-25-2005, 06:02 PM

oh i'm so sorry. it must be really hard on all of you. i agree with villette ignore him. i will be praying for your whole family. good luck!

iheartyorkies · 07-25-2005, 07:17 PM

I'm so sorry dear. The best thing you can do is be extra helpful around the house and be supportive of your mom. Alcohol abuse affects so many families. You can pray for your dad and for your mom. I'll remember you in my prayers as well.

Marie · 07-25-2005, 07:30 PM

Kelly, Im so sorry for the way your dad treats you guys. Alcoholism is a disease that affects the whole family. Be very supportive of your mom and extra helpful. Your story hits close to home. In my case Im in your mom's situation. My hubby drinks and always takes it on me. Today after work he had a couple of beers cause he was stress cause of his job(Carpenter), well his boss.Anyway he got home with a bad mood and I new I was going to hear it tonite. He started screaming and yelling at me cause I was online, Of course YT. I just ignored him. Of course I get depress but Im getting help for that. I wish my 12 yr old son was a bit supportive. Sorry, I hijack your thread and posted about my situation. It was mostly to tell you that you are not alone and I understand. I will have your mom and family in my prayers. I really hope your dad realizes his bad attitude before is too late.

jesscruz · 07-25-2005, 07:47 PM

i'm so sorry for what your going through..believe it or not i went through the same thing with my step dad but guess what one day my mom got sick of it and after 22 yrs of being married she left him!and now she is sooo happy

so i will pray that your mom will build the strength to stand her ground and let him know that she does not deserve to be treated this way.. i usto fight with my stepdad like you would not beilieve and he's raised me since i was a baby so he's more like my real dad. it got sooo bad that i even threw a drink in his face(i have a really bad temper

)but now that i'm older and he's older he knows what lines NOT to cross with me. i still show him respect, and i think that by me still showing him respect and loving him, it really makes him feel bad for the way he treated us. so i hope everything turns out okay for you and your family. were all always here to listen to you whenever you need someone to talk to.

ssguzzy828 · 07-25-2005, 09:50 PM

im sorry for what you are going thru. I have not expierienced this but i know friends who have. They went to a support group to learn how to deal with it, maybe something like that might help. I wish i could offer you better advice. I hope everything turns out well for you.

wendybee · 07-25-2005, 11:53 PM

so sorry to hear what your going through, maybe mum could get help from a counciler who would help her to be stronger around your dad, for now when he starts both of you get up and leave the room that way you wont have to listen to him going on.
remember its the drink talking not your dad.

wendy and rosie

iheartyorkies · 07-26-2005, 12:16 AM

Marie, I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a similar situation. I will keep you in my prayers.

07-25-2005, 05:33 PM	#1
Kelz YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Yukon, ok Posts: 2,885	Just venting!!! okay..so my dad..can be a great guy..but he drinks ENTIRELY way to much.. and then he decides to take it out on EVERYONE! but what really pisses me off is when he yells at my mom.. She would go out of her way to do anything for anyone...and does EVERYTHING around this house... He doesnt do anything..but he thinks since it's his house that everyone should bow down to him.. well i think thats b.s.. tonight he started yelling at my mom about what she cooked for dinner.. long story short. he decided to act like he was 5 and was like i'm not gonna eat this and got up from the table to put his plate on the counter and continued to tell everyone how my mom ruined his dinner..so finally i figured i'd but in and say..well now YOUR ruining everyone elses dinner.. and my mom started crying ... my dad always does this crap to her.. and i got up and got into with him about making her cry ..and he said she should cry it's her fault.. what kinda sh!t is that?!? seriously..i was like how freakin cold hearted can you be?? Then he told me that i needed to leave..haha yeah right! so we got into it more and my mom just cried.. He blames everything on her or me... and it's just simply the fact that he drinks to much... HES A FREAKING DRUNK!!!!!!!!! ohhhhhhhhhsldkjfaskl;djfskl;djfaskl;djfaskl;djf sorry guys i'm just really upset b/c i love my mom so much and would do anything for her and i hate seeing her treated like that! __________________ Kelly- momma to Parker, Star,Zoe, & Kegan.. RIP Silly Lily OK Yorkie Rescue - http://okyorkierescue.org

07-25-2005, 05:36 PM	#2
bkessler Mommy's Little Angel Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Northern New Jersey Posts: 1,496	I'm sorry that you and your mom are going through this.. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.. Good luck __________________ Brooke & Lily Mae (Maltipoo) Mocha (12/23/04-6/25/05)

07-25-2005, 05:39 PM	#3
Fran42478 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Staten Island, NY Posts: 1,731	I am so sorry to hear about the way your mom was treated by your dad...My sister and I were once in a situation like yours with my parents to..My dad would yell at my mom, say STUPID things in front of people and get really mad and walk away sometimes and my mom would just sit there and take it..GRRR Would make me and my sister SO angry! Then my dad got kidney cancer and he realized how poorly he was treating my mom and how much he really needed her by his side..Since then I have NOT heard him raise his voice once to her...Not saying your dad needs to get sick to realize what is going on, but one day he will realize it..Hopefull sooner rather than later Best wishes to you and them! And we are hear for you to vent all you want!! XoXoXo Fran __________________ Fran, Sophia Rose and Jake We Miss You Always Sammi 11/29/03 - 8/20/06

07-25-2005, 05:39 PM	#4
lycansmom Luna_Bug's Chew Toy Donating YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Tulsa Posts: 1,199	Awww Ah sugar i am sorry my dad is a big jerk as well my parents have been divorced for 11 yrs now he cheated on my mom the entire time they were married. I have only been on speaking terms with him for a little over a year now..i hope you feel better dads suck but hey they are still our dad's right. __________________ "some people without brains do an awful lot of talking dont they?"

