Please help with my anxiety!!!! - YorkieTalk.com Forums

marcerella02 · 08-15-2007, 02:12 PM

we leave on Monday for 5 WONDERFUL days in NYC, but i've never been so torn about going away. We are leaving Layla with her babysitter who she LOVES, but i cry just thinking about it. She goes on Friday for a trial run... her babysitter says it is more for me than for Layla... she is right

i'm a mess about leaving her.... i don't know how i'm going to do it Friday let alone Monday.... i feel like i'm leaving her forever, even though i know i'm comin back to get her... but what if something happens.... what if she thinks i've left her.... i'm so worried she will cry to let her babysitter know that she needs to go out at night but her babysitter won't hear her. Layla sleeps in a crate and she is level with my bed so i can hear her.. although she rarely wakes up at nnight.. but when she doens't.. she's not kidding.. she NEEDS to go out... i'm worried there is going ot be too much activity at the house for her... our days are quiet... or what if she gets lost... or sick.... i'm just making MYSELF sick about this... i'm just worried it is a bad idea... and I KNOW people leave their dogs all the time in worse places than Layla is going (Which honest to God is ideal...) maybe those that have left their pups for the first time already can just tell me she will be fine.. she wont' hate me and you'd do it again....

LoveMyJake · 08-15-2007, 02:18 PM

I totally understand your concerns! As long as you trust Layla's babysitter, she will be fine. Just make sure you go over all your fears and concerns, she will understand. Layla WILL forgive you, and she will be so happy to see you when you come home. When Jake was 5 mos. old, I had to go into the hospital for surgery. I worried more about him than anything else that was going on, and I missed him terribly! I don't know why I worried because he was in excellent hands with my hubby and son, and my daughter came to stay with him too. Jake has always been such a mommy's boy that I was afraid that would change. But ya know what? It didn't change one bit. When I came home, he was extremely happy to see me, and he went right back to being a mommy's boy lol.

Try to relax, although I KNOW it's hard. Have FUN on your trip! You deserve it!!!

Wylie's Mom · 08-15-2007, 02:19 PM

Oh do I hear you. I was almost sick when I left Wylie in the past; now that we have teeny Marcel - it'll be worse.

She will be okay. The only thing I know that helped me was to "prep" the caretaker for as much as possible....i.e., written instructions, toys, food, habits, favorites, etcetera. And, stressing safety issues ad nauseum.

It really is tough, so I totally understand...but have confidence that she'll be okay, that it'll be WAY harder on you than her, and that she'll forget you were even gone once you're reunited. Try to enjoy....

peanut · 08-15-2007, 02:24 PM

Okay girl, take a deep breath, and look at the whole situation...I know where you coming from, but you must trust your babysitter or you wouldn't even let her around Layla, and you have to pray and have faith....She will be fine, its hard but you need to get away and have some fun also, and just think of all the kissing and love you will receive when you get home, when I have left mine for a few days in the past I was devested and so excited to see them, that when I got home it was like I never left( it was me having the hard time not them)

...so don't worry so much, have a great time....

littlewhip · 08-15-2007, 02:25 PM

I have never left mine for longer then a day, just wanted to tell you to go and have a great time and she will smother you with all her wonderful yorkie kisses when you get home

I know its so hard not to worry, cause we are good mommies, she knows that

best to you, have fun

LuvMySissy · 08-15-2007, 02:29 PM

Marci - it really will be okay, but you'll miss her like crazy and worry about her till you get back and that will be even with you calling to check on her every day at least once!!!!!!

You are a perfectly normal and sane Yorkie loving mommy!!!! I'm leaving tomorrow till Sunday night and my girls are staying with my friend Linda (Fancypants) and her two boys, Henry & Cameron. She has had her boys twice as long as I've had my girls and I know I will talk to her daily to check on the girls. I'm sure they will have fun playing with the boys, but I'll still worry.

Hugs to you!!!

nvnvgirl · 08-15-2007, 02:29 PM

I agree with all the others; and you can call anytime I'm sure to make sure things are going alright! It's normal to worry about someone you love and who you're so used to being with, but I think sometimes it's good for us to be away from them so they don't totally decompensate in times of emergencies if you had to be gone for awhile. And I think it's good for us too to get away and have a little less responsibility 24/7. Have a good time, even if you have to call several times a day, LOL.

