If This Happens Again I Will Not Reply In A Nice Way

[azkaty]

Totally agree!

[elegntorchid]

kim you do have a very good point. people do tend to point out a persons physical attributes when they do not conform to societies liking. just saying that a person was rude or made you angry would suffice.

[mustangbee]

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Great Dane? Oh they are so sweet, I guess they would need a double stroller.
Would be my answer.

Princess is with me 24/7 no one has aked me why. We shop where we want, and when we want. There is a rule in life, If you don't have anything nice to say, Don't say anything at all. hmmmmmmmm Yep after all these years I still go by that same old rule.

[PlatinumYorkies]

Originally Posted by kim_yorkiemom

I'm confused - was this person at the mall rude BECAUSE she was a "Heffer" in your opinion or are you merely calling her a "Heffer" in retaliation for offending you?

Why is the first thing you focus on about this rude woman is her weight? Would you have stated "This skinny a** rude woman" had she been thin?
(I think you could have told your story without the added name-calling, because, honestly, it reduces your point in the end). JMO But, I do understand that not everyone suffers from that kind of hurtful talk on a regular basis so it seems funny to many.

Hey! I think I am one of the heaviest woman here on YT( and I am darn proud), and I call people Heifers ALL THE TIME. No matter their size..Heifer is not a MEAN, hateful, FAT GIRL WORD!! I don't think weight had a thing to do with it....

[whispersmom2]

I didn't see this post as one against the woman because of her size. I too use the word "heffer" as it is a word from my WV days. Somebody who bugs the crap outta you is a heffer...well, that is one of the nicer words we call them..

[kim_yorkiemom]

Originally Posted by PlatinumYorkies

I don't think weight had a thing to do with it....

I'm not sure if you saw this quote earlier in the thread, but she clarified that she was referring to the woman's weight...which was not needed for the story (in my opinion). Here is the quote:

Originally Posted by yorkiepip

Heffer!!!! What a hilarious word!
Sorry but that really tickled me! Its the sort of word my hubby would use about a very round person.
Is that how you meant it too?

Originally Posted by chechinmipo

I did mean it in that way.

[PlatinumYorkies]

Originally Posted by kim_yorkiemom

I'm not sure if you saw this quote earlier in the thread, but she clarified that she was referring to the woman's weight...which was not needed for the story (in my opinion). Here is the quote:

I saw it..and I am saying I don't see "HEIFER" as an offensive word. Like, I said I am a big girl and that didn't offend me. I think there are more offensive words than heifer!!! And I am sorry, I think you have to be over 250 to be offended when someone calls someone else a young cow! Sorry! I am not offended by HIS comments! I found them FUNNY AS all HECK!

[kim_yorkiemom]

Originally Posted by PlatinumYorkies

Sorry! I am not offended by HIS comments! I found them FUNNY AS all HECK!

Good for you! You must be a very strong person. It still was an unnecessary point to the story.

[PlatinumYorkies]

Originally Posted by kim_yorkiemom

Good for you! You must be a very strong person. It still was an unnecessary point to the story.

Yup, very strong...I also love me, not in spite of, but because of!

[shwbabygirl]

yay good for you for putting the woman in her place....it bugs me when ppl look at animlas like a they are nothing....my furbaby is part of our family and i dare someone to say something about it because it wouldnt get to far with me....the way i see it is you can say what you want about me or to me but DONT do it to my kids and my furbaby is one of my kids in my opinion...he is the little boy i never had and i love him dearly...so i am glad you put her in her place however if it would have been me i dont think i would have been as nice as you were to her

[Annie&Badger]

Someone tried to kick my Badger on Saturday! Actually stuck his leg out and Badger cowered (my poor baby!!) and this freak actually laughed . I was so angry. You can believe I called him quite a few bad words that should not be repeated here. The air around us turned blue and my husband had to drag me away from him because there was going to be a huge fight. I can't abide people who are nasty to or about animals so I can understand the anger that someone can feel in the moment

[chechinmipo]

Originally Posted by mylittletigger

My one question is why do we call overweight or plump people(as I politely put it) Heffers? I find it so hurtful. No one deserves to be called such a word.

as for her I would have had a few words of my own to say as well. Rude people should just stick to the old rule. If you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all. and what I would add to that statement is "and if you do say something not nice expect the same back."

When I say heffer I use this term regardless of a womans body type. I am so not concerned about peoples weight. Only they know their reasons on why they are this way and I am no one to judge. In this case she happened to be filled in a bit but that wasn't my main reason for calling her this name. I am so not the type of person to mock someones weight. I was brought up better than that.

[chechinmipo]

Originally Posted by kim_yorkiemom

I'm confused - was this person at the mall rude BECAUSE she was a "Heffer" in your opinion or are you merely calling her a "Heffer" in retaliation for offending you?

Why is the first thing you focus on about this rude woman is her weight? Would you have stated "This skinny a** rude woman" had she been thin?
(I think you could have told your story without the added name-calling, because, honestly, it reduces your point in the end). JMO But, I do understand that not everyone suffers from that kind of hurtful talk on a regular basis so it seems funny to many.

I would refer to any woman in this way in the heat of passion regardless of their weight. I honestly think you guys are now making me look like I label people based on their body type. Most of you don't even know my. When someone calls another person something is it specifically for what the word means ? or is it because its what first comes to your head when you are angry? Yeez, some of you are drowning in a cup of water.

[chechinmipo]

Originally Posted by PlatinumYorkies

Hey! I think I am one of the heaviest woman here on YT( and I am darn proud), and I call people Heifers ALL THE TIME. No matter their size..Heifer is not a MEAN, hateful, FAT GIRL WORD!! I don't think weight had a thing to do with it....

Thank you so much. Its just an every now and then slang word. I mean come on I was picked on many years of my life, but I was very confident in myself and always emerged unharmed. I myself have family members that are over weight and some of these have been more loving to me than other in my family.

[chechinmipo]

Originally Posted by kim_yorkiemom

Good for you! You must be a very strong person. It still was an unnecessary point to the story.

Well a story has to have all feelings and emotions being felt in the moment it is being written. Other wise it wouldn't be a story maybe a parody instead.