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|11-18-2007, 11:41 AM||#1|
Join Date: Apr 2006
Magnum was sixteen years old and had a enlarged heart. It was so big it almost filled his chest cavity my vet gave me no hope. He was having trouble breathing. I had to put him to sleep on friday 11-16-07. Now I worry that Magnum's litter mate Cricket will react badly and I will lose him too. they have never been apart since birth. How can I help Cricket through this, and how do I cope with the heart break myself ? I want to scream it hurts so bad. Can anyone tell me how they have gotten through this?
|11-18-2007, 11:49 AM||#2|
Senior Yorkie Talker
Join Date: Jun 2005
I am so very sorry for your loss. The only way I am getting through the grief of Max's passing is the support of friends, family and comfort of God. I know exactly how you feel. One moment Max was with me, the next he was gone. I think you have to allow yourself to mourn and feel all the emotions and take care of yourself. It is like waves washing over me - sometimes I feel my pain is so great I can't stand it so I sob until I don't think I can cry anymore. Then my husband and I reminisce about Max and all the joy he brought us and that too gives us comfort - I am trying to focus on how he lived and not how he died. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
|11-18-2007, 01:11 PM||#4|
Donating YT 4000 Club Member
Join Date: Jan 2006
I am so sorry for your loss of Magnum. I know it is so painful. I have been there before with my Bichons, that together produced the most beautiful puppies, and then in the last year with my Siamese, that were also mates. Both times it was the male I lost first. It is hard when you're grieving and see that they are too. Sometimes you need to let yourself scream and cry. Unfortunately it is part of the process. The worst part about loving a furry friend is that their lives are nowhere near the length of our own.
Cricket can sense your pain though. It's not just her own mourning of Magnum. Love your furbaby. Spend extra time with Cricket, perhaps take her with you everywhere you can. Give her as much security as possible. It is so difficult when they can't express their heart in words. I am still watching my cat mourn almost a yr later, but it was complicated by my daughter going off to college this year. The cat can be such a pest, because she is so hungry for attn, I have to stop sometimes and just focus on her to reassure her of her place in my heart and life.
I know the hard part will be when you have to leave the house and now Cricket is alone. There is so little you can do to fill that void. But I will tell you that my Bichon female did find a new joy after awhile in being the only one. While she had loved her mate, she learned to love being the only dog who was spoiled.
Prayers for you and hugs. I am so sorry,
Loved by Bubba & Roxy
Holy, holy, is the Lord God Almighty, who was, and is, and is to come
|11-18-2007, 02:07 PM||#5|
Piper & Sebastian
Join Date: Jul 2007
I am sorry for your loss. Hang on to your baby for comfort and consolation. We're all here for you.
Susan, Piper ,Harley & Suiki
|11-18-2007, 02:42 PM||#6|
Donating YT 3000 Club Member
Join Date: Sep 2007
It is almost 4 years now since I lost pooh, he was almost 5 year old. I am still grieving today, It is just always there, and I always wonder the what if's.
I had a baby that did everything that pooh did, and I sometimes wonder if God knew pooh was going to leave me, for I was not even planning to buy another puppy and it just happened like overnight..then one day alone with the new puppy after I lost pooh, as I sat watching him I thought Omg, he is pooh, You see when I got the baby, everything pooh did, so did the baby. I really think my baby came from God to keep me going when I lost pooh.
I know some is going to think, I am nuts, but I just believe this, and I am sure something good will come your way for you and the yorkie left behind to be alone. Love him, take him, and who knows maybe another will come along at the right time to help you heal.
|11-18-2007, 07:58 PM||#7|
Love The Verminator!
Join Date: Jul 2006
I am so sorry for your loss. Losing Magnum is no different than losing any other family member that has been a huge part of your life for 16 years. Don't think about the loss, remember the time you had together. In time, it will get easier, I promise. Not the pain itself, but being able to cope with it. As for Cricket, he needs you as much as you need him. Be there for each other. God Bless.
Roxy loves Alphy Remi loves Millie
[COLOR="Purple"]Mom to RoxyJo & Remington , Fozzy Bear & Chloe
|11-20-2007, 08:22 AM||#8|
No Longer a Member
Join Date: Jul 2007
I believe that your love for one another and time spent together will help you both through the grieving process. I am so sorry for you loss and we all send out prayers of healing for you and Cricket ... until that time you all meet again at Rainbow Bridge.
|11-20-2007, 03:29 PM||#9|
Donating Yorkie Yakker
Join Date: May 2007
Sorry to hear about your loss. Toby turned 16 in October and everyday is a blessing he is still with us. RIP Magnum