Akina · 08-15-2007, 02:33 PM

Definitely Layla will be fine.
But you on the other hand, oh boy, it will be tough for you.
I left Momiji with wonderful yorkie mom (another yt member) and she LOVED it there.
She didn't want to come home with me since she gained 2 sisters!!!
One anther time I had to leave her at pet hotel, well that was not very good.
I'm sure they did O.K. job but compare to leave her with someone from YT who understand our precious baby is no comparison.
She came back with messed hair, matted hair, and stink.....
So think about it, Layla will be pampered by your babysitter!!!!

LoveMyJake · 08-15-2007, 02:55 PM

I do have a suggestion. If Layla has a favorite blanket, make sure you sleep with it for a couple nights before you leave to get your scent on it. I did this with Jake, plus I left him one of my shirts. My husband said he always curled up with the blanket and shirt when he slept. That might help Layla.

marcerella02 · 08-15-2007, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by LoveMyJake

I do have a suggestion. If Layla has a favorite blanket, make sure you sleep with it for a couple nights before you leave to get your scent on it. I did this with Jake, plus I left him one of my shirts. My husband said he always curled up with the blanket and shirt when he slept. That might help Layla.

Hey! i wasn't sure if i should do that or not. She has blankets in her crate that have HER scent on them... should i put my shirt in there too?? maybe i'll just put a tshirt in with her.. i was going ot put my sweatshirt but that might be too much! thanks for the advice!

judyeve · 08-15-2007, 03:00 PM

You poor thing! I can understand how you feel. I'm sure Layla will not only be fine, she'll be spoiled and pampered! You, on the other hand, are understandably having a slight nervous breakdown. You're leaving your little baby!

You will live through this, and she'll have a ball!

Sending you a big hug.

Judy

luckylady · 08-15-2007, 03:37 PM

Your anxiety is understandable, but most likely unwarrented. I too feel terrible when I have to leave my babies...for any length of time, especially if I have somewhere I need to go just after arriving home from work. I even worried about them (unnecessarily) when I left them with my sister for a couple of days. I love and trust my sister whole-heartedly, but still fretted over my babies not getting the attention they get from me. But when I picked them up, guess what? They were perfectly fine and still loved me just as much as ever. So as long as you know and trust your babysitter (and better even that Layla loves her), Layla will be just fine and ready to give you lots and lots of kisses on your return. Try to relax and enjoy your trip!

paulapoo · 08-15-2007, 05:06 PM

Oh I completely understand, because of this reason, I haven't left mine. I only left Otis once for 2 days, but since I've gotten Oliver, I haven't. I find a zillion excuses not to go anywhere. One of these days I'll find someone I trust to stay here with them and I'll get away. Enjoy yourself, have a great time, Layla will be wonderful, and very happy to see you.

SophieRose · 08-15-2007, 05:10 PM

PS There is this thing called a telephone, and you can call daily to check on her. It is so difficult to leave them, but AlaskaYorkie left his kids for two weeks. Check his thread, and he was also very concerned.

Take care, enjoy your trip and she will be so glad to see you when you return. Warmly, Deborah

YorkieMom55 · 08-15-2007, 05:26 PM

I've been on both sides of that one.
Whenever we leave them, Chuck is ready to come back home after one day. I can usually make him hold out another day. Then it's back home to see the kids...because "they" can't sleep without "him".
We have watched other people's puppies and it usually takes a day for them to settle down and then they adapt rather quickly. Layla will be fine, I'm sure. You can call & check on her, right? Relax and have a good time, take lots of pictures. You do not need to experience all of this anxiety, it isn't good for you.

08-15-2007, 02:12 PM	#1
marcerella02 Loved by Layla Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 11,257	Please help with my anxiety!!!! we leave on Monday for 5 WONDERFUL days in NYC, but i've never been so torn about going away. We are leaving Layla with her babysitter who she LOVES, but i cry just thinking about it. She goes on Friday for a trial run... her babysitter says it is more for me than for Layla... she is right i'm a mess about leaving her.... i don't know how i'm going to do it Friday let alone Monday.... i feel like i'm leaving her forever, even though i know i'm comin back to get her... but what if something happens.... what if she thinks i've left her.... i'm so worried she will cry to let her babysitter know that she needs to go out at night but her babysitter won't hear her. Layla sleeps in a crate and she is level with my bed so i can hear her.. although she rarely wakes up at nnight.. but when she doens't.. she's not kidding.. she NEEDS to go out... i'm worried there is going ot be too much activity at the house for her... our days are quiet... or what if she gets lost... or sick.... i'm just making MYSELF sick about this... i'm just worried it is a bad idea... and I KNOW people leave their dogs all the time in worse places than Layla is going (Which honest to God is ideal...) maybe those that have left their pups for the first time already can just tell me she will be fine.. she wont' hate me and you'd do it again.... __________________ http://misscanam.blogspot.com/ Layla 's Simon

