I need some encouragment

[Bizzymammabee]

You know what she will get what is coming to her. Kids aren't stupid and they notice the difference in treatment. I had grandmother like that and I gave as good as I was old enough to show my displeasure.

Hugs and belated birthday wishes as well.

[bosslady]

I can't imagine a grandmother like that. I have 3 children and 8 grandchildren. My children and grandchildren are my life and I would do anything for them. My husband and I are upset if we don't have the grandchildren all the time. They are such a joy to us. We have even been babysitting my granddaughter's Yorkie for the last 3 months.

I had the sweetest MIL in the world. I loved her dearly. I also had the best grandma in the world so I wanted to the a good grandma and a good MIL because I had a good example in both of them. Hopefully, I've succeeded. My grandchildren range in age from 5 to 20 and they all love to come to my house and want me at all their ballgames,plays, etc. I am very close to all of them.

I am also very close to my DIL. She is like a daughter to me and she knows I would do anything for her.

I have also kept some of my children's friends kids and even some of the children of the ladies who work for me. I am a surrogate grandma to quite a few. Too bad I don't live close to you. I would sure keep your kids too. Even overnite if you wanted.

I just can't imagine anyone not wanting their grandchildren anytime they can have them. I am going to be a greatgrandma in June and I can't wait .
It's going to be a little girl. I am looking forward to keeping her too.

The next time your MIL wants the grandchildren (if she ever does) they would be unavailable.

It was none of your MIL's business how much the dog cost. I would never ask my kids a question like that. If they volunteer the information that's one thing, but otherwise it's none of my business. I am very close to my children but I try very hard not to interfere in their business. I had a mother who liked to interfere and I did not want to be that way. I just want to be there for them if they need me but not interfere in their personal lives.

[elegntorchid]

you too bizzy, i had a grandmother like that also. i haven't seen her in about 10yrs or more. she is always asking my parents why i do not come around. FOR WHAT, that ole hateful hag. she knows she was mean too.
that is why i say maybe the children are better off with out her, no child should have to grow up feeling like their grandmother hates them.
So, get your pup without her watching your children and tell her thanks for nothin' Some times there are some family members you can live without.

[elegntorchid]

bosslady you sound like a wonderful example of what a mother, mother in law and grandmother should be. i would let a grandmother like you keep my yorkies too.

[bosslady]

Thank you. My goal is that my children and grandchildren have the wonderful memories of me as I have of my grandmother and MIL.

If I never do anything else in life that is worthwhile, I hope I have been a good mother and grandmother. That would make me very happy

[yorkie41]

If God wants you to have this dogg he's going to do it for u and your in my prayers sister!!!

[Saleswman]

Originally Posted by porkieyorkie

Oh you guys are great, thanks for all the birthday wishes. I think I got more "Happy Birthday" wishes from you guys than I did from my real family.Here is my situation.As some of you know, I am supposed to be picking up my new puppy next week. I am kinda getting discouraged about my new boy, cause I was supposed to pick him up Monday but now my M.I.L. is acting funny about baby sitting the kids. They are on spring break that week and it's about a 3-4 hour drive. She was supposed to watch them for me and then this morning she changed her mind (as usuall). Now she says that she "forgot" that they would be out of town too. I think she is just saying that because she knows how bad I want this dog and she HATES me.It would just kill me if I couldn't get this dog and she knows it. She is being a spiteful old hag. She made the comment yesterday to my hubby that "Anyone who would pay that much money for a little old ratty dog is plum stupid" . OHHHHH she pisses me off! She is just jealous cause Roxi (and every other yorkie) is prettier than she is. Maybe it's just not meant for me to have another puppy.I need some encouraging words, PLEASE!!!!!!

Hey they have a "drop off" day care in my state that you dont have to be a regular day care to use...open on weekends. Also, what about some college girl from church? You know, you are probably a lot like me....I dont drink, run around, smoke or do much else other than stuff with my kids. So you and I both are deserving of a puppy....so hang in there gal....

As far as MIL, have minimal contact with her, and ignore her ignorance, because she does not understand how you feel.....I think we all HAD a MIL like that at least ONCE.....lol...

Wish I lived closer.....or if you are picking up your puppy in Tenn, you can email me and they can play with my young sons....

[porkieyorkie]

You guys are great!!!!!!! And Bosslady you are the kind of mother/grandmother that I aim to be. I know one thing this has taught me what kind of mother/grandmother NOT to be.I just came back from a long, boring day at school and I haven't had much time to think about how to go about this, but I reassure everyone that I will have my baby boy! Pics will be coming real soon! So be on the lookout! I will make a really big deal about his homecoming too. Maybe I should through him a "Welcome Home" party and invite the MIL. Then I will let all the dogs come and literally piss on her leg.!!!!!

[Annie&Badger]

Urgh. Your MIL is a pain. I can't believe she'd penalise her own grandchildren to prove some dumb point. My mother in law also made a big song and dance about how much we paid for my puppy (she told my husband I should have 'done the right thing' and got a dog from the pound). She is also all in a tither because I called my Yorkie, 'Badger'. She's really pro-hunting (they still use Yorkies here for badger baiting) and I'm really anti-hunting which is why I called him it. She told my hubby that I did it 'deliberately to upset her'. Haha! Like I care about what she thinks, the old misery

I definitely think you should go get your puppy and something will work out with the kids. It sounds like it's meant to be. Although I'm not very religious I'm pretty sure God likes people who help each other. Good luck and please put some pics up as soon as you get him! x

[Tiggerwit]

sorry about MIL, that's tough. Makes it hard on the relationship sometimes and puts hubby in the middle. Hang in there and keep your chin up.

I'd suggest asking another parent take them and keep them until you return in exchange of returning the favor sometime or try and take them with you. If not because of the significance of the activities, maybe you could arrange a more convenient time with the breeder in which you can take the kids. Maybe if you stop asking MIL she'll get the hint.

[Bizzymammabee]

My MIL was the greatest (may she rest in peace...we lost her almost three years ago and it was devastating...she was only 52) as a MIL and a grandmother. I hope to one day be that kind of MIL. It's funny because she said she patterned herself after my husband's grandmother (her MIL) because she was the ultimate. I really hope to be just that way. My children were super blessed because she loved them so much. I really wish that I could have had that for myself. She was great because she never made one child feel better than the other. The love was abundant and totally equally dished out to each of the kids. Sadly she passed and never got to meet my son or my BIL's first child. I am always sad for my son becuase he never had that. My mom is a pretty miserable grandmother. She is a functioning alcoholic and my kids dont' really like to be around her which makes it hard because they love my dad.

I never quite could understand how a person even if you hated your DIL or SIL that you would punish the children that are part of you. Sad. As one of those kids that got the neglectful end I have to say it's very hurtful. When my grandmother died in December...I mourned her for what we should have had and not because of what we did have (does that make sense? lol).

Your children will be strong for the love that the recieve from others around them so no worries. I am telling you...try to train your new pup to pee on her shoe ever time he sees her....loll

[Salbug12]

Tara what day are you going to go. Is your son going to the little league field on 4th street. I will help if it is on my day off or my son could pick him up somewhere and take him. Let me know.

[porkieyorkie]

Hey Sal,
How are you! You have a PM!

[PlatinumYorkies]

That is just the sweetest...

[txshopper73]

Your MIL sounds like my FIL. In-laws...gotta love them!