Am I being a brat??
 

So I have been totally feeling bratty because my sweetie wants to spend easter with his family this year. Our parents are about 2 hours apart. So we're going to my parents house friday night and going to Mass together saturday night, then we're having breakfast sunday and leaving to go to his parents for lunch. Ok so I know we're spending a weekend (really like a day) with my family, but I really wanted to have lunch with my family too. I won't get to see my cousins cause by the time we leave everyone is still at Church. But I feel like I can't say much because he's spent Thanksgivings, Christmases and other holidays just with my family. Am I being a brat? I've never missed holidays with my family EVER!!! Not even New Years. I love spending time with my family and I try to be fair which is why I haven't said anything, but it's bugging me. I want to spend Easter at home..lol..with MYYYY family. He's never complained about missing his family events and usually he ends up missing them or we end up going later to his families events, but HELLO THEY LIVE LIKE 10 MIN AWAY..Lol..Don't get me wrong I LOVE spending time with his family they are super nice and fun to be around. But I just feel bad for missing a holiday with my family. Seems like boys are more used to missing a few holidays here and there. We tried to think of alternatives but this was the best way. Because even if we stay for a quick lunch at my parents, by the time we get to his parents it's dinner time and everyone is gathering there for lunch after church. Am I being unfair? Should I just get over it and be fair like he does? Am I being unreasonable?

That's the thing, I know I'll have an AWESOME time with his family. I love them and love being with them. I just hate missing out being with mine. Which I know he must feel when he's with mine, but it seems boys don't have the separation issues girls have from their families..lol..Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe he feels this way but just doesn't say anything :rolleyes:

I agree too. :(

I have always heard that a relationship has to be 50/50- well, I think that's true, but you can't split it 50/50 ! so sometimes you have to give 90%- sometimes he has to give 90% Then it AVERAGES OUT TO 50/50!
you know what who's turn it is, don't ya!
Just say a little thank you prayer that you have so much family to spend holiday's with!!
Happy Easter- and enjoy being with everyone!!

You're lucky he's going with you, as he would probably rather spend the time with his family...sometimes as hard as it is, you have to do things to make the other "one" happy..

ABSOLUTELY and a Very good post.

First of all, he is being great...give that man a pat on the back. Then, go to his house some.

I have two adult boys and I don't think it's fair to say they miss being with their family any less than girls. They may hide it better, but I'm sure men want to spend time with their families as well.

Like others have said, you are VERY lucky to have so many choices and so many people who love both of you. :)

Thank you ladies. I knew I needed to come and get a quick pat on the rear for being a brat. He's great about it even though I'm sure he misses being with them during certain holidays. But he also has this HUGE family,a nd I have just me, my parents, sister and uncles son. So they really miss us when we're not there. I feel bad for leaving them. I sometimes feel like crying on the way home. I know I need to cut the cord. But I always suggest going to his families house so he doesn't feel like I am keeping him away. Or I try to find an amicable route so everyone gets to be with their family. Like christmas weekend we were with my parents, on christmas eve and work up christmas day, had lunch then drove 2 hours back to his parents for christmas dinner. So we try but it's hard. I wish my parents would move here :D That's my solution..haha..You are right, we are so lucky to have so many wonderful people in our lives to share with. I have seen the error of my ways :p

This is one of those things as married people that is so difficult. Of course you don't want to miss any events with your family but neither does he, both ways it's hard...Just wait until you have kids...I have fought with my husband and my brothers and their wives for 12 years over it. Someone always misses out on something and no one is ever happy. Occasionally my husband and I take turns each year with which family's events will take precedence. But that hasn't been fun either.

This year my mother finally decided she would start doing all holidays a day early so that her kids could spend the real holiday with their spouse's family. It has turned out soo nice. No more running from one family to the other on christmas, easter...and my mother has us all to herself all day.

What a great idea. At least your mom came up with a great idea. Try convincing either one family to do it a day earlier :rolleyes: Sheesh..It's great when they think of it on their own so it's not pushed on them...but I may suggest it.

After years of fighting, my mother was tired of us. :p You'll come up with a good solution after a while that will work out.

I agree:thumbup:

I have two grown sons and two wonderful DIL's. I KNOW that the guys want to spend time with their family, too. But most men won't whine that they want to spend the day with their mommy:p I promise you he will appreciate your effort, and so will his family:thumbup: I'm glad you enjoy them, too. Sure makes life nice;)

My problem is GETTING my hubby to HIS parents house! He never wants to go with the exception being Christmas & Thanksgiving and would rather be at my mom's house... I feel bad , I know his mom must think its me keeping him away but on the contray its him... So my solution most of the time is to get his parents over to our house or if its at my mom's her's... but yea I vote it his turn too... well have fun!