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Erin · 03-18-2008, 07:13 PM

Our problem at first was we tried to make EVERY party and didn't enjoy any of it because we were always supposed to be somewhere else. We gave that up and do one party a day or whatever we need to do to stay sane and no more. We will see the other side next time or on a different day and if someone has to see us the Saturday before or after the holiday and not ON the holiday then they will just have to get over it. We make an effort to see everyone, just not at the specific time that they demand we be there. After a few years of us not giving in they have stopped "demanding" and started requesting our presence, and if we decline, then oh well. We can only do so much and it won't get better with kids!

I think one day with one family is fine, one day with the other. If seeing your cousins is important why don't you switch days? I admit we try to pick the parties (on both sides) with the people we want to see because we have more fun!

SladesMommy · 03-18-2008, 08:01 PM

I'm sorry u are having to choose. Luckily I haven't had a serious enough BF yet to have to spend holidays with him, but I woudl be like you. I love my family!

bchgirl · 03-18-2008, 08:26 PM

Yes, Nobella...you are being a brat and because you love him....you will make time to spend holidays with his family...and he will love you more...for that.

We split holidays up...sometimes held gatherings on different dates...the date didn't actually matter...it was the people.

I'll tell you something else...I am only 47....but we no longer have either set of parents to spend holidays with. Enjoy it, because the time will come sooner or later...hopefully later..when you will have the entire day devoted to whatever it is YOU want to do.

Tillys_mom · 03-18-2008, 08:51 PM

I admit that I'm just as guilty as you are for this. I would rather spend the holidays with my folks and it is getting to the point my hubby is the same way, but his parents brought that on themselves. Christmas we always have his sides two days before Christmas and my side Christmas Eve which is pretty fair and nobody ever complains about that. Thanksgiving is always on my side, but we hate the travel they want everyone to do on his side. His family all lives within 20 minutes of each other except his aunt and she lives an hour away, but Thanksgiving they think everyone should travel up to her.

Easter we always have at our house. We invite both sides but usually my parents are the only ones that show up. I think it's great that you get along with your husbands side so well. I wish it wasn't so weird when I visit hubbys side. I'm always left out. If they treated me good I wouldn't mind going there more often and for the holidays. So I'd be grateful for that.

bchgirl · 03-18-2008, 08:53 PM

Another suggestion....celebrate the holiday at YOUR house...and invite them all.

Judy in Waco · 03-18-2008, 08:58 PM

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Originally Posted by bchgirl

Another suggestion....celebrate the holiday at YOUR house...and invite them all.

After we had our children that's exactly what we started doing. We didn't think all the rushing around was good for them. It's worked out really well for us.

celstu1 · 03-19-2008, 04:52 AM

I totally understand! My ex & I used to go our seperate ways on holidays

kind of stunk bc then we were not together... Im with a new guy now and we are trying to make it work so we can go to both our families houses. His for brunch and mine for lunch! You should offer to host it, that way you can invite BOTH families to your house and then you dont have to choose. When I lived with my ex we had a huge house, so we hosted Easter one year with like 20 people from his family and mine. It was fun and like the first holiday we really spent together! (10 years together crazy huh?)

Yeah if I were you Id suck it up and go! Sounds like hes done it for you a few times! It will all work out nicely Im sure, you'll be happy to make him happy too!

vainchick5 · 03-19-2008, 07:50 AM

Ok ladies I am just going to take your advice and suck it up. Afterall his family is awesome and they are a lot of fun. Though I feel bad for leaving my family, I will do it for my honey. Besides it's not like we're not getting to see them at all. But hopefully after we're married in June, we'll start hosting everything at our house so there is no worry.

vainchick5 · 03-24-2008, 09:26 AM

Ok so I did what he wanted this year and I'm really glad I did. Not only did we have a great weekend from friday night to sunday with my family, we had an excellent lunch at his brothers house sunday at 2pm. So we were at my families house till past noon. It was wonderful, although I missed them during the lunch I saw how happy Rob was to be with his family for a holidays for a change. When we came home he gave me a big hug and kiss and said "THANK YOU FOR BEING SO WONDERFUL". That made my entire weekend. I was happy I didn't make a stink about it or get all pouty. He definitely appreciated it.

hha · 03-24-2008, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by vainchick5

Ok so I did what he wanted this year and I'm really glad I did. Not only did we have a great weekend from friday night to sunday with my family, we had an excellent lunch at his brothers house sunday at 2pm. So we were at my families house till past noon. It was wonderful, although I missed them during the lunch I saw how happy Rob was to be with his family for a holidays for a change. When we came home he gave me a big hug and kiss and said "THANK YOU FOR BEING SO WONDERFUL". That made my entire weekend. I was happy I didn't make a stink about it or get all pouty. He definitely appreciated it.

That's great you went..I'm very proud of you...and see, you had a great time after all..

