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[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by sweetr72

I had a bad sleepover experience with a friends Dad as a child and never let my children sleep over at friends houses because of that. They get mad at me for it but I always tell them they can certainly go over but there is no reason to sleep there...all your doing is sleeping anyhow lol...you might as well be comfortable in your own bed...so far its gotten me by. My daughters friends are always asking to sleep her too...but I dont want to put my self in a situation for false accusal so no one sleeps here either...its a shame that we have to even think of these things but unfortunately predators come in all shapes, sizes and sexes...I am sorry for your son and It sounds like he is dealing well with it and is very lucky he didnt bottle it up his whole life..

Dawn

My mom was like that with me. She wouldn't let me sleep at a friend's house unless she knew them really well and every member of the family, and has been there herself. I used to stay at my friend's house a lot but it was just her and her single mom so she trusted it.

[TommiGirl]

I am so sorry to hear this. I will pray for your son and hope he heals emotionally.

It is sad when you cannot trust people you think you know so well.

[scrappysmom]

I am so sorry to hear this ,my parents hardly let me stay at a friends house because of things like that my parents didnt trust to many people ,glad to hear you got help for your son ,sending prayers for your family.

[abbie's mom]

Leslie, I am so sorry for this horrid experience for your entire family. Prayers for healing and peace.

Originally Posted by sweetr72

.its a shame that we have to even think of these things but unfortunately predators come in all shapes, sizes and sexes...

Yes, they do. You know, I am often at odds with myself about being overprotective of my daughter who cannot talk and tell me things. I must depend (at least part-time) on caregivers to help me in our home with her. Then, I hear another story like this one. I am not paranoid, and must continue to be ever-aware.

[baileysmom31]

Originally Posted by patty58

Leslie, I am so sorry that this happened to your family. I can understand a little because we are going thru this with my 6 year old granddaughter. She was sexually assaulted by an 11 year old boy this past summer. She was afraid to tell because he had said the police would take her. My daughter was always around when they were playing. We are still in the court process and in counseling. My daughter is very open because she wants all parents that it can happen almost right in front of you....in the bushes, in the laundry room, on the playground. The guilt my daughter is feeling is horrible. I will keep you in my prayers. PM me if you ever need to vent....we have done lots of venting.

Thanks Patti.. its been a hard road especially when there are children involved as in your daughters case. Both the victim and offender were children and its really hard sometimes to keep this all in perspective. We found out that the abuser has being abuse by an adult for many years and this was a really good friend of mine's son. I am so heartbroken for all the damage. I don't know what the laws are like in the US but here in Canada there isn't any legal option unless the abuser is over 12. Although there are a few counts of abuse since he turned 12, we really feel that he needs counseling and support, more that punishment, to get this behind him.

I pray that things go well for your family and thatnk you for th offer to PM you. Same goes the other way

Hugs

Leslie

[baileysmom31]

Originally Posted by abbie's mom

I am not paranoid, and must continue to be ever-aware.

For sure.. I don't want to scare people but I really thought it was okay for same sex children to sleep in the same room for a sleepover. My views have changed so much after this.. just keep being aware and always be checking!

[PANAMA69]

Originally Posted by patty58

Leslie, I am so sorry that this happened to your family. I can understand a little because we are going thru this with my 6 year old granddaughter. She was sexually assaulted by an 11 year old boy this past summer. She was afraid to tell because he had said the police would take her. My daughter was always around when they were playing. We are still in the court process and in counseling. My daughter is very open because she wants all parents that it can happen almost right in front of you....in the bushes, in the laundry room, on the playground. The guilt my daughter is feeling is horrible. I will keep you in my prayers. PM me if you ever need to vent....we have done lots of venting.

So sorry that happens to you family too, sending prayers to your way too