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TinyBit · 07-06-2007, 06:12 AM

I'm so sorry to read about your loss. It has been just two weeks since I lost my Little Duke. I still miss him so much. It seems sometimes it is still so unreal. I have gotten another yorkie you I know will never be Duke, but I love also. I needed someone to hold while I cried.

I will pray for your healing daily. RIP little one.

dave54 · 07-06-2007, 10:05 AM

I have removed all of Cody's toys, bowls, petfood, bacon strip treats (he love them). I'm keeping his favorite blanket and leave it on the floor where his bed was in my bedroom. I'm talking to that spot every morning when I wake up. I got a frame for a nice picture of Cody yesterday (I included that picture in this post). Going to find a nice wall to hang it on. Before leaving yesterday to go to town, I stopped by where I buried Cody in my yard, and asked Cody if he wanted to go for a ride and told him to get in the car. He liked going for a ride.

I have no idea when the pain will stop or lessen, but I will keep moving. I feel so guilty for this new freedom of not having to help him outside, not sharing my food with him, not leaving the car run while I run into the store. I sat down in a restaurant yesterday and ate with alot of guilty feels thinking Cody was still in the car. We mostly ate in the car with Cody. So many changes I must make now that he's gone.

I want to thank everyone here for all the love you have given to Cody and me. You didn't know Cody or me, but you made us feel better. I hope to come here more often with a better feeling than I have now and maybe with time I can help others a little bit with what I went thru/going thru.

dave54 · 07-06-2007, 10:07 AM

Thank you very much Red98vett for helping me with this picture of Cody.

rrosenberry · 07-06-2007, 10:13 AM

What a nice picture and a beautiful boy.
You could use that pic for your avatar on here.

red98vett · 07-06-2007, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by dave54

I have removed all of Cody's toys, bowls, petfood, bacon strip treats (he love them). I'm keeping his favorite blanket and leave it on the floor where his bed was in my bedroom. I'm talking to that spot every morning when I wake up. I got a frame for a nice picture of Cody yesterday (I included that picture in this post). Going to find a nice wall to hang it on. Before leaving yesterday to go to town, I stopped by where I buried Cody in my yard, and asked Cody if he wanted to go for a ride and told him to get in the car. He liked going for a ride.

I have no idea when the pain will stop or lessen, but I will keep moving. I feel so guilty for this new freedom of not having to help him outside, not sharing my food with him, not leaving the car run while I run into the store. I sat down in a restaurant yesterday and ate with alot of guilty feels thinking Cody was still in the car. We mostly ate in the car with Cody. So many changes I must make now that he's gone.

I want to thank everyone here for all the love you have given to Cody and me. You didn't know Cody or me, but you made us feel better. I hope to come here more often with a better feeling than I have now and maybe with time I can help others a little bit with what I went thru/going thru.

you're so welcome Dave ...You did an outstanding job with his beautiful frame.....it's very special and thank you for letting us see it too.....

This post really made me stop to think about all the little things we take for granted ....thank YOU for doing that....I hope with each day his memory stays strong and your tears get weak...these little guys grab our hearts and don't let go that's for sure. Sending you a hug and thank you for sharing Cody with us....he was a lucky boy to have such a loving dad.

veguroev · 07-06-2007, 05:18 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. The loss of a furbaby it is hard and painful. No words will make you feel better right now, but I'm sure that you know most of us understand your pain. This forum is great.

ImCKN · 07-06-2007, 06:36 PM

Dave,
We are all praying for you and Cody. Please take care of yourself at this time, it would be what Cody wanted.

