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YorkieMom2 · 06-18-2007, 08:22 AM

I didnt want to have to tell that he broke my neck. But I guess it was an important deciding factor.

Rudys Mom · 06-18-2007, 08:25 AM

I don't think it's a completely different story than what she lst said. I just think she didn't want to go into the details about how her husband treated her and that she is trying to tell us she had no other choice.

I hope you can get your sweet Yorkies back, it sounds like you need them as much as they need you.

Life sure isn't fair in so many situations.

chachi · 06-18-2007, 08:31 AM

I am sorry that hapened to you. If he did that how did you know he wouldnt hurt the yorkies too?

Shadow · 06-18-2007, 08:36 AM

Please lets not be so jugdemental here. We can't sit her and say we would do this or that, we can't possibly know unless we walked in her shoes. She did what was best at the time and she said he is a great fur Dad.

RLC12345678 · 06-18-2007, 08:37 AM

Have you ASKED him if you could have them or if you could buy them from him or something like that?

chachi · 06-18-2007, 08:40 AM

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Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Have you ASKED him if you could have them or if you could buy them from him or something like that?

Thats what would do. Maybe with his girlfriend and moving he would give them to you

dray · 06-18-2007, 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by YorkieMom2

You are correct, I did leave them with my husband when I left. If things would have stayed the same meaning, he stayed in his house, then I would be ok with seeming the dogs every other night. But with him moving an hour away to a house that has no fence, and has 6 kids running around, that isnt in the best interest of the dogs. I had to leave in a hurry for my safety, and with living in a condo, I cant put up a fence. However, I am more prepared to have them with me now. I was just asking for advice if anyone else has gone thru the same situation.

It is not my place to question anything you say or have done, but it seems to me that if you had to leave is such a hurry and he broke your neck , I would not go back to his house and visit my dogs every other night. I have been in a bad relationship before , and I know the choices that have to be made. Seems to me that there is probably more to the story but we do not need to hear it. Ask him for the dogs, offer to buy them or talk to an attorney, if he could hurt you he can hurt the dogs. Not to mention the 6 kids, or your son for that matter. Scary!!!!

MaxwellHouse · 06-18-2007, 09:26 AM

Oh, I am so sorry you and your child have to go through this. If you could raise enough money to ask in a non-threatening way, so that his girlfriend knows you are willing to pay to get them back, she might help pressure him to let them go to you.

I have a loved one going thru a terrible divorce and it is horrible, so I feel for you having a child and fur babies involved, not to mention your own safety.

Let us know what happens -- your YT will be there for you, I'm sure.

daisy mae06 · 06-18-2007, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by YorkieMom2

I feel like I am getting pounced on becasue I "left" them. The reason I left them is because I was in the hospital with a broken neck and a 9 hour surgery because of my husbands actions. When I left the hospital, I didnt go back to my home. My parents did all they could to help me, but who was going to take care of my dogs while my parents were in the hospital with me.

I just wanted to make it clear that I didnt leave them by choice.

Thank you everyone for your advice.

I feel your pain There are alot of things we don't know and you don't need to tell us. I would see what you and him can work out. I know if he don't want to give them up it is his right. The pups belong to both of you he just has full custody.
I am so sorry you are going though all this and I hope it all works out for you and you pups. If you need to vent some steam feel free to PM me I am a great listener

(((((HUGS))))),
Lori

celstu1 · 06-18-2007, 09:51 AM

Ive seen this happen before... this loving, supportive environment turn the wrath on when they dont like what they hear. Noone EVER needs to EXPLAIN their personal decisions to anyone else on the INTERNET! If you feel you need to know more about someone before you can support them, then DON'T post at all. That way noones feelings get hurt even more.

YorkieMom2 - did you ever make a deal with your ex that youd get the dogs back when you were ready for them? Was the solution of them staying with him assumed to be forever? Maybe you can talk to your ex husband into going in on a new pup for you and letting him keep your other babies. I know its going to hurt you so much to let them go and possibly not see them very often if at all... but it may be better for you emotionally to deal with the loss of them than with the emotions of dealing with your abusive ex husband in a 'custody battle'.

I wish you all the luck in the world, this is a tough situation! Id hate to be in your shoes and my heart goes out to you! I think 2 tiny Yorkies mixed in with 6 kids is a bit dangerous! Tell your ex that!

nefertelli · 06-18-2007, 09:58 AM

I would ask him for the pups back, considering his new situation it may be easier for him to give them up to you now. Or if you are on speaking terms to the new gf talk to her. She may want you to have the dogs. I know some men will fight with you just to be spiteful and show that they still have control over you. If that is the case, it might be less stressful for you to give them up. I would not want to see you put in a situation that would cause you any furthur harm.Good luck.

There are a lot of pups that need a good mommyto take care of them

chachi · 06-18-2007, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by celstu1

Ive seen this happen before... this loving, supportive environment turn the wrath on when they dont like what they hear. Noone EVER needs to EXPLAIN their personal decisions to anyone else on the INTERNET! If you feel you need to know more about someone before you can support them, then DON'T post at all. That way noones feelings get hurt even more.

