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BLowry · 01-07-2008, 03:29 PM

My heart breaks for you..I can't even imagine if one of my girls did that to me. Teenagers today, are not easy to raise. My girls are 24 and 29 yrs old. My 29 yr old is married and expecting her first child. BELIEVE me when I tell you...I had many many days of pulling my hair out! The ages of your boys is usually when they start wanting to be their own person. Unfortunately for your husband, his son decided to leave. I'm sure that broke his heart. And your son, seeing this, probably thinks this is a great thing. You sound like a very caring, loving, nurturing Mom, I'm sure if your son does leave when he is able it won't be long before he is back....They all think the grass is greener...Mine threatened to leave also....This changed when they turned 18-19 yrs old. Have you thought about counseling for yourself? I think it would be a good idea....

I will keep you in my thoughts a prayers.

sending you a big....

Angela · 01-07-2008, 03:41 PM

Thanks for taking time and talk with me. I am sure Shane is hurt and feels betrayed so that is why I can't talk to him about Christian, just dosen't seem fair. I have never thought of counciling for me...talking here as helped more than I thought it would though. I am not crying today for the first time :>)

Angie

patty58 · 01-07-2008, 04:09 PM

Angie, I am so sorry you are going thru this. I have been where you are with your son. When my daughter was a sophmore in high school she go the "attitude". She went from being voted most popular to not wanting to go to school at all, ran with the wrong crowd, experimented with drugs, ran away, disrespected every one and everything. We didn't know what to do. We MADE her go to counseling. Tried three different ones. Put her on antidepressants. Tried homebound education. Even the therapist said he thanked God that she wasn't his. The good thing. After about 2 years he outgrew it and is my best friend. She is 33 with 2 daughters of her own and finishing up getting her RN. I'm telling you this to give you some hope that things will get better. Teenage is a HARD age to be for some kids. My sons went thru nothing like what my daughter did and I thank God every day for it

Hang in there and talk to your dr. Maybe he will have some suggestions.

Angela · 01-08-2008, 12:32 PM

Thanks Patty. Christian dosen't smoke or hang out with the wrong crowd, he is not depressed....I wish in a way there was something I could blame this on. He went to wal mart with me last night, well I rode w/him and he was as calm as he could be, we had not argued and he still says he is moving out in Feb. but, he would still be around. He got his school supplies checked out while I was grocery shopping and called the cell to see where I was in the store...he said Man this stuff was 16.00 and I bought the cheapest of everything. I told him life is expensive that he has a Mother who loves him and a room paid for that I wish he would stay and save his money while he finished his last year in school. There is nothing more I can do or say. He knows I love him & want him. Maybe all his big plans will fall through at least until he is finished with school.

Angie

01-07-2008, 03:29 PM	#16
BLowry My furkids Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 4,625 Blog Entries: 1	My heart breaks for you..I can't even imagine if one of my girls did that to me. Teenagers today, are not easy to raise. My girls are 24 and 29 yrs old. My 29 yr old is married and expecting her first child. BELIEVE me when I tell you...I had many many days of pulling my hair out! The ages of your boys is usually when they start wanting to be their own person. Unfortunately for your husband, his son decided to leave. I'm sure that broke his heart. And your son, seeing this, probably thinks this is a great thing. You sound like a very caring, loving, nurturing Mom, I'm sure if your son does leave when he is able it won't be long before he is back....They all think the grass is greener...Mine threatened to leave also....This changed when they turned 18-19 yrs old. Have you thought about counseling for yourself? I think it would be a good idea.... I will keep you in my thoughts a prayers. sending you a big.... __________________ Brenda

01-07-2008, 04:09 PM	#18
patty58 Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: texas Posts: 5,272	Angie, I am so sorry you are going thru this. I have been where you are with your son. When my daughter was a sophmore in high school she go the "attitude". She went from being voted most popular to not wanting to go to school at all, ran with the wrong crowd, experimented with drugs, ran away, disrespected every one and everything. We didn't know what to do. We MADE her go to counseling. Tried three different ones. Put her on antidepressants. Tried homebound education. Even the therapist said he thanked God that she wasn't his. The good thing. After about 2 years he outgrew it and is my best friend. She is 33 with 2 daughters of her own and finishing up getting her RN. I'm telling you this to give you some hope that things will get better. Teenage is a HARD age to be for some kids. My sons went thru nothing like what my daughter did and I thank God every day for it Hang in there and talk to your dr. Maybe he will have some suggestions. __________________ Decide To Make It A Good Day

01-07-2008, 03:41 PM	#17
Angela YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, LA Posts: 849	Thanks for taking time and talk with me. I am sure Shane is hurt and feels betrayed so that is why I can't talk to him about Christian, just dosen't seem fair. I have never thought of counciling for me...talking here as helped more than I thought it would though. I am not crying today for the first time :>) Angie

01-08-2008, 12:32 PM	#19
Angela YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, LA Posts: 849	Thanks Patty. Christian dosen't smoke or hang out with the wrong crowd, he is not depressed....I wish in a way there was something I could blame this on. He went to wal mart with me last night, well I rode w/him and he was as calm as he could be, we had not argued and he still says he is moving out in Feb. but, he would still be around. He got his school supplies checked out while I was grocery shopping and called the cell to see where I was in the store...he said Man this stuff was 16.00 and I bought the cheapest of everything. I told him life is expensive that he has a Mother who loves him and a room paid for that I wish he would stay and save his money while he finished his last year in school. There is nothing more I can do or say. He knows I love him & want him. Maybe all his big plans will fall through at least until he is finished with school. Angie