How do you get over the loss...

[newton]

Florabug, I still see my baby looking at me from on the vets table on the day I last saw him. It tears my heart out. It seems like just yesterday he was here and now he is not. I hate that now he has only become just a memory. Its so hard losing someone you love so much. Maybe you can do something special to remember him like releasing some balloons. My husband and I bought a tree on our local library lawn and decorated it in my dog's memory. I'm glad I did it as I felt I was still doing something for him. I have a locket of his hair and his foot print too. I am waiting on his ashes to come back from the vet so he will be back in the house. I do know how you feel and I'm sorry there is such a hole in your heart right now. I feel like my baby has given me a few signs that he's still with me. One day I took my other baby, nelly, newtons partner in crime, on our walk like all three of us used to do. On the path I looked down to see a Black and Tan wooly bugger, the same colors as my Newt. I think it was a sign from him saying he was out romping around on the path too. I don't know why but, just a feeling. Then when I was putting together picture of him for the Tree, his favorite holiday commercial came on. The Hershey Kiss one where the bells ring? He loved that commercial and would run to the tv from any room in the house when he heard it. He'd howl and sing with it! Such a personality! They all have there own little personalities. Try to remember the good times and memories. Remind yourself you did all you could and he was so so loved. He knew it too! <3

[BabyGirl Rosie]

I am so sorry for your loss. RIP Hugo. I don't think you ever get over it. I still think about the pets I have lost. . I think we adjust and go on but we never forget.

I recently lost my cat of 18 years. We had to leave the light on for her in my laundry room. I still leave the light on at night. I just can't turn it off. I think time heals but Hugo will forever be in your heart.

[Deb1]

I am so sorry for the loss of Hugo! ((Hugs)) I, too, just lost my Tameka a few months ago. It will take a while as I, too am still wiping my tears. It hurts so much to loose those precious little ones! My heart goes out you and your husband. R.I.P. Hugo!

[lisaly]

When we love so deeply, I'm not sure we're ever meant to get over the loss. The pain lessens in time but it always remains, but when I think of my loved ones, the feeling that more overwhelms my heart is that of the love we shared. My husband and I talk about our little angels at the Rainbow Bridge a great deal, and we mostly celebrate the beautiful way that they touched our lives. I will always love my little girls, and as a testament to that love, we added another little Yorkie to our lives in May. We completely adore Katie, and she has helped us cope with the sadness of losing our little loves. Katie has brought the laughter back into our lives. I am so sorry for your loss.

[Buster Brown]

My deepest sympathies to you and your husband on the passing of your friend and companion Hugo. This was shared by another YT member and I love the sentiment.
May the pain ease but the memories never fade.

I Haven’t Left At All
I saw you gently weeping as you looked through photographs
You paused for just a moment at one that made you laugh.
But as you turned more pages the tears began to flow
You whispered that you missed me but I want you to know;
I softly licked those stinging tears that down your cheeks did fall
I want to help you understand I haven’t left at all.
On those days that you are overcome with sorrow, pain and grief
I rest my head upon your leg to offer some relief.
When you take our walking path I’ve seen you turn around
Because I know you surely heard my paws upon the ground.
At night while you are sleeping I snuggle at your side
You stroke my fur as you touch that place where I used to lie.
You said it’s just your heart playing tricks upon your mind
But rest assured I’m really there, my spirit’s left behind.
I know your heart is hurting; it’s like an open sore
You think my life has ended and you won’t see me anymore.
But for those of us bound tight by love, death is not the curtain call;
It’s really the eternal beginning that waits for us all
So as you live your life I patiently await
For us to be together when you pass through Heaven’s gate.

[Tessa327]

I'm no expert and in no position to give advice. I do know the feeling will pass with time. Allow yourself to grief and surround yourself with those closest to you. Sometimes it helps to look back at old photos and reminisce the good times.

Grief is a natural process. And from all I've read today, just know you are not alone on this journey to recovery. Hugs.

[Connie]

I am so sorry for your loss and can certainly understand your deep sadness. I send heartfelt sympathy and hugs. I'm so sorry.

[ladyjane]

I am so sorry for your loss. Honestly, you never totally get over it; but time does help a bit.

There is an old saying that I love....
“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.”

It is so true....in time the good memories help to heal the pain of the loss. I hope that time comes soon for you...