GREENLEESNANA · 07-07-2007, 09:18 PM

Oh Dave, I am feeling your pain now, as it wasnt that long ago that I was walking the same road. I can only offer your my sympathy and tell you that it is hard, but with time it will get better. Just know that we are all here for you. Just a thought, but where I buried Hollly I planted a packet of Forget me nots and it helped me some with my healing.

karren · 07-07-2007, 09:27 PM

soooo sorry for your lost. I lost mine almost 4 months ago and can't stop thinking about her.. It hurts alot....makes me cry every time I think about her........that means I cry everyday...c

babi1542 · 07-07-2007, 09:37 PM

I hope that with each passing day you will feel better, and dwell on the good times you had with your baby.

dave54 · 07-08-2007, 08:10 AM

I'm still trudging slowly forward. The thoughts of being at the Vets last Tuesday, of the Vet walking into the room and feeling Cody shaking more and more as the Vets prepared the needle still echoes in my mind vividly. Having the guilt feelings of "I should have waited for a little longer" before going to the Vet with Cody, also echoes in my mind. And having no-one understand how much I loved my little guy was really putting me in a very dark place. But with this forum's understanding of what I was going thru with Cody has helped me immensely. I was completely on the darkside and now I see light again. I THANK this forum very very much for your understanding, love, prayers, and advice. I am starting down a new road, by myself, without my best friend. I think of him every moment, and I talk to him too. I am not shedding the tears so much now, but every once in a while one does leak out.

Taking some advice from this forum, I talked to someone about some good memories of Cody, finally. It was hard to think of good things about Cody with all the guilt I've been feeling. But I'm trying to push over that hump. It did make me feel a little better talking about him. But advice I wont be taking is "get a new dog". Not yet. I am not ready emotionally for a long while.

I have been trying to think of ways to mark Cody's grave in my yard. Flowers, engraved pet stone marker, ect. Anyone want to share ideas on this?

Again, THANKS so much everyone. I needed a mountain of love and understanding and prayers this week and I got all of that from your posts. Your kindness has really helped me.

Dave54

Gingergirlsmom · 07-08-2007, 08:28 AM

Dave, about the guilt..

Please try to stop second-guessing yourself. I hesitate to share a story on this thread, afterall this thread is about you and your loss. However, I think this applies.

Years ago my first pet began to enter the last stages of his life. He went downhill rather quickly, and when I couldn't stand to see him in pain, I made the hardest decision I have ever made in my life. I had brought Fritz home as a pup when I was just 12 years old. So, you could say we grew up together. Anyway, as you can imagine, his death was incredibly hard on me (I'm crying as I write this and its been 15 years).

For years I worried that I took him to be pts too soon. If only I'd waited, if only I'd seen another vet, the if onlys were hard on me.

I can't say that I dwelled on that, but the thoughts were there.

Eventually, Shelby's time came. Poor thing. After second guessing my decision about Fritz for years, I so wanted to wait as long as I could. I know now that I waited too long. She was incredibly dear to me and I could not face the guilt of putting her down too soon. Dave, the wisdom of hindsight has taught me that the best decision, the decision that was for the furbaby I loved so much, was the decision that I made for Fritz. Poor Shelby hung on longer than she should of, and that, I did for me. Finally, one Saturday, I realized that enough was enough, called my vet, and we took her on the hardest 15 minute drive of my life.

Dave, please stop questioning your decision. I know in my heart, that you would not have made it if it wasn't the best thing you could have done for him.

I'm sure he is frolicing happily at the rainbow bridge. Perhaps with Fritz and Shelby. You need to grieve, but you need to give yourself a break and let the guilt go.

I hope this helps.

judyeve · 07-08-2007, 08:30 AM

My heart aches for you. Only time will heal you, but you are moving forward.
Good for you. Cody is with a lot of friends over The Rainbow Bridge and is no longer suffering.

The marker for his grave is a wonderful idea. What do you think you'd like to see when you look at it? You can put whatever you want.

kezza · 07-08-2007, 12:33 PM

Oh dave i feel for you i really do...i was in that place myself just 7 weeks ago.
I had to have my 14 yr old Yorkie girl PTS....i can promise you that it does get better...my pain has eased somewhat and i can remember her and talk about her without becoming a mess.
Everyone on here was so lovely to me it really helped with the grieving process. I hope you stick around..you will find alot of support here.
Love n hugs...Kerry. x

dave54 · 07-17-2007, 05:03 PM

Hey guys. Just thought I'ld let you know that I'm feeling a little better, now that some time has passed. July 3rd was a rough dark day. I'm still not over my loss of Cody and I see others feel just like me in the R.I.P. forums too.

