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RIP_Teddy · 10-01-2007, 03:01 PM

So I have him laying on me today....he ran from me like before...but I put him on the bed...he eventually came over to lay on me...

And he's making crying and whining noises...why?? I was petting him, rubbing his belly...all the things I know he likes.

nvnvgirl · 10-01-2007, 03:25 PM

The breeders of my Max were 2 gay men. When we first got Max (he was 11, almost 12 weeks old), he seemed to gravitate toward my husband. But my hubby is gone all week most of the time, so I am the one who usually is here with Max all the time. Now, he is MY baby, and it's very apparent. He does still love my dh though, so it makes it nice for both of us. But if I leave the room, Max usually goes with me and if we're out somewhere and I leave to go to the bathroom or something, Max whines and wants to come find me

(mama's little boy). He doesn't ever do that for my husband. I think some things just take time. You have to let animals do things in their own time, and some animals just have an instant bond with certain people. Don't take it so personally; there's enough animals out there, and there's certainly one that is YOURS....the dog you have may or may not be gaga over you, but I'm sure it will like you and maybe you'll just have to have 3 dogs instead of 2

. The first parrot I got basically had no interest in me other than when I fed her until I decided to get another parrot....then, all of a sudden, the female LOVED me

. You just never know.....good luck with your situation!

For My Coby · 10-01-2007, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by RIP_Teddy

So I have him laying on me today....he ran from me like before...but I put him on the bed...he eventually came over to lay on me...

And he's making crying and whining noises...why?? I was petting him, rubbing his belly...all the things I know he likes.

See? Perhaps things are looking up already. Coby whines and cries when he's happy. If he was staying there on his own, then he was probably a happy little guy.

I agree with most of the good advice given here. And its truly about the dog's well-being and happiness, but I do know that it can still hurt your feelings a bit when they don't seem to offer you love in exactly the way you'd hoped for.

Bailey's Peeps · 10-01-2007, 04:04 PM

As sweet as our furbabies are, their motivations are pretty simple - and selfish. That's not a criticism of them, it's simply recognizing reality. For the most part, they are most attracted to whoever spends the most time with them and provides the more care and comfort to them.

Bailey and Meggie are 19 months and 11 months old. I adore both of them, and they love me every bit as much as they love my wife. I'm convinced this is because we have both invested a lot of time and effort in their care. From Day One, I have been the one that gets up in the night with them and the one who feeds them in the morning. From the beginning, I took more time than usual just sitting around and used that time to hold the pups. I gave up a few hours of doing things I wanted to do, but if you hold a puppy very long, if's going to fall asleep with you holding it. Do that a few times, and it is a habit for the puppy. My wife has the whole day with them while I'm at work. When I get home, she gets them all worked up when I pull up in the driveway. ("Is it him? Is he home? YES, Daddy's home!). When I walk in the door, they're jumping all over me. (Not great discipline, but a really great welcome!) Ours are definitely lap dogs - if there's a lap in the house, they're on it. And it doesn't matter to them whose lap it is. From the beginning we have each urged the pups to "Go See ..." the other. We have not tried to make either of them "my" dog or "her" dog, and as a result they are definitely "our" dogs.

So ... if you want a puppy to love you, invest time and effort. Give up some time. Give up some sleep. And give up the pup. You'll be rewarded.

Chrissy0277 · 10-01-2007, 04:16 PM

Maybe your not over teddy yet. I know one can never get over the loss of their pet. Are you expecting this dog to be Teddy without realizing it?
You have to tell yourself that, he isnt Teddy

girdygirl · 10-01-2007, 04:31 PM

I would love to see a picture of your other yorkie and what is his name and how old?

stedmansmommy · 10-01-2007, 05:19 PM

I would give it a week or two, and if things don't start working out better than they are now (which by your posts, it doesn't sound like things are going too great

) I would seriously just re-home him. The dog and HIS feelings need to be put first here.

Not trying to be harsh, just honest with my opinions in this situation.

RIP_Teddy · 10-01-2007, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by stedmansmommy

I would give it a week or two, and if things don't start working out better than they are now (which by your posts, it doesn't sound like things are going too great

) I would seriously just re-home him. The dog and HIS feelings need to be put first here.

Not trying to be harsh, just honest with my opinions in this situation.

Well his crying/whining when he is on me isn't good....

And now when I pet him it sounds as if he's grunting...is that good?? I have no clue....

