I am about to go OFF!!!!!

[pepe mint]

Originally Posted by erickajm

I am getting so ansy waiting for their reply!

no reply yet but I still feel better knowing that I told them. and I did it nicely (as nice as can be anyway)...but was sure to let them know that they will not be invited over again...and that I didn't blame the kids...I blame the parents! I also pointed out that I felt there was a lack of concern and respect in my home and that it really upset me.

[sallen15]

Wow I can't believe the things some parents let their children get away with. When I was younger, my parents had a rule, if I went to someone's house to play or spend the night I had to stay and help my friend clean-up the next day. Even after birthday parties, etc. And to think that someone just lets there kids run around and destroy things in that manner is disgusting. Seems like those parents might need a lesson from Nanny 911.

[erickajm]

I totally agree with you! I'm glad if anything else you were able to point out to them how pathetic...in a nice way that they are. You go girl!

[pepe mint]

I think she tried to call but I was outside with my daughter. whoever it was didn't leave a message, so I don't know for sure. But I know it is the same prefix as her cell #.

[Connie]

Good grief! What is wrong with parents these days that don't discipline their children! I raised my kids to have respect for people's privacy and property. I never had to worry when they were in other homes, or our own, because they knew how to conduct themselves. I guess many parents don't believe in discipline, and don't give a rat's behind what destruction their kids do. I have no patience for that kind of nonsense.

Good for you in writing them an email. Some people need to be told because they can't see for themselves. Thank goodness you won't feel forced into having them over for dinner ever again! Bless your heart for doing that, but like I said...you need not worry about them coming back. Hugs to you. I can't believe the mess they made of that play room...and the fish...that is outrageous!

[JCarlson2004]

Originally Posted by pepe mint

I think she tried to call but I was outside with my daughter. whoever it was didn't leave a message, so I don't know for sure. But I know it is the same prefix as her cell #.

She better have an apology and an explanation!

[girdygirl]

anynews yet?

[daisy mae06]

Just checking to see if you heard anything yet? I hope she at least apologizes for her and her sons behavior.

[MyFairLacy]

Darn..I am dying to know what their response is. I hope they really read it and learn from it. You definitely deserve an apology and they need to start raising their kids better before they grow up and land in jail

[pepe mint]

I wish I had an update for you all unfortunately, I do not.

[SladesMommy]

For some reason I doubt you'll get a reply.

I'm just glad you said something to it. Hopefully they'll take it to heart and make their children start behaving better.

[Ashley V]

How did your poor daughter react to what happened with her fish and playroom?

[pepe mint]

Originally Posted by Ashley V

How did your poor daughter react to what happened with her fish and playroom?

she really doesn't know that anything happened
i told her that they made a mess but that I cleaned it up. she thanked me for cleaning it. but she has no idea anything happened to her fish.....yet

[pepe mint]

Well, I got an email from her. long story short, she said her boys got in a lot of trouble, and that she cried over my email, but that she honestly did not think her boys had caused any trouble. She went on to say that the other 3 times that she has been over (including the time that she called and asked if she could bring the boys over because she was in the neighborhood and needed a babysitter), that my daughters play room was not clean. so she expects it to be that way every day. she said she did not look in there before they went in to play, and when had gone into my daughters bedroom, there was a laundry hamper in the middle of the room along with a bunch of stuff piled on her dresser. So she assumed that since her room was "a mess" that the play room was too. WHATEVER. I am not going to defend my daughter here...because she has been under a lot of pressure from us over the last or 8 months about keeping her rooms cleaner and she has done a GREAT job. So...unfortunately, she didn't know that and just assumed what she did...and "didn't realize" that her boys had "made a bigger mess than they ever have in their entire lives". She says that she had asked them if they cleaned up everything they played with and they said yes, so she believed them and they just left.

about the fish...she said that the boys have never been around a fish before and they thought they could pet the fish like they do their cats. PUHLEEEEZZZEEE!!!!!!!! she also said that her boys said that the markers and toys and stuff that were in the fish tank were already there. now that is BULL because my daughter knows better!!! she has never once put anything in there other than fish food, and she is not even allowed to do that anymore because she dumped a bunch in there about 2 years ago. she would NEVER put toys and stuff in there. NEVER. I will take that to my grave!!!

so all in all, she really doesn't think her kids are at fault here. she is amazed that I would even bring it up to her. she said she would never contact someone's parents and tell them that they were upset about the condition their kids left her house. She says that she would never even ask OR allow children to clean up their messes in her house...because she feels it is her responsibility as the host. well, that is what is wrong with her...she doesn't feel that as a guest, you should have to clean up after your children. so therefore, she doesn't feel that she should have to have her..or her children clean up after they have spent 3 hours or more playing in a play room. not even when her children were the only ones in there...REMEMBER...my daughter was not here. it was ONLY her kids playing here.

now...I do not allow my guests to help me with the dishes and general clean up like that after dinner....I would rather them just enjoy being here and I will clean that stuff up after everyone is gone. HOWEVER, I have never had a guest come into my home for dinner and NOT at least offer...and I would never go to someone's house for dinner and not offer to help clean up. and I would offer with the FULL intention of really doing it!!!! and you better believe, that my child is being raised to be the same way!!! she WILL clean up after herself at our house and at other people's house. bottom line.

The problem I see is that she does not feel she should have to go to someone's house and clean up after herself...and she is not raising her kids to feel that they should clean up the toys they play with...the chalk, moon sand, play dough, and everything else that they play with for 3+ hours. It should be up to her to offer to clean up, and up to me to deny the offer if I feel that it is not necessary. and 99.99% of the time, I would not accept it. HOWEVER, I would have accepted the offer for their children to clean up after the tornado mess that they left behind. That would have been my .001%.

does that make sense?

I'm really upset about her response. but honestly, I expected it.

[daisy mae06]

Mandee You were Totally in the right in this and that excuse for a Parent really needs to get a Clue. You did the right thing. I bet she knows that she is not welcome to to Invite herself to dinner again.