08-15-2007, 02:18 PM	#2
LoveMyJake I love Jackson too! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,905	I totally understand your concerns! As long as you trust Layla's babysitter, she will be fine. Just make sure you go over all your fears and concerns, she will understand. Layla WILL forgive you, and she will be so happy to see you when you come home. When Jake was 5 mos. old, I had to go into the hospital for surgery. I worried more about him than anything else that was going on, and I missed him terribly! I don't know why I worried because he was in excellent hands with my hubby and son, and my daughter came to stay with him too. Jake has always been such a mommy's boy that I was afraid that would change. But ya know what? It didn't change one bit. When I came home, he was extremely happy to see me, and he went right back to being a mommy's boy lol. Try to relax, although I KNOW it's hard. Have FUN on your trip! You deserve it!!! __________________ Selina, mommy to Jake and Jackson. RIP baby Lily Coming soon: Gracie

08-15-2007, 02:19 PM	#3
Wylie's Mom Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 35,889 Blog Entries: 2	Oh do I hear you. I was almost sick when I left Wylie in the past; now that we have teeny Marcel - it'll be worse. She will be okay. The only thing I know that helped me was to "prep" the caretaker for as much as possible....i.e., written instructions, toys, food, habits, favorites, etcetera. And, stressing safety issues ad nauseum. It really is tough, so I totally understand...but have confidence that she'll be okay, that it'll be WAY harder on you than her, and that she'll forget you were even gone once you're reunited. Try to enjoy.... __________________ ~ A friend told me I was delusional. I nearly fell off my unicorn. ~ °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨° Ann \| Pfeiffer \| Marcel Verdel Purcell \| Wylie \| Artie °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨°

08-15-2007, 02:24 PM	#4
peanut Dogs Rule Cats Drool! Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Tennessee Posts: 7,895	Okay girl, take a deep breath, and look at the whole situation...I know where you coming from, but you must trust your babysitter or you wouldn't even let her around Layla, and you have to pray and have faith....She will be fine, its hard but you need to get away and have some fun also, and just think of all the kissing and love you will receive when you get home, when I have left mine for a few days in the past I was devested and so excited to see them, that when I got home it was like I never left( it was me having the hard time not them) ...so don't worry so much, have a great time.... __________________ KIM

08-15-2007, 02:25 PM	#5
littlewhip Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: wiith my furbabys Posts: 8,874	I have never left mine for longer then a day, just wanted to tell you to go and have a great time and she will smother you with all her wonderful yorkie kisses when you get home I know its so hard not to worry, cause we are good mommies, she knows that best to you, have fun __________________

08-15-2007, 02:29 PM	#6
LuvMySissy Luv my Angel, too! Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: USA Posts: 9,333	Marci - it really will be okay, but you'll miss her like crazy and worry about her till you get back and that will be even with you calling to check on her every day at least once!!!!!! You are a perfectly normal and sane Yorkie loving mommy!!!! I'm leaving tomorrow till Sunday night and my girls are staying with my friend Linda (Fancypants) and her two boys, Henry & Cameron. She has had her boys twice as long as I've had my girls and I know I will talk to her daily to check on the girls. I'm sure they will have fun playing with the boys, but I'll still worry. Hugs to you!!! __________________ Sissy & Angel

08-15-2007, 02:29 PM	#7
nvnvgirl Lovin' to the MAX!! Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Yorkieville Posts: 2,774	I agree with all the others; and you can call anytime I'm sure to make sure things are going alright! It's normal to worry about someone you love and who you're so used to being with, but I think sometimes it's good for us to be away from them so they don't totally decompensate in times of emergencies if you had to be gone for awhile. And I think it's good for us too to get away and have a little less responsibility 24/7. Have a good time, even if you have to call several times a day, LOL. __________________ Seana and Max and Madison too! Come visit me at: celebritydogwatcher.com