07-25-2005, 05:40 PM	#5
Kelz YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Yukon, ok Posts: 2,885	thanks guys... i just really wish there was something i could do for her.. ya know? __________________ Kelly- momma to Parker, Star,Zoe, & Kegan.. RIP Silly Lily OK Yorkie Rescue - http://okyorkierescue.org

07-25-2005, 05:47 PM	#6
lycansmom Luna_Bug's Chew Toy Donating YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Tulsa Posts: 1,199	we know but all you can do is love her and be supportive. __________________ "some people without brains do an awful lot of talking dont they?"

07-25-2005, 05:56 PM	#7
red98vett Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Houston TX Posts: 33,590 Blog Entries: 1	I feel so bad for your family - usually if a man knows he's the weaker one in the family - he takes it out on everyone around him - there is nothing anyone can say when someone is drinking - I can't give you advise but I would try to ignore him - I know that can be very hard... but if no one responds to the yelling - he won't have a reason to keep doing it - it's no fun being a bully when you aren't intimidating anyone. Poor girl - I feel for you...I really do. __________________ Villette, Chanel & Cheri www.DesignsByVillette.net Custom Address Labels and Note Cards using YOUR Photos! Just Click HERE!

07-25-2005, 06:00 PM	#8
brosie1823 Linus - Master & Commander Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Norman, OK Posts: 917	I'm so sorry Kelly! I wish I had some words of wisdom, but I don't really. All I can tell you to do is continue to be supportive of your mom and hopefully things will work out in the end. __________________ Linus on Dogsterhttp://www.dogster.com/?150058 Lucy on Dogster http://www.dogster.com/?150061 Check out our bows! www.littledogbows.com

07-25-2005, 06:02 PM	#9
MeganS Donating YT 7000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: New Jersey Posts: 12,016 Blog Entries: 1	oh i'm so sorry. it must be really hard on all of you. i agree with villette ignore him. i will be praying for your whole family. good luck! __________________ Megan "I have my dreams, I have made plans." - The Pirate Queen All Gave Some; Some Gave All

07-25-2005, 07:17 PM	#10
iheartyorkies Boppin' Bo! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Indiana Posts: 2,719	I'm so sorry dear. The best thing you can do is be extra helpful around the house and be supportive of your mom. Alcohol abuse affects so many families. You can pray for your dad and for your mom. I'll remember you in my prayers as well. __________________ ~~~ i yorkies ~~~ Cynthia Turbo and Suri!

07-25-2005, 07:30 PM	#11
Marie Mom loves Gucci Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: New York City Posts: 6,427	Kelly, Im so sorry for the way your dad treats you guys. Alcoholism is a disease that affects the whole family. Be very supportive of your mom and extra helpful. Your story hits close to home. In my case Im in your mom's situation. My hubby drinks and always takes it on me. Today after work he had a couple of beers cause he was stress cause of his job(Carpenter), well his boss.Anyway he got home with a bad mood and I new I was going to hear it tonite. He started screaming and yelling at me cause I was online, Of course YT. I just ignored him. Of course I get depress but Im getting help for that. I wish my 12 yr old son was a bit supportive. Sorry, I hijack your thread and posted about my situation. It was mostly to tell you that you are not alone and I understand. I will have your mom and family in my prayers. I really hope your dad realizes his bad attitude before is too late. __________________ Huggies, Gucci and Marie http://www.dogster.com/?132187 "I have been egged"

07-25-2005, 07:47 PM	#12
jesscruz YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: seaside,ca Posts: 1,763	i'm so sorry for what your going through..believe it or not i went through the same thing with my step dad but guess what one day my mom got sick of it and after 22 yrs of being married she left him!and now she is sooo happy so i will pray that your mom will build the strength to stand her ground and let him know that she does not deserve to be treated this way.. i usto fight with my stepdad like you would not beilieve and he's raised me since i was a baby so he's more like my real dad. it got sooo bad that i even threw a drink in his face(i have a really bad temper )but now that i'm older and he's older he knows what lines NOT to cross with me. i still show him respect, and i think that by me still showing him respect and loving him, it really makes him feel bad for the way he treated us. so i hope everything turns out okay for you and your family. were all always here to listen to you whenever you need someone to talk to. __________________ mommy's little baby coco bear

07-25-2005, 09:50 PM	#13
ssguzzy828 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: south suburbs of illinois Posts: 734	im sorry for what you are going thru. I have not expierienced this but i know friends who have. They went to a support group to learn how to deal with it, maybe something like that might help. I wish i could offer you better advice. I hope everything turns out well for you.

07-25-2005, 11:53 PM	#14
wendybee BANNED! Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 966	so sorry to hear what your going through, maybe mum could get help from a counciler who would help her to be stronger around your dad, for now when he starts both of you get up and leave the room that way you wont have to listen to him going on. remember its the drink talking not your dad. wendy and rosie

07-26-2005, 12:16 AM	#15
iheartyorkies Boppin' Bo! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Indiana Posts: 2,719	Marie, I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a similar situation. I will keep you in my prayers. __________________ ~~~ i yorkies ~~~ Cynthia Turbo and Suri!