I come to the YT forums almost everyday and read. Sometimes I peek at the puppies for sale threads (and see pictures) and get a smile and remember how small Cody use to be and how he looked as a puppy.

I'm going out to Denver next week for a little R&R. When I get back I hope to post more. Hopefully if some newbie reads this thread they will understand there is much love and understanding here about "yorkie loss". And maybe they too won't feel so all alone.

Thanks everyone.
Dave54

07-06-2007, 06:12 AM	#46
TinyBit It's a Yorkie Thing Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Walton KS Posts: 1,529 Blog Entries: 1	I'm so sorry to read about your loss. It has been just two weeks since I lost my Little Duke. I still miss him so much. It seems sometimes it is still so unreal. I have gotten another yorkie you I know will never be Duke, but I love also. I needed someone to hold while I cried. I will pray for your healing daily. RIP little one. __________________ Loving Gizmo, Teddy, Duchess,and Faith : In Memory of My Duke of York 7-24-06 ~6-21-07 and Victorian Lacie Pearl 3-1-07 ~ 4-22-11

07-06-2007, 10:13 AM	#49
rrosenberry & Bailey & Bella Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Ohio Posts: 8,164	What a nice picture and a beautiful boy. You could use that pic for your avatar on here. __________________ Rhonda, Bailey, Josie and my angel Bella Rue' "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened." ~Anatole France~

07-06-2007, 05:18 PM	#51
veguroev Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Space City Posts: 2,079	I'm so sorry for your loss. The loss of a furbaby it is hard and painful. No words will make you feel better right now, but I'm sure that you know most of us understand your pain. This forum is great. __________________ IF THERE ARE NO DOGS IN HEAVEN, THEN WHEN I DIE I WANT TO GO WHERE THEY GO. CHIKIS, OSCARITO,JEROME, KIKI, AND NEGRITA.

07-06-2007, 06:36 PM	#52
ImCKN Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: New Port Richey, Florida Posts: 825	Dave, We are all praying for you and Cody. Please take care of yourself at this time, it would be what Cody wanted. __________________ Charlene (Harley, Davie, Sonny, and Lexie's Mom) PLUS 8 beautiful puppies December 15, 2010 :

07-07-2007, 09:18 PM	#53
GREENLEESNANA YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: iowa Posts: 393	Oh Dave, I am feeling your pain now, as it wasnt that long ago that I was walking the same road. I can only offer your my sympathy and tell you that it is hard, but with time it will get better. Just know that we are all here for you. Just a thought, but where I buried Hollly I planted a packet of Forget me nots and it helped me some with my healing. __________________ Peggy {PrOuD NaNna to GrEEnlEE & Louee, and MommIE to PiXIe & GiA, MaTer & Gelee}

07-06-2007, 10:07 AM	#48
dave54 Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: central time zone Posts: 15	Thank you very much Red98vett for helping me with this picture of Cody.

07-07-2007, 09:27 PM	#54
karren Donating YT Addict Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: orange county Posts: 383	I'm so sorry soooo sorry for your lost. I lost mine almost 4 months ago and can't stop thinking about her.. It hurts alot....makes me cry every time I think about her........that means I cry everyday...c

07-07-2007, 09:37 PM	#55
babi1542 Double Trouble Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: FLORIDA Posts: 4,658	I hope that with each passing day you will feel better, and dwell on the good times you had with your baby. __________________ PEBBLES AND SASHA MY DOGS ARE NOT SPOILED...I'M JUST WELL TRAINED!

07-08-2007, 08:10 AM	#56
dave54 Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: central time zone Posts: 15	I'm still trudging slowly forward. The thoughts of being at the Vets last Tuesday, of the Vet walking into the room and feeling Cody shaking more and more as the Vets prepared the needle still echoes in my mind vividly. Having the guilt feelings of "I should have waited for a little longer" before going to the Vet with Cody, also echoes in my mind. And having no-one understand how much I loved my little guy was really putting me in a very dark place. But with this forum's understanding of what I was going thru with Cody has helped me immensely. I was completely on the darkside and now I see light again. I THANK this forum very very much for your understanding, love, prayers, and advice. I am starting down a new road, by myself, without my best friend. I think of him every moment, and I talk to him too. I am not shedding the tears so much now, but every once in a while one does leak out. Taking some advice from this forum, I talked to someone about some good memories of Cody, finally. It was hard to think of good things about Cody with all the guilt I've been feeling. But I'm trying to push over that hump. It did make me feel a little better talking about him. But advice I wont be taking is "get a new dog". Not yet. I am not ready emotionally for a long while. I have been trying to think of ways to mark Cody's grave in my yard. Flowers, engraved pet stone marker, ect. Anyone want to share ideas on this? Again, THANKS so much everyone. I needed a mountain of love and understanding and prayers this week and I got all of that from your posts. Your kindness has really helped me. Dave54

