Loss of Our Cassie, what am I to do? - YorkieTalk.com Forums

Baby Blessing · 03-24-2006, 01:00 AM

It will be five months the 5th of April that we lost our precious yorkie Cassie, I am trying so hard to get over this but it is the hardest for me to do, I start thinking of her and I cry and I can't mention her name without crying and crying. I am at a loss as what to do to get over her death. Hardly a day goes by that I don't cry for her. I was wondering if there is others that are going through the same thing and what do you do? I know she is in a special place but my heart hurts for her so bad. I love Baby Blessing very much but I just am not able to conquer getting over Cassie's passing. Thanks for listening to me, it just has been a real down day for me. Patti

yorkiepip · 03-24-2006, 02:07 AM

So sorry to hear of your loss.
It is so sad to lose a loved one, all i can say is time is a great healer.
Some times the grieving process takes longer than you think it will, but in time you'll be able to think of the all the good times you shared and be thankful you furbaby shared part of your life.

Chelsey · 03-24-2006, 02:10 AM

Hi Patti,

Getting over the loss of our loved ones takes time. Give yourself a chance and time to grieve her loss, i know its hard, a lot of our members have been through this, so they all understand where your coming from.

A few weeks after i lost my first yorkie in 1997 there was a talkshow on tv that i was watching, the topic was "loss of a pet" and what it does to us. I was devastated and much like you, i could not stop crying, i used to cuddle up and hold her favourite blankie just to feel/smell her (i still have that blankie) anyhow, they did a study and they proved that it takes app. 8,5 months for the sharp edges and the pain to subside after losing a fur baby.
It's very important to cry and talk about it as much as you can to anybody thats willing to listen to you. They also said, it's important not to get rid of all the pet's belongings or favourite toy, just something for you to keep with you for as long as you need it.

I hope this helped a bit, if you need to talk i'll be here for you

Mandy

deb4air · 03-24-2006, 03:52 AM

SO sorry you feel so sad ..peace to you

Muffie's Mom · 03-24-2006, 04:20 AM

HOW GRIEF AFFECTS US

Grief is not just sadness or depression. It is a whole host of emotions ranging from anxiety to anger to quiet to confusion to relief and more.

In addition to affecting your emotions, it reaches into every part of your life, touching your work, your relationships with others, and your self-image.

How can a person "overcome" grief? In a very real way, the pain is the price we pay for love.

The time comes when we have to say good-bye and let go.

This is the time when our grief begins.

People say, "Time heals", yet time itself does not heal.

Time by itself will not do anything.

It is what we do with time that can heal......

Take time to cry;
Take time to accept death;
Take time to let go;
Take time to make decisions;
Take time to share;
Take time to believe;
Take time to forgive ourselves;
Take time to feel good about yourself again;
Take time to meet new friends;
Take time to laugh;
Take time to give.

Healing takes place when we turn our pain into as many positives as possible.

Helping others is a key to helping ourselves.

winelover · 04-01-2006, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Baby Blessing

It will be five months the 5th of April that we lost our precious yorkie Cassie, I am trying so hard to get over this but it is the hardest for me to do, I start thinking of her and I cry and I can't mention her name without crying and crying. I am at a loss as what to do to get over her death. Hardly a day goes by that I don't cry for her. I was wondering if there is others that are going through the same thing and what do you do? I know she is in a special place but my heart hurts for her so bad. I love Baby Blessing very much but I just am not able to conquer getting over Cassie's passing. Thanks for listening to me, it just has been a real down day for me. Patti

I found Gallery but still do not know how to re size a picture

winelover · 04-01-2006, 09:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Baby Blessing

It will be five months the 5th of April that we lost our precious yorkie Cassie, I am trying so hard to get over this but it is the hardest for me to do, I start thinking of her and I cry and I can't mention her name without crying and crying. I am at a loss as what to do to get over her death. Hardly a day goes by that I don't cry for her. I was wondering if there is others that are going through the same thing and what do you do? I know she is in a special place but my heart hurts for her so bad. I love Baby Blessing very much but I just am not able to conquer getting over Cassie's passing. Thanks for listening to me, it just has been a real down day for me. Patti

Did you see her picture? Jim

Superpup · 04-02-2006, 05:07 AM

For my husband and myself, the loss of our 6 month old Yorkie pup, was harder to manage than the loss of our own parents. That's how deeply it affects us all. They needed us for absolutely everything. That precious mutual love is what drives the grief knife so deeply into our hearts.

It's been just over a year since our Ripley passed. The circumstances were overwhelming. My personal emotional situation made it harder. We cried everyday for just under a year.

