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06-01-2005, 09:26 AM | #1 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: NJ
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| I'm Scared As everyone knows, because I've said it in about 20 different places, we are getting Tucker on Saturday. I have to tell you, I'm really scared. I'm sure he's fine and all, but after losing Bandit I'm just a wreck, thinking about all that can go wrong. How can I get over it? Can someone who has been through this give me some advice? I don't know how I would have gotten through Bandit without all of the people on here who were so wonderful. I'm really happy and excited for our new baby boy, but now I've heard of so many things that can go wrong and it makes me crazy thinking about it. Help!!
__________________ Teri Owned by and completely devoted to Tucker... Maddie, we will always love you Bandit, you are always in my heart Proud Member SSLS |
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06-01-2005, 10:17 AM | #2 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Canada
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| Take it as a new life adventure with Tucker . I am sure he'll brighten your life. |
06-01-2005, 10:32 AM | #3 |
I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana
Posts: 37,147
| I know its easier said than done but don't think about what can go wrong. Only think about how much brighter your life will be with a new little puppy. They really do soften the hurts. Good luck!!!
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06-01-2005, 10:36 AM | #4 |
YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Florida
Posts: 397
| From one Teri to another I can tell you this...if you concentrate on all the bad things that could go wrong you'll miss out on so many good things that are going right! Never forget Bandit but enjoy your new baby! |
06-01-2005, 10:39 AM | #5 |
Mom loves Gucci Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: New York City
Posts: 6,427
| I know is going to be hard but try to enjoy him and not to worry to much. Worrying is part of being a Mommy, but just dont waste to much time over worrying. Enjoy him, and learn to love him. I have never gone thru the same thing you have, but I know that Bandit will always have a special place in your heart and I know he is happy that you have Tucker now to love. |
06-01-2005, 10:46 AM | #6 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2005 Location: Orlando, FL
Posts: 32
| I had this problem years ago when my horse died. The one thing in the world I did NOT want was another horse. I couldn't open myself up to the possibility of getting hurt that badly again. But you need to think about all the good things that come out of connecting yourself with an animal. Think of all the good times you had with Bandit and think about what your life would be like without that connection. I listened to Garth Brook's song, The Dance, a LOT after I lost my horse. It hurt like crazy but I wouldn't have given up my time with her for anything. And if you close yourself to the relationship you're going to have with Tucker (I'm naming my little guy Tucker and I pick him up on Saturday, too!!!), you'll be worse off. Love him--he needs it! And I know you need it, too. We can raise our Tucker's together!! It's gonna be GREAT! |
06-01-2005, 10:47 AM | #7 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Rockland county, NY
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| 2 Weeks before I got Desi #2, (before I found this site) I purchased a puppy from what I now know to be a puppy mill over the internet. It was an 8 ounce tiny chihuahua 8 weeks old. She was Desi #1.. the breeder shipped me this dog from Grandville/ Oranville (? or something close to that) in Texas. When my Vet saw this dog, I thought she was going to freak out. She called this breeder every name in the book and wanted her phone number ( I didn't have it on me at the time). She said any breeder that would ship a dog that small is no less than a criminal and she wanted to tell her so. To make a long story short.... I adored this little puppy, she fit in the palm of my hand from nose to tail... But, unfortunately, she became ill 2 days after I got her and it was in and out of the Vet for one month until she died. I was completely destroyed.. it was the first dog that I had owned that was completely mine. I decided that I wanted another puppy right away but not a chihuahua because I didn't want to replace her. Which is how I now have Desi #2. When Desi came I worried over every hiccup, any bump, any scrape, if she whined, if she cried, if she was cold, or too hot...etc.. But, you will learn to relax and just enjoy your puppy. I still think of Desi #1 - and I wonder what she would be like now..But, I also thank her for bringing my little yorkie into my life. You will be fine and your puppy will be fine.. |
06-01-2005, 11:22 AM | #8 |
BANNED! Join Date: Mar 2005
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| Teri- I remember how grief sticken you were when Bandit died and how you didn't want another dog then. You have come a long way and you have not forgotten Bandit but you have opened your heart to Tucker. You can only do the best that you can do and then let God do the rest. Tucker will be fine, you will see. Just try to re lax and enjoy. Some things in life we cannot control. |
06-01-2005, 11:27 AM | #9 | |
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I've been through this, twice!! However, your heart is capable of giving so much and you will have a happy full heart when Tucker arrives. Nothing can replace Bandit as he will always have a special place in your heart but, amazingly enough the heart carries room for all the love in the world to continue ... Bless your heart and enjoy all the new moments you are soon to have with little Tucker.
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06-01-2005, 11:45 AM | #10 |
YT 6000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Seattle, WA
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| teri88: It can be a bit scary to get a new baby, but just give Tucker your full love and attention. He will be a great addition to your family and he will love and cherish you, as you will him. Just remember that he is not Bandit, but let your memories of Bandit stay with you always. Stay positive and enjoy the experience! Just let the vet check Tucker out at scheduled intervals and just to ease your mind, have everything ready in case of an emergency. On a side note, there's actually ANOTHER YorkieTalk member (JennJana) picking up THEIR Tucker this Saturday too. That is such a coincidence! What a small Yorkie world! I'll PM her your thread. Last edited by fasteddie; 06-01-2005 at 11:49 AM. |
06-01-2005, 11:55 AM | #11 |
Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2005
Posts: 24
| Been There.. Terri, I haven't been through exactly what you went through with dear Bandit, but I have lost two very precious cats in the past years and never thought I'd ever get over losing them. But, there is such a huge love in my heart for animals, that it cannot be denied. Why deprive some other dear child of fur of a wonderful home and love because of fear, allowing that to happen gives death the credit it does not deserve. You be brave for little Tucker, he'll need you. He will never take Bandit's place in your heart and you won't want him to, but your heart is very big and you've got lots of room for another little precious soul. |
06-01-2005, 12:52 PM | #12 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: NJ
Posts: 4,021
| Thank you everyone, what would I do without YT? I am so excited to get Tucker, and he doesn't really look like Bandit, even though they are both pure Yorkies. I do feel better after reading all of your comments, I know that I will love this little guy. And I'll try not to drive him crazy worrying about him! Be prepared for lots of stories and pictures!
__________________ Teri Owned by and completely devoted to Tucker... Maddie, we will always love you Bandit, you are always in my heart Proud Member SSLS |
06-01-2005, 12:53 PM | #13 |
Charmed by Sophie & Daisy Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: North Alabama
Posts: 593
| Teri, there is no doubt that you will feel lots of anxiety and stress over Tucker. It's inevitable, considering what you experienced with Bandit's death. Just remember to breathe deeply, relax, and know that truly the odds are in your favor that Tucker will live a long and healthy life with your family. My best thoughts to you! |
06-01-2005, 01:33 PM | #14 |
Lily Loves Maximus Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Missouri
Posts: 2,633
| You got so many good words of wisdom that I can't really add anything new. Our YT community is the best bunch of people!!!! Little Tucker will be a new little blessing and will soon fill your heart with happiness and love. Can't wait to read about all of his cute little antics!
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06-01-2005, 03:46 PM | #15 |
Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member | I'll echo that - you'll be nervous at first ...but in time you'll just enjoy your new baby just like you did with Bandit - good luck honey fourdez...that was very sad ..I'm sorry... |
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