07-08-2007, 08:28 AM	#57
Gingergirlsmom and Bernie's mom too!" Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 8,283	Dave, about the guilt.. Please try to stop second-guessing yourself. I hesitate to share a story on this thread, afterall this thread is about you and your loss. However, I think this applies. Years ago my first pet began to enter the last stages of his life. He went downhill rather quickly, and when I couldn't stand to see him in pain, I made the hardest decision I have ever made in my life. I had brought Fritz home as a pup when I was just 12 years old. So, you could say we grew up together. Anyway, as you can imagine, his death was incredibly hard on me (I'm crying as I write this and its been 15 years). For years I worried that I took him to be pts too soon. If only I'd waited, if only I'd seen another vet, the if onlys were hard on me. I can't say that I dwelled on that, but the thoughts were there. Eventually, Shelby's time came. Poor thing. After second guessing my decision about Fritz for years, I so wanted to wait as long as I could. I know now that I waited too long. She was incredibly dear to me and I could not face the guilt of putting her down too soon. Dave, the wisdom of hindsight has taught me that the best decision, the decision that was for the furbaby I loved so much, was the decision that I made for Fritz. Poor Shelby hung on longer than she should of, and that, I did for me. Finally, one Saturday, I realized that enough was enough, called my vet, and we took her on the hardest 15 minute drive of my life. Dave, please stop questioning your decision. I know in my heart, that you would not have made it if it wasn't the best thing you could have done for him. I'm sure he is frolicing happily at the rainbow bridge. Perhaps with Fritz and Shelby. You need to grieve, but you need to give yourself a break and let the guilt go. I hope this helps. __________________ Ginger Bernie Fun Kitty

07-08-2007, 08:30 AM	#58
judyeve Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Brooklyn, NY Posts: 1,729	My heart aches for you. Only time will heal you, but you are moving forward. Good for you. Cody is with a lot of friends over The Rainbow Bridge and is no longer suffering. The marker for his grave is a wonderful idea. What do you think you'd like to see when you look at it? You can put whatever you want. __________________ *Judy, Max and Annie* *Rest in Peace my Sweet Angel Gracie Leigh:*

07-08-2007, 12:33 PM	#59
kezza Lovin my Pixie Pooh Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Oxfordshire, United Kingdom. Posts: 3,510	Oh dave i feel for you i really do...i was in that place myself just 7 weeks ago. I had to have my 14 yr old Yorkie girl PTS....i can promise you that it does get better...my pain has eased somewhat and i can remember her and talk about her without becoming a mess. Everyone on here was so lovely to me it really helped with the grieving process. I hope you stick around..you will find alot of support here. Love n hugs...Kerry. x __________________ This Little Girl Has Stolen My Heart! Every Dog Should Have a Tail To Tell.. "I'm a Yorkiestalker"!

07-17-2007, 05:03 PM	#60
dave54 Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: central time zone Posts: 15	Hey guys. Just thought I'ld let you know that I'm feeling a little better, now that some time has passed. July 3rd was a rough dark day. I'm still not over my loss of Cody and I see others feel just like me in the R.I.P. forums too. I come to the YT forums almost everyday and read. Sometimes I peek at the puppies for sale threads (and see pictures) and get a smile and remember how small Cody use to be and how he looked as a puppy. I'm going out to Denver next week for a little R&R. When I get back I hope to post more. Hopefully if some newbie reads this thread they will understand there is much love and understanding here about "yorkie loss". And maybe they too won't feel so all alone. Thanks everyone. Dave54