Charlies Angel · 03-24-2008, 12:44 PM

I'd much rather spend the holidays with my family over my inlaws. Gah they get on my nerves, plus I work with my father in law and he's not the greatest. Plus hubby is the only child and it's boring over there with his parents and I just dont want to spend time with them anyway gah...I dont think your being bratty at all...if anyones bratty its me lol

03-18-2008, 07:13 PM	#16
Erin Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Chicago Suburbs Posts: 3,306	Our problem at first was we tried to make EVERY party and didn't enjoy any of it because we were always supposed to be somewhere else. We gave that up and do one party a day or whatever we need to do to stay sane and no more. We will see the other side next time or on a different day and if someone has to see us the Saturday before or after the holiday and not ON the holiday then they will just have to get over it. We make an effort to see everyone, just not at the specific time that they demand we be there. After a few years of us not giving in they have stopped "demanding" and started requesting our presence, and if we decline, then oh well. We can only do so much and it won't get better with kids! I think one day with one family is fine, one day with the other. If seeing your cousins is important why don't you switch days? I admit we try to pick the parties (on both sides) with the people we want to see because we have more fun! __________________ Erin, Sammy & Loki Sewing patterns and tutorials @ www.dogundermydesk.com Last edited by Erin; 03-18-2008 at 07:15 PM.

03-18-2008, 08:01 PM	#17
SladesMommy Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: ATX Posts: 4,513	I'm sorry u are having to choose. Luckily I haven't had a serious enough BF yet to have to spend holidays with him, but I woudl be like you. I love my family! __________________ GIGANTIC DOG CLOTHES SALE!!! <--- CLlCK!

03-18-2008, 08:26 PM	#18
bchgirl Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: at da beach Posts: 15,444 Blog Entries: 2	Yes, Nobella...you are being a brat and because you love him....you will make time to spend holidays with his family...and he will love you more...for that. We split holidays up...sometimes held gatherings on different dates...the date didn't actually matter...it was the people. I'll tell you something else...I am only 47....but we no longer have either set of parents to spend holidays with. Enjoy it, because the time will come sooner or later...hopefully later..when you will have the entire day devoted to whatever it is YOU want to do. __________________ Deb, Reese, Reggie, Frazier, Libby, Sidney, & Bodie Trace & Ramsey who watch over us www.biewersbythebay.com

03-18-2008, 08:51 PM	#19
Tillys_mom Spoilin' Tilly & Jack Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 2,227	I admit that I'm just as guilty as you are for this. I would rather spend the holidays with my folks and it is getting to the point my hubby is the same way, but his parents brought that on themselves. Christmas we always have his sides two days before Christmas and my side Christmas Eve which is pretty fair and nobody ever complains about that. Thanksgiving is always on my side, but we hate the travel they want everyone to do on his side. His family all lives within 20 minutes of each other except his aunt and she lives an hour away, but Thanksgiving they think everyone should travel up to her. Easter we always have at our house. We invite both sides but usually my parents are the only ones that show up. I think it's great that you get along with your husbands side so well. I wish it wasn't so weird when I visit hubbys side. I'm always left out. If they treated me good I wouldn't mind going there more often and for the holidays. So I'd be grateful for that. __________________ Momma Tilly Money will buy you a pretty good dog, but it won't buy the wag of his tail.

03-18-2008, 08:53 PM	#20
bchgirl Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: at da beach Posts: 15,444 Blog Entries: 2	Another suggestion....celebrate the holiday at YOUR house...and invite them all. __________________ Deb, Reese, Reggie, Frazier, Libby, Sidney, & Bodie Trace & Ramsey who watch over us www.biewersbythebay.com

03-19-2008, 04:52 AM	#22
celstu1 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 10,534	I totally understand! My ex & I used to go our seperate ways on holidays kind of stunk bc then we were not together... Im with a new guy now and we are trying to make it work so we can go to both our families houses. His for brunch and mine for lunch! You should offer to host it, that way you can invite BOTH families to your house and then you dont have to choose. When I lived with my ex we had a huge house, so we hosted Easter one year with like 20 people from his family and mine. It was fun and like the first holiday we really spent together! (10 years together crazy huh?) Yeah if I were you Id suck it up and go! Sounds like hes done it for you a few times! It will all work out nicely Im sure, you'll be happy to make him happy too! __________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz

03-19-2008, 07:50 AM	#23
vainchick5 YT 6000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: CA Posts: 6,588	Ok ladies I am just going to take your advice and suck it up. Afterall his family is awesome and they are a lot of fun. Though I feel bad for leaving my family, I will do it for my honey. Besides it's not like we're not getting to see them at all. But hopefully after we're married in June, we'll start hosting everything at our house so there is no worry. __________________ Mommy to Coco and Rocco

03-24-2008, 09:26 AM	#24
vainchick5 YT 6000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: CA Posts: 6,588	Ok so I did what he wanted this year and I'm really glad I did. Not only did we have a great weekend from friday night to sunday with my family, we had an excellent lunch at his brothers house sunday at 2pm. So we were at my families house till past noon. It was wonderful, although I missed them during the lunch I saw how happy Rob was to be with his family for a holidays for a change. When we came home he gave me a big hug and kiss and said "THANK YOU FOR BEING SO WONDERFUL". That made my entire weekend. I was happy I didn't make a stink about it or get all pouty. He definitely appreciated it. __________________ Mommy to Coco and Rocco

03-24-2008, 12:44 PM	#26
Charlies Angel No Longer a Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Georgia Posts: 311	haha I'd much rather spend the holidays with my family over my inlaws. Gah they get on my nerves, plus I work with my father in law and he's not the greatest. Plus hubby is the only child and it's boring over there with his parents and I just dont want to spend time with them anyway gah...I dont think your being bratty at all...if anyones bratty its me lol