We made tributes to this little guy throughout our home; two beautiful shadow boxes with his little harness vest, toys, bones, pictures, angels, etc.

His pictures are in every room, in Lenox frames.

Now, when we recall all his comical antics, badboy days, and snugglelove, we smile and laugh.

At first, we thought we could never have another pet, but 4 months after he died (of liver shunt), there we were picking up not one more Yorkie, but two!!
It took a few months to completely give ourselves to our boys, but then, you "fall in love"!

We donated to the National Yorkshire Terrier Liver Shunt Fund, and they posted our memorial on their website. We added his name to the Rainbow Bridge List. We read all we could about grief. We read other people's stories, like yours, we read books. It all helped.

Take your time. When you cry, try to remember a special funny moment. Then smile. We all see them again in Heaven. They're waiting for us!!

barbg402 · 04-02-2006, 05:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Baby Blessing

It will be five months the 5th of April that we lost our precious yorkie Cassie, I am trying so hard to get over this but it is the hardest for me to do, I start thinking of her and I cry and I can't mention her name without crying and crying. I am at a loss as what to do to get over her death. Hardly a day goes by that I don't cry for her. I was wondering if there is others that are going through the same thing and what do you do? I know she is in a special place but my heart hurts for her so bad. I love Baby Blessing very much but I just am not able to conquer getting over Cassie's passing. Thanks for listening to me, it just has been a real down day for me. Patti

Patti,

Bless You! I understand how you feel. Geez, it is so heart wrenching when we lose a precious baby. The loss and void is with us each minute of the day. We look around and see things that remind us of them and of course a lump comes into our throat, eyes swell with tears and we morn the loss. Who knows how long it will take for the grief to subside. I doubt if it will ever completely go away. We miss the look in their little eyes and that sweet, sweet face, that huggable body and warmth and all of the kisses they give. I know Patti, it is so hard, hang in and someday maybe we can see the sunshine again.
Try to concentrate on little Blessing, and give her extra hugs. Cassie would want you to love her and give her special attention.
I bet Cassie and Juice are playing together. Juice is most likely kissing her just as he did with all of the little girls her on earth. Let's try and visualize them both in perfect health and running and playing. We will see them again someday.
Stay strong,
Hugs to You, Jack and Little Blessing.

Baby Blessing · 04-05-2006, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by barbg402

Patti,

Bless You! I understand how you feel. Geez, it is so heart wrenching when we lose a precious baby. The loss and void is with us each minute of the day. We look around and see things that remind us of them and of course a lump comes into our throat, eyes swell with tears and we morn the loss. Who knows how long it will take for the grief to subside. I doubt if it will ever completely go away. We miss the look in their little eyes and that sweet, sweet face, that huggable body and warmth and all of the kisses they give. I know Patti, it is so hard, hang in and someday maybe we can see the sunshine again.
Try to concentrate on little Blessing, and give her extra hugs. Cassie would want you to love her and give her special attention.
I bet Cassie and Juice are playing together. Juice is most likely kissing her just as he did with all of the little girls her on earth. Let's try and visualize them both in perfect health and running and playing. We will see them again someday.
Stay strong,
Hugs to You, Jack and Little Blessing.

Dear Barb,
Thank you for your post. It has been five months today since we was able to hold and hug our Cassie. Finally, just recently I was able to look at her pictures and posted one of her here on YT in the gallery, I then found myself placing it on our computer as our screen saver. I am glad I did that cause I need to remember her as she was before that awfull long night, this one of her with all her little stuffies in her floor bed was my most recent. She loved her little stuffies, she took such care of all them, as though they were real babies. She would play and love them and put them back in her bed

she would have made such a good Momie. I think she is now mothering all the babies that have joined her in their forever, forever eternal home. I will be so thankful when this pain eases up from her not being with us, I miss her so much I am so thankful that getting Baby Blessing has helped Jack. She has helped me too, I love her too, but I wish for our Cassie back. I always felt such comfort from her especially on the most stressful days that Jack had such difficult with the Parkinsons, I think she knew cause she would give me tons of kisses and get right up on my chest and look me in the eyes, how comforting they are. Barb, I am so sorry for your loss of Juice, I know you are going through a rough time too, I pray in time it will get easier for us. Thank you for your caring and kind words. Bless you.
Patti and Jack ~~Baby Blessing~~
RIP our Presious Cassie 11-05-05