08-15-2007, 02:33 PM	#8
Akina YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: San Mateo Posts: 887	Definitely Layla will be fine. But you on the other hand, oh boy, it will be tough for you. I left Momiji with wonderful yorkie mom (another yt member) and she LOVED it there. She didn't want to come home with me since she gained 2 sisters!!! One anther time I had to leave her at pet hotel, well that was not very good. I'm sure they did O.K. job but compare to leave her with someone from YT who understand our precious baby is no comparison. She came back with messed hair, matted hair, and stink..... So think about it, Layla will be pampered by your babysitter!!!!

08-15-2007, 02:55 PM	#9
LoveMyJake I love Jackson too! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,905	I do have a suggestion. If Layla has a favorite blanket, make sure you sleep with it for a couple nights before you leave to get your scent on it. I did this with Jake, plus I left him one of my shirts. My husband said he always curled up with the blanket and shirt when he slept. That might help Layla. __________________ Selina, mommy to Jake and Jackson. RIP baby Lily Coming soon: Gracie

08-15-2007, 03:00 PM	#11
judyeve Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Brooklyn, NY Posts: 1,729	You poor thing! I can understand how you feel. I'm sure Layla will not only be fine, she'll be spoiled and pampered! You, on the other hand, are understandably having a slight nervous breakdown. You're leaving your little baby! You will live through this, and she'll have a ball! Sending you a big hug. Judy __________________ *Judy, Max and Annie* *Rest in Peace my Sweet Angel Gracie Leigh:*

08-15-2007, 03:37 PM	#12
luckylady Living My Yorkie Dream Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Nebraska Posts: 6,114 Blog Entries: 6	Your anxiety is understandable, but most likely unwarrented. I too feel terrible when I have to leave my babies...for any length of time, especially if I have somewhere I need to go just after arriving home from work. I even worried about them (unnecessarily) when I left them with my sister for a couple of days. I love and trust my sister whole-heartedly, but still fretted over my babies not getting the attention they get from me. But when I picked them up, guess what? They were perfectly fine and still loved me just as much as ever. So as long as you know and trust your babysitter (and better even that Layla loves her), Layla will be just fine and ready to give you lots and lots of kisses on your return. Try to relax and enjoy your trip! __________________ Rose Lucky,Toby, Hannah,Camie, & Reggie Heartland Biewers and Yorkies

08-15-2007, 05:06 PM	#13
paulapoo Blessed by Otis & Ollie Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Plainfield, Indiana Posts: 2,884	Oh I completely understand, because of this reason, I haven't left mine. I only left Otis once for 2 days, but since I've gotten Oliver, I haven't. I find a zillion excuses not to go anywhere. One of these days I'll find someone I trust to stay here with them and I'll get away. Enjoy yourself, have a great time, Layla will be wonderful, and very happy to see you. __________________ ~Paula~ proud mommy of ~Otis (yorkie) & Oliver (shih-poo)

08-15-2007, 05:10 PM	#14
SophieRose Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Petaluma Posts: 2,217	PS There is this thing called a telephone, and you can call daily to check on her. It is so difficult to leave them, but AlaskaYorkie left his kids for two weeks. Check his thread, and he was also very concerned. Take care, enjoy your trip and she will be so glad to see you when you return. Warmly, Deborah __________________ Peace and Light, Deborah My Sweet Sophie 1994-2007Welcome, Charlie Barley 4.14.07 & Sofia Bella 9.13.08 http://www.dogster.com/dogs/535291

08-15-2007, 05:26 PM	#15
YorkieMom55 All Dogs Go To Heaven Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: By The Lake Posts: 2,727	I've been on both sides of that one. Whenever we leave them, Chuck is ready to come back home after one day. I can usually make him hold out another day. Then it's back home to see the kids...because "they" can't sleep without "him". We have watched other people's puppies and it usually takes a day for them to settle down and then they adapt rather quickly. Layla will be fine, I'm sure. You can call & check on her, right? Relax and have a good time, take lots of pictures. You do not need to experience all of this anxiety, it isn't good for you. __________________ Jeanie I am @ the Lake Jackson, Maggie, Sunshine, Bailey, Rocky, Emmie & Jack