Tips for getting through this pain

[Krystee]

Hi guys, I haven’t posted on Yorkietalk for years but I’m coming here to ask how those of you have lost your fur babies go through the pain.

We lost our fur baby Tobie a couple of days ago and this pain is so much worse than I ever thought it would be. He was just 2 weeks short of his 13th birthday. I’ve lost pets in the past and none of them has been this hard. Tobie was more like a toddler than a dog and I didn’t realize that his death would leave such a big hole in my heart. My husband is struggling with it too but he and my daughter have been trying to help me get through. I’ve dealt with depression and panic attacks many years ago and this is the first time in 12 years that I’m fighting off panic attacks and the things that usually make me happy, don’t. When is my brain going to accept the fact that I’m never going to see him again without feeling a panic attack coming on. Or when is my home going to feel like my happy place again instead of black hole where everything reminds me of him.
I’m going to call about seeing a therapist on Monday but I wanted to see if anyone has a tips on things that helped them get through the pain of losing their fur baby. I just want to be able to get through a day without crying. 😢

[matese]

So sorry for your loss. Owning a yorkie is like having a toddler for life and their loss is horrific.
In 2013 I had to put my 17 year old girl down. The pain in my heart was so severe I thought I was having a heart attack. I couldn't leave the house, couldn't drive,I was a hazard on the road, my mind always went back to that call "you have to come and say your good-by's". I swore no more dogs.
I had 3 yorkies pass before this one, Matese, they all affected me but, I had other yorkies to be strong for as they missed and grieved for their sister.

Matese was my last and the only one I had for 17 years, so her loss was great.
Everyone grieves in different ways, time it takes to heal depends on the person. Keeping yourself busy may help, but it takes time, a lot of time, even months before you can think about Tobie and not cry, but a time will come when you will think of the happier times, the silly, funny thing Tobie did, you may have a tear in your eye, but you will have a smile remembering the happier times (((hugs)))

[gemy]

Originally Posted by Krystee

Hi guys, I haven’t posted on Yorkietalk for years but I’m coming here to ask how those of you have lost your fur babies go through the pain.

We lost our fur baby Tobie a couple of days ago and this pain is so much worse than I ever thought it would be. He was just 2 weeks short of his 13th birthday. I’ve lost pets in the past and none of them has been this hard. Tobie was more like a toddler than a dog and I didn’t realize that his death would leave such a big hole in my heart. My husband is struggling with it too but he and my daughter have been trying to help me get through. I’ve dealt with depression and panic attacks many years ago and this is the first time in 12 years that I’m fighting off panic attacks and the things that usually make me happy, don’t. When is my brain going to accept the fact that I’m never going to see him again without feeling a panic attack coming on. Or when is my home going to feel like my happy place again instead of black hole where everything reminds me of him.
I’m going to call about seeing a therapist on Monday but I wanted to see if anyone has a tips on things that helped them get through the pain of losing their fur baby. I just want to be able to get through a day without crying. 😢

Well first

[gemy]

Let me carry on. I grieved a lot. I sat stunned looking at a black screen. The memories unfolded like a kaleidescope. Silent tears rolled down. I merely brushed them away. I took a week off work. I dare not drive. So I sat. Just walked my Yorkie once a day.

Slowly very slowly I reentered life. But I still remember my big boy Magic. A large very loving Black Russian. A superlative guard dog. I had few fears when I was with him.

You just make yourself do. Make a self deal, no thoughts just this task. After that I will griev or remember, or sob whatever. I visited places he loved. Had picnics with my others and always set a place for him. I too still have his toys. My Dara and Razzle love them. But neither one enters his big crate. It sits beside me just like it has in the previous 16+ years.

That comforts me. Who knows if I will be blessed with a large Backie male again:

[Krystee]

I feel robbed, like I didn’t get enough time with him. My Rat Terrier lived to be 17 so I never lost I would lose him at just two weeks shy of 13 years old. None of my other pet losses has compared to this one. My home has always been my safe, happy place but right now my home feels like a dark hole because his absence is so greatly missed. Everywhere I look I have a memory of him and every time I remember that he’s gone and I will never see him again, I just break down and feel a panic attack coming on.
I feel terrible because my 9 year old is being so sweet and trying to keep me happy and I’m trying so hard to keep it together but I didn’t realize how hard this was going to be.
I wanted to post here because I swear Yorkies have such big personalities and become more like children than just a pet. All my animals are always like my children but none of them compared to Tobie and his big, sweet personality. Only other Yorkie owners would know what I mean.
I’m just ready to be able to get through a day without crying but that hasn’t happened yet.

[gemy]

I feel your pain. What can I say I hope you find some surcease soon

[matese]

Originally Posted by Krystee

I feel robbed, like I didn’t get enough time with him. My Rat Terrier lived to be 17 so I never lost I would lose him at just two weeks shy of 13 years old. None of my other pet losses has compared to this one. My home has always been my safe, happy place but right now my home feels like a dark hole because his absence is so greatly missed. Everywhere I look I have a memory of him and every time I remember that he’s gone and I will never see him again, I just break down and feel a panic attack coming on.
I feel terrible because my 9 year old is being so sweet and trying to keep me happy and I’m trying so hard to keep it together but I didn’t realize how hard this was going to be.
I wanted to post here because I swear Yorkies have such big personalities and become more like children than just a pet. All my animals are always like my children but none of them compared to Tobie and his big, sweet personality. Only other Yorkie owners would know what I mean.
I’m just ready to be able to get through a day without crying but that hasn’t happened yet.

I know what you're going through, you sound just as I was. My house was an empty dark hole. I was in a very dark place, couldn't stop crying.

6 weeks after she was gone my vet called me, she had just gotten a surrendered 2 1/2 year old little boy, his huge ears reminded her of my Matese, she told her tech to get me on the phone, she said "this is Joan's dog". When I got the call to come see the dog I gave all the reasons why I couldn't / didn't want another dog, she begged me to "just come to see the dog". To appease my vet and because she thought of me when she saw this lil tyke, out of respect for my vet that kept my dog healthy for 17 years I went "just to see the dog". They had him in the tech's lunch room, I sat and just watched his body language. Every time the door opened and a tech walk in, he ran to them like hey, are you my new mommy. I felt so bad for this little guy I just had to take him home, who could just toss this lil baby out of their lives. I knew I could give him a good, happy, loving home.

Well, he helped me heal, made my house a home again. Yes, I still cried for my girl, but Cody would snuggle up against me and my focus was on him.

I had him 2 years before I could think of the good times I had with Matese, and yes, I did have tears in my eyes but had a smile on my lips remembering how she played in the yard burying then digging her toy up to bury it someplace else. I still have her little memorial up in my office. She will forever remain in my heart never to be forgotten.

My friends and family call Cody my miracle boy because he took me out of a very dark place. We are a team for 7 years now but it seems like just like yesterday that my sweet Matese had to leave me.
I was blessed with this little boy, he is a perfect baby, he came to me very spoiled and loved much, he was not an abused dog. His owner did not have the finances to keep him after she had a baby.
Cody got me through the loss of my precious

girl.

[gemy]

A beautiful memorial. My home is not without a dog

[Lisa and Pic]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is so difficult and I think all of us on YT feel your pain. I have no tips, just taking each day and embracing the pain. I know the embracing part sounds weird but that is what I had to do personally and finally I was able to start remembering some of the happy memories.

I just found my Christmas card from 2018 and it had my beloved Piccolo and Vivi on it (both went to the Bridge in the last year plus). I was finally able to say I love you girls and I miss you but was able to put my sadness aside and remember their wonderful personalities.

Take care and I will keep you in my thoughts.