So am I in deep trouble here?

[RIP_Teddy]

Originally Posted by pepe mint

this is amazing to me. in your original thread you were saying that you didn't really like him because he didn't look like a yorkie, he was having potty problems, etc. you made it very clear that you didn't think you could bond with him because of these things. believe it or don't...but he picked up on that. so the first few days he is with you, he gets the clear and evident vibe that you don't love him. that he is not welcomed there. now you want HIM to bond with YOU and not your SO?? he's not stupid...he knows you didn't want him. why would he feel like bonding with you...only to have to live with the faft that he could be rehomed at any minute if you dont like something he does or if he doesn't look the way you want..

like many others have said...i am not trying to offend you here...but seriously...i am sick of people being so concerned with how their dog looks and saying they can't love him/her because of it and want to find them a new home...then SUDDENLY..you don't know why the dog doesn't want to cuddle with you. i wouldn't want to cuddle either!

I've gotten over the looks issue, I really have. My main concern was being told that I was getting a Yorkie when I wasn't. I'm since past that, and I believe that he is what they said he was.

[pepe mint]

i wouldn't worry about how the previous owners feel...i would worry about how the dog feels.

[tiggerr36792]

Originally Posted by RIP_Teddy

I don't do the cleaning up because I about vomit at that, but I do the rest though.

I even feed out of my hand as a way to TRY to bond. Ack.

Keep trying to bond with your new puppy, there is still time!! Give the puppy some time to adjust. I think your puppy feels your stress about trying to hard. relax abit and perhaps it will flow more naturally.

[Txgurl06]

Originally Posted by RIP_Teddy

I don't do the cleaning up because I about vomit at that, but I do the rest though.

I even feed out of my hand as a way to TRY to bond. Ack.

dogs can sense stuff! maybe he can sense how you feel about him and the tension.

[keri1973]

Originally Posted by pepe mint

i wouldn't worry about how the previous owners feel...i would worry about how the dog feels.

[littlewhip]

Gosh you have only had him for a couple days, it takes time to bond with a new family, please dont give up yet, he is still adjusting to his new surroundings, its normal for him to want your so more in the beginning, I know with all 4 of mine they kno who is the mom and who is the dad, they love my dh but look to me for there daily care , but when hubby comes home they give him love to, you need to be more positive with him , they can sense when there not wanted good luck to you.

[Mybabyboymax]

I would say give it time as well but I dont think with time you will feel different. You are too concerned with his looks and sorry but that isnt going to change in your favor...he is going to continue to get bigger and obviously bigger and longer is not what you want I do feel bad for the little guy he deserves to be LOVED not just tolerated because of a promise you made to the previous owners. Im not sure if you mentioned whether you can give him back to them or not but if thats not an option then call them and let them know you are thinking of rehoming him. And please make sure his next home is a wonderful one he deserves it...poor thing

[makemepretty]

Spend more time with him, take him for car rides with you, to the park with just you. Give him lots of special treats. That's how I was with my chihuahua and she grew to love me best The more love you give, the more you'll get back.

[karren]

I'm sure he has a bright side. Maybe you should look at the positive side of what the puppy has. Take him for a walk or mall or park to bond with him. Be a little more patient. It takes time....

[Winstin07]

I personally think he feels you are stressed. That will only push him away. Give him some time and try to relax. Most boys are mammas boys. It is that way here. Winstin just adores me and follows me everywhere. When my husband comes home he does give him kisses but then it's right back to where is my mom. Now, our black lab is a daddies girl. She had emergency surgery in August. My husband was out of town so I picked her up. When the vet brought her into the room, she did not even show she knew I was there.I called her name and everything. I got her to the car. I was talking to her and even trying to pet her, she would ignore me. Once we pulled in the drive she got all excited and came in looking for her daddy. He was not here but when he arrived she was so happy. I know she is his girl and I am ok with that. I do 99% of feeding taking out potty and cleaning up the messes. She is till his girl. She could care less when I get up in the morning but when he does she becomes very vocal.
Give yourself time to bond with him. It started off on a rough note so just try to relax and enjoy him. Give that bond a chance to happen. If he likes your SO, who cares as long as he gets the love he needs. I would almost bet in no time he will love you as much if you give it a chance. Poor thing has been moved around enough and just needs a chance to settle and see that you love him. Two days is hardly enough time for him to figure out where he is,let alone who he loves. Just love on him, do special things with him. Let him know you do like him and love him.
If you do not like him then he needs a new home.

