Dare I need to hear a 'thank you' ?

[LouisLove]

Originally Posted by teri88

When we were first married my husband suggested moving in with my mom to save for a house. I asked him which he'd rather save money or his marriage. So I admire you for sticking it out with your in laws. It WILL all be worth it when you are finished school and can move out. Is your husband a student too? It will get better when school is over and you move on. And don't give up on training him! Like kids, they think if they wear you down you'll just do it yourself because it's easier. But if you stick with it and don't do his chores for him he'll get it eventually. I know it's hard when the garbage can is overflowing but he needs to learn that it's his job and if he doesn't do it it won't get done. (That's from hubby101...mine is pretty well trained, lol, but we've been married 20 years)

Yes, he is a student. he will be done this coming fall... can't wait! Thanks for the tip. i had a serious conversation with him on Tuesday. I think we will be alright.

[jp4m2]

I feel for you...it sure can be trying living with other people, at least your three years into this so just have a little longer to go..... you can do this!.....Try and keep your eye on the goal and gain strength through adversity....try not to let any anger, resentments or bitterness side track you....positive thoughts and gratitude.

[Potter]

I totally hear what you are saying and I can relate. I am currently living with my in-laws too. We have many more months to go before we move to our own house. We also have hubby's brothers living under the same roof. It can be hard at times. While my MIL is okay, there are still times when things become weird and you don't have a clue what is going on. It seems that when things go wrong, it is always your fault although you are the last person to find out what happened. Its an assumption but its never told to your face so you don't even get a chance to defend yourself and now I don't even care to do so anymore because nothing can change their mind. Also, there are lots of expectations going on. You should do this that this that and after you do it, it is not good enough, never is so being me, I stopped and do what I need to do, find myself a job.My FIL he can go to the extent of asking everyone in the house if they want a piece of fruit but you and you are there right in the middle of everyone. He does it when my hubby is not home. It might be a small thing but it is not courteous at all. It shows how much you are not accepted as a family member and really sometimes no one can blame you when you don't feel like one.

[4doggiemama]

Originally Posted by LouisLove

. They have always had "maids" to do all their cleaning and I just refuse to have someone else clean up the two rooms and one bathroom we have, it's just not necessary, so my hubs "needs direction" he can not see that the trash is full, or that we need to vacuum or that the toilet needs to be scrubbed, so I do it and the laundry and the grooming and dog walking and plan for his appointments and never hear a thank you!!!!!

If your dh has grown up with "maids" then I highly doubt if he has a clue what housework (i.e. cleaning up the trash) consists of. I've been married 35 yrs. and I still expect my dh to read my mind and do this or that. When I get annoyed he reminds me that he can't read my mind and that I need to tell him. That does get old though. There are men who automatically do house-chores but most do not see what needs to be done, IMO.

[LouisLove]

Thank you. I know you sent this a while ago, but it means a lot to me- the encouragement I mean. I have to have patience otherwise we wold probably have to re home our Louis and that would definitely break my heart....