YorkieMom2 - did you ever make a deal with your ex that youd get the dogs back when you were ready for them? Was the solution of them staying with him assumed to be forever? Maybe you can talk to your ex husband into going in on a new pup for you and letting him keep your other babies. I know its going to hurt you so much to let them go and possibly not see them very often if at all... but it may be better for you emotionally to deal with the loss of them than with the emotions of dealing with your abusive ex husband in a 'custody battle'.

I wish you all the luck in the world, this is a tough situation! Id hate to be in your shoes and my heart goes out to you! I think 2 tiny Yorkies mixed in with 6 kids is a bit dangerous! Tell your ex that!

I didnt see where anyone asked her to explain her personal situaton. She volunteered that info herself. I just dont think she should steal the dogs and I dont think anyone should be encouraging her to do that either. She could get herself in trouble if she trys to do that. I wish you the best yorkiemom. I would try reasoning with your ex.

yorkieusa · 06-18-2007, 10:47 AM

Would you like to have them on weekends or something like that? Talk to him.

Felina · 06-18-2007, 01:08 PM

If he is a good dad to the yorkies, maybe you can now get your own little baby yorkie to keep and arrange for visitations with the older two?

RLC12345678 · 06-18-2007, 01:23 PM

For the record, I was only kidding about stealing the dogs..........

06-18-2007, 08:25 AM	#17
Rudys Mom Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Lancaster, PA Posts: 4,327	I don't think it's a completely different story than what she lst said. I just think she didn't want to go into the details about how her husband treated her and that she is trying to tell us she had no other choice. I hope you can get your sweet Yorkies back, it sounds like you need them as much as they need you. Life sure isn't fair in so many situations. __________________ Rudy, Zoey & Buster's mom (Dawn) Rest In Peace my precious Gracie girl & Lucky buddie Dogster:http://www.dogster.com/dogs/382659 & http://www.dogster.com/dogs/497315

06-18-2007, 08:31 AM	#18
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	I am sorry that hapened to you. If he did that how did you know he wouldnt hurt the yorkies too? __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

06-18-2007, 09:51 AM	#25
celstu1 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 10,534	Ive seen this happen before... this loving, supportive environment turn the wrath on when they dont like what they hear. Noone EVER needs to EXPLAIN their personal decisions to anyone else on the INTERNET! If you feel you need to know more about someone before you can support them, then DON'T post at all. That way noones feelings get hurt even more. YorkieMom2 - did you ever make a deal with your ex that youd get the dogs back when you were ready for them? Was the solution of them staying with him assumed to be forever? Maybe you can talk to your ex husband into going in on a new pup for you and letting him keep your other babies. I know its going to hurt you so much to let them go and possibly not see them very often if at all... but it may be better for you emotionally to deal with the loss of them than with the emotions of dealing with your abusive ex husband in a 'custody battle'. I wish you all the luck in the world, this is a tough situation! Id hate to be in your shoes and my heart goes out to you! I think 2 tiny Yorkies mixed in with 6 kids is a bit dangerous! Tell your ex that! __________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz

06-18-2007, 09:58 AM	#26
nefertelli Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: orlando florida Posts: 49	Ask him I would ask him for the pups back, considering his new situation it may be easier for him to give them up to you now. Or if you are on speaking terms to the new gf talk to her. She may want you to have the dogs. I know some men will fight with you just to be spiteful and show that they still have control over you. If that is the case, it might be less stressful for you to give them up. I would not want to see you put in a situation that would cause you any furthur harm.Good luck. There are a lot of pups that need a good mommyto take care of them __________________ Joni:Lili Daisi Rosi

06-18-2007, 10:47 AM	#28
yorkieusa Crazy about Kacee! Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 21,173	Would you like to have them on weekends or something like that? Talk to him. __________________ Karen Kacee Muffin 1991-2005 Rest in Peace My Little Angel

06-18-2007, 08:22 AM	#16
YorkieMom2 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 133	I didnt want to have to tell that he broke my neck. But I guess it was an important deciding factor.

06-18-2007, 08:36 AM	#19
Shadow No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: California Posts: 5,368	Please lets not be so jugdemental here. We can't sit her and say we would do this or that, we can't possibly know unless we walked in her shoes. She did what was best at the time and she said he is a great fur Dad.

06-18-2007, 08:37 AM	#20
RLC12345678 I heart Hootie & Hobbs Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: USA Posts: 7,149	Have you ASKED him if you could have them or if you could buy them from him or something like that?

06-18-2007, 09:26 AM	#23
MaxwellHouse YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Earlysville Posts: 976	Oh, I am so sorry you and your child have to go through this. If you could raise enough money to ask in a non-threatening way, so that his girlfriend knows you are willing to pay to get them back, she might help pressure him to let them go to you. I have a loved one going thru a terrible divorce and it is horrible, so I feel for you having a child and fur babies involved, not to mention your own safety. Let us know what happens -- your YT will be there for you, I'm sure.

06-18-2007, 01:08 PM	#29
Felina Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Florida Posts: 328	If he is a good dad to the yorkies, maybe you can now get your own little baby yorkie to keep and arrange for visitations with the older two? __________________ Toby, Shelby Rose, Kasey & Oliver's Mom

06-18-2007, 01:23 PM	#30
RLC12345678 I heart Hootie & Hobbs Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: USA Posts: 7,149	For the record, I was only kidding about stealing the dogs..........