[Akina]

I'm sorry that your new yorkie isn't bonding with you right away.
I'm sure there will be time that your yorkie will be attach to you.
My last 2 yorkies (were mine but I was young so I didn't really take care, just play with them!!) didn't really bond with me and it wasn't fun.
But I loved them both to pieces.
I didn't care the didn't want to sleep with me.
They gave me a lot of kisses when I come home from school, when I was crying, or when I ask for some and that was enough for me.
They weren't small yorkie, just a right size. (about 8lb or so.)
They both were attach to my father, and he didn't do anything, no feeding or no cleaning after them but they loved my dad the best.
Now I have my 3rd yorkie and this time, there is only me and her.
She is glue to me!! lol
But this doesn't mean I love her the best.
I love and loved all 3 the same way, wheather they were attach to me or not.
Hope you will love your new yorkie and will have better relationship with him!!!
Good luck.

[TatumsMom]

Whoa, I seem to remember a long time ago someone asked a very similar question and they were given some very good information like having the other caregiver purposely take a less active role in feeding and caring and stuff which should result in what this poster is looking for. But because he got started off on the wrong foot with ya'll, you jump down his throat immediately on this thread. I think maybe when he posted about his "Yorkie's looks", he may have worded it wrong. I think he really was just concerned that it is truly a Yorkie. I purposely stayed out of that thread. Maybe this poster is not articulating correctly exactly what he feels but he's coming here for some advice and immediately gets jumped on and told to rehome the pup. Are we being just a little bit touchy here??? Or maybe I missed something by staying out of the other thread.

To the OP, hopefully you can get some good advice out of all this.... I do see a few responses that might help. I don't have any specific advice since Tatum is almost 100% Mommy's girl and our toy poodle was also. I have heard though that there are things you can do that might increase your chances but sometimes you just have to accept the dog's personalities.

Good luck.

[SugarMama]

I'm just wondering, do you work or are you home with your new baby all day? If you work it's less hours that you can spend creating that bond. I'm home all day w/ Sugar so she tends to hang out by me more than w/ my dh. When he gets home from work she's all over him for a while and then she comes back and lays by my side. I don't smother her w/ attention, for the most part she just wants to lay by my side. My dh is wonderful w/ her and she shows that she loves him, she's just with me more so it feels natural to her to come and lay by me. She does sleep between his feet though which he hates. He can't move all night because he'll squash her. In the past all of our animals have slept on my side of the bed so he's having a hard time adjusting to having to share his space. I don't mind that she sleeps on his side, I like to be able to toss & turn w/out worrying about her.

Just give your baby some time and it will all work out okay. Maybe just try to adjust your mindset a little to thinking of the dog as a "joint ownership" instead of a his & hers thing. I'm sure it loves both of you and as long as you show it love it will know where to come when it wants a belly rub. Good luck & keep giving that little one all your love.

[BubblPopElectrc]

Originally Posted by keri1973

From reading all these posts, I don't think you will ever be happy with this dog.... Might as well re-home and give the poor thing a chance... sorry if this is offensive but good grief....

I'm sorry but I have to agree.

It seems as though you are just trying to come up with an excuse to convince yourself that the dog isn't working.

If I were I would rehome the dog into a situation where she might be better suited.

[bpaske]

Originally Posted by pepe mint

this is amazing to me. in your original thread you were saying that you didn't really like him because he didn't look like a yorkie, he was having potty problems, etc. you made it very clear that you didn't think you could bond with him because of these things. believe it or don't...but he picked up on that. so the first few days he is with you, he gets the clear and evident vibe that you don't love him. that he is not welcomed there. now you want HIM to bond with YOU and not your SO?? he's not stupid...he knows you didn't want him. why would he feel like bonding with you...only to have to live with the faft that he could be rehomed at any minute if you dont like something he does or if he doesn't look the way you want..

like many others have said...i am not trying to offend you here...but seriously...i am sick of people being so concerned with how their dog looks and saying they can't love him/her because of it and want to find them a new home...then SUDDENLY..you don't know why the dog doesn't want to cuddle with you. i wouldn't want to cuddle either!

I completely agree with pepe mint!! Here is my Trigger... take a look. He is FAR from what a traditional yorkie looks like, but I can GUARANTEE that he is just as spoiled & loved as every yorkie on this board. I was concerned at 1st, but I just decided that I loved him reguardless of what he looks like. (He is absolutely adorable, he just doesn't look like a yorkie yet) He will always be my baby boy & know how much I love him. Let your dog know how much you love him, and he will be more responsive to you. I really believe this. My poor dog went into hypoglycemic shock, tore a ligament in his leg, gave me a panic attack, cost more in vet bills than I spent on him, and still my husband's 1st reaction was to grab him up and loooove on him, telling him that he was such a strong boy. (it was adorable) Trigger knows who mommy & daddy are, and of course he would rather be held by me most of the time because I am "mommy", but he also love his daddy too. Try not to push him, let him get comfortable in the house, and continuousely let him know that you care for him, and want to bond. If you don't truly care, or want to bond... I agree with the others, you should re-home him.

Good luck in whatever you decide.