03-24-2006, 01:00 AM	#1
Baby Blessing Our Blessings R Many Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: In the shelter of God's Loving Care. Posts: 3,095 Blog Entries: 1	Loss of Our Cassie, what am I to do? It will be five months the 5th of April that we lost our precious yorkie Cassie, I am trying so hard to get over this but it is the hardest for me to do, I start thinking of her and I cry and I can't mention her name without crying and crying. I am at a loss as what to do to get over her death. Hardly a day goes by that I don't cry for her. I was wondering if there is others that are going through the same thing and what do you do? I know she is in a special place but my heart hurts for her so bad. I love Baby Blessing very much but I just am not able to conquer getting over Cassie's passing. Thanks for listening to me, it just has been a real down day for me. Patti

03-24-2006, 02:07 AM	#2
yorkiepip Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Brittany France Posts: 2,420	So sorry to hear of your loss. It is so sad to lose a loved one, all i can say is time is a great healer. Some times the grieving process takes longer than you think it will, but in time you'll be able to think of the all the good times you shared and be thankful you furbaby shared part of your life. __________________ Anne, Pippa, Jake Woody

03-24-2006, 02:10 AM	#3
Chelsey My2Pearls Chelsey & Chanel YT Donator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: N Posts: 4,097	Hi Patti, Getting over the loss of our loved ones takes time. Give yourself a chance and time to grieve her loss, i know its hard, a lot of our members have been through this, so they all understand where your coming from. A few weeks after i lost my first yorkie in 1997 there was a talkshow on tv that i was watching, the topic was "loss of a pet" and what it does to us. I was devastated and much like you, i could not stop crying, i used to cuddle up and hold her favourite blankie just to feel/smell her (i still have that blankie) anyhow, they did a study and they proved that it takes app. 8,5 months for the sharp edges and the pain to subside after losing a fur baby. It's very important to cry and talk about it as much as you can to anybody thats willing to listen to you. They also said, it's important not to get rid of all the pet's belongings or favourite toy, just something for you to keep with you for as long as you need it. I hope this helped a bit, if you need to talk i'll be here for you Mandy __________________ Proud member of the crazy club

03-24-2006, 03:52 AM	#4
deb4air Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: new york Posts: 3,168	SO sorry you feel so sad ..peace to you __________________ Deb and Miss Mini

03-24-2006, 04:20 AM	#5
Muffie's Mom And now Missy's Mom, too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: FL Posts: 1,496	How Grief Affects Us (hope this helps you some) HOW GRIEF AFFECTS US Grief is not just sadness or depression. It is a whole host of emotions ranging from anxiety to anger to quiet to confusion to relief and more. In addition to affecting your emotions, it reaches into every part of your life, touching your work, your relationships with others, and your self-image. How can a person "overcome" grief? In a very real way, the pain is the price we pay for love. The time comes when we have to say good-bye and let go. This is the time when our grief begins. People say, "Time heals", yet time itself does not heal. Time by itself will not do anything. It is what we do with time that can heal...... Take time to cry; Take time to accept death; Take time to let go; Take time to make decisions; Take time to share; Take time to believe; Take time to forgive ourselves; Take time to feel good about yourself again; Take time to meet new friends; Take time to laugh; Take time to give. Healing takes place when we turn our pain into as many positives as possible. Helping others is a key to helping ourselves. __________________ Pat...Mom to Muffie & Missy! Our Photos are HERE Missy on Dogster Muffie on Dogster

04-02-2006, 05:07 AM	#8
Superpup Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: CENTRAL NEW JERSEY Posts: 102	It's the hardest thing. . . For my husband and myself, the loss of our 6 month old Yorkie pup, was harder to manage than the loss of our own parents. That's how deeply it affects us all. They needed us for absolutely everything. That precious mutual love is what drives the grief knife so deeply into our hearts. It's been just over a year since our Ripley passed. The circumstances were overwhelming. My personal emotional situation made it harder. We cried everyday for just under a year. We made tributes to this little guy throughout our home; two beautiful shadow boxes with his little harness vest, toys, bones, pictures, angels, etc. His pictures are in every room, in Lenox frames. Now, when we recall all his comical antics, badboy days, and snugglelove, we smile and laugh. At first, we thought we could never have another pet, but 4 months after he died (of liver shunt), there we were picking up not one more Yorkie, but two!! It took a few months to completely give ourselves to our boys, but then, you "fall in love"! We donated to the National Yorkshire Terrier Liver Shunt Fund, and they posted our memorial on their website. We added his name to the Rainbow Bridge List. We read all we could about grief. We read other people's stories, like yours, we read books. It all helped. Take your time. When you cry, try to remember a special funny moment. Then smile. We all see them again in Heaven. They're waiting for us!! __________________ SUPERPUP WESLEY AND SPENCER REST IN PEACE, RIPLEY "Kisses in the day, kisses at night, all Yorkie kisses are kisses done right!"