(Edit: as far as re-homing goes, at least I will be able to recoup my money. Only paying 275 makes it so it won't be bad financially.)

xnatalie · 10-01-2007, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by RIP_Teddy

Well his crying/whining when he is on me isn't good....

And now when I pet him it sounds as if he's grunting...is that good?? I have no clue....

(Edit: as far as re-homing goes, at least I will be able to recoup my money. Only paying 275 makes it so it won't be bad financially.)

i can't believe you're thinking about money instead of how the dog might feel after being rehomed so many times..

10-01-2007, 03:25 PM	#32
nvnvgirl Lovin' to the MAX!! Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Yorkieville Posts: 2,774	The breeders of my Max were 2 gay men. When we first got Max (he was 11, almost 12 weeks old), he seemed to gravitate toward my husband. But my hubby is gone all week most of the time, so I am the one who usually is here with Max all the time. Now, he is MY baby, and it's very apparent. He does still love my dh though, so it makes it nice for both of us. But if I leave the room, Max usually goes with me and if we're out somewhere and I leave to go to the bathroom or something, Max whines and wants to come find me (mama's little boy). He doesn't ever do that for my husband. I think some things just take time. You have to let animals do things in their own time, and some animals just have an instant bond with certain people. Don't take it so personally; there's enough animals out there, and there's certainly one that is YOURS....the dog you have may or may not be gaga over you, but I'm sure it will like you and maybe you'll just have to have 3 dogs instead of 2 . The first parrot I got basically had no interest in me other than when I fed her until I decided to get another parrot....then, all of a sudden, the female LOVED me . You just never know.....good luck with your situation! __________________ Seana and Max and Madison too! Come visit me at: celebritydogwatcher.com

10-01-2007, 04:16 PM	#35
Chrissy0277 Its all about the yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: South Jersey Posts: 1,451	Maybe your not over teddy yet. I know one can never get over the loss of their pet. Are you expecting this dog to be Teddy without realizing it? You have to tell yourself that, he isnt Teddy __________________ CHRISSY Nikki Precious Lizzy Mimi , Lena Taboo

10-01-2007, 04:31 PM	#36
girdygirl YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Va. Posts: 757	I would love to see a picture of your other yorkie and what is his name and how old? __________________ PHYLLIS AND GIRDY love those 'S

10-01-2007, 05:19 PM	#37
stedmansmommy I Love My Lil' Punkin's Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Stedman and Tatum's World :) Posts: 15,331 Blog Entries: 5	I would give it a week or two, and if things don't start working out better than they are now (which by your posts, it doesn't sound like things are going too great ) I would seriously just re-home him. The dog and HIS feelings need to be put first here. Not trying to be harsh, just honest with my opinions in this situation. __________________ Mommy Loves Stedman and Tatum! They have us wrapped around their little paws!

10-01-2007, 03:01 PM	#31
RIP_Teddy BANNED! Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Minneapolis Posts: 49	So I have him laying on me today....he ran from me like before...but I put him on the bed...he eventually came over to lay on me... And he's making crying and whining noises...why?? I was petting him, rubbing his belly...all the things I know he likes.

10-01-2007, 04:04 PM	#34
Bailey's Peeps Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2006 Location: OKLAHOMA Posts: 229	As sweet as our furbabies are, their motivations are pretty simple - and selfish. That's not a criticism of them, it's simply recognizing reality. For the most part, they are most attracted to whoever spends the most time with them and provides the more care and comfort to them. Bailey and Meggie are 19 months and 11 months old. I adore both of them, and they love me every bit as much as they love my wife. I'm convinced this is because we have both invested a lot of time and effort in their care. From Day One, I have been the one that gets up in the night with them and the one who feeds them in the morning. From the beginning, I took more time than usual just sitting around and used that time to hold the pups. I gave up a few hours of doing things I wanted to do, but if you hold a puppy very long, if's going to fall asleep with you holding it. Do that a few times, and it is a habit for the puppy. My wife has the whole day with them while I'm at work. When I get home, she gets them all worked up when I pull up in the driveway. ("Is it him? Is he home? YES, Daddy's home!). When I walk in the door, they're jumping all over me. (Not great discipline, but a really great welcome!) Ours are definitely lap dogs - if there's a lap in the house, they're on it. And it doesn't matter to them whose lap it is. From the beginning we have each urged the pups to "Go See ..." the other. We have not tried to make either of them "my" dog or "her" dog, and as a result they are definitely "our" dogs. So ... if you want a puppy to love you, invest time and effort. Give up some time. Give up some sleep. And give up the pup. You'll be rewarded.