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Ponyup · 03-29-2006, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by bchgirl

Nah, that's too much work...kick 'em to the curb

PS I AM KIDDING....good advice

Marriage is a lot of work. I don't know how I got sucked into it. I think I was momentarily confused by the big party and pretty dress and next thing I know I'm married. Where were all my supposed friends.

SnowWa · 03-29-2006, 11:53 AM

"Love me - love my dog" ---not necessarily. Your boyfriend has some very valid reasons for not liking your little dog. But, you'll have to work together to solve these problems... and, your boyfriend needs to see that he is responsible for some (not all) of the problems that he is having with the little guy.

When I had little toddlers, my husband and I had a wicker basket on top of our washing machine (which was in an alcove in the kitchen). We put everything and everything that our children shouldn't have there - car keys, wallets, etc. etc. etc.

AND - if either of us failed to do that - it was our own fault!!! Not the other person's and not the children's fault.

I think your little dog's chewing and playing with things he shouldn't have can be fairly easily solved.

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About your dog's "jealousy" problems - A lot of the other posters know better how to handle that than I do.

Good luck!

Carol Jean

JeanieK · 03-29-2006, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by ReggiesMom

This is actually Reggies Dad reading the posts.

Keep the Dog, dump the bum.

If he blows up over something that minor... He'll blow up on you next.

Please Listen to me. Please do not EVER let a man push you around or make you do anything you don't want to do. If he's asking you to do something you don't want to do, he's manipulating you. If you do it... He'll always manipulate you.

A relationship is 2 people SHARING a life (Sharing means Both of you involved)

I think his true colors are showing, and you (nor any other woman) needs that in her life.
Just my opinion.

Wow!!!! And that coming from a man. A very wise man by the way it sounds. Sounds like something a Dad might tell a daughter.

I agree, anytime you are given an ultimatum, you are being manipulated. Someone that loves you is concerned for YOUR happiness, and would not force you to choose.

bchgirl · 03-29-2006, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Ponyup

Marriage is a lot of work. I don't know how I got sucked into it. I think I was momentarily confused by the big party and pretty dress and next thing I know I'm married. Where were all my supposed friends.

You mean the ones that where supposed to stand up when the preacher asked..."if anyone knows a reason"....silly girl, they were waiting for the bar to open at the reception

No wedding, no reception

Ponyup · 03-29-2006, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by bchgirl

You mean the ones that where supposed to stand up when the preacher asked..."if anyone knows a reason"....silly girl, they were waiting for the bar to open at the reception

No wedding, no reception

Good point I know their was a good reason I got married; the reception

2WILDNCRZYORKI · 03-29-2006, 12:14 PM

Try some alternatives crating, take your pup to puppy class to see if you can redirect her chewing. Make sure she has things to chew on. Crate her when your BF wants to spend time with you.

You BF needs to learn that if he loves you, and you love your puppy he needs to compromise. I could never forgive my hubby for making me get rid of one of my yorkies.

Good Luck!!

SandyTXn · 03-29-2006, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by red98vett

I hate to sound like this - but what is he going to do when or IF you ever have kids ? IF he didn't want something chewed on - then he needs to put it out of her reach....

I feel for you - but I would really think about his personality... if a dog can be this upsetting...then how is he going to handle WORSE problems?

A little dog who chews is a MINOR problem in the larger scope of our lives.....That can be remedied by just keeping things out of reach...and if he doesn't have feelings for her now - then in MY opinion...he probably never will. How sad for you....If he really loved you - he would love your dog....or at least accept her.

He shouldn't be MAKING you choose....how immature..... I would have no problem making my mind up

Villette, You took the words right out of my mouth!! I could not have said it better! Your little furbaby did not "chew" anything on purpose!!!!! My Dinkey is 1yr and 4 months and he still chews. I keep everything UP off the floor and out of my furbabies reach! I keep his nylabone handy at all times.
I will get some of the "bully sticks" as soon as I find them. Bless your heart!
Hang in there..........You have gotten some great adivice!!! You should not have to choose!!!!

onelovelylynn · 03-29-2006, 01:58 PM

No man that is worth anything would ever make you chose between him and your furbaby... Thats just not right!!!! If he hates your dog, does he really love you???? I would say to him that we come hand in hand, and if he cant except the dog, BYE BYE... And yes do try to keep the dog in mind when leaving things out. Dog does not know any better. And your boyfriend does or at least he SHOULD. He sounds like a jealous, selfcentered kind of guy and in my book, he should have stayed with mommy.

Sorry this is so harsh, but Please find a new man, one that loves you and your dog.....

dianne · 03-29-2006, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by onelovelylynn

No man that is worth anything would ever make you chose between him and your furbaby... Thats just not right!!!! If he hates your dog, does he really love you???? I would say to him that we come hand in hand, and if he cant except the dog, BYE BYE... And yes do try to keep the dog in mind when leaving things out. Dog does not know any better. And your boyfriend does or at least he SHOULD. He sounds like a jealous, selfcentered kind of guy and in my book, he should have stayed with mommy.

Sorry this is so harsh, but Please find a new man, one that loves you and your dog.....

I couldnt of said it better

ReggiesMom · 03-29-2006, 02:38 PM

Everything else aside, the love you and your fiancee have for each other is supposed to be unconditional. Never give up or compromise about something you feel strongly about or you will always resent him (or he may always resent you if you keep the dog). Since you had your furbaby when you met him, he's supposed to love you just the way you are. Now if you were smoking or drinking and he wanted you to give it up, THAT would be a different story. What if you had children and now he's decided he doesn't like them because they touch his things? Would you give them up for him? I don't see the difference....

Good luck!
Ruth

hunniebunnie · 03-29-2006, 03:02 PM

looks like she's had a heart to heart conversation with her bf:
http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=36908

03-29-2006, 11:53 AM	#62
SnowWa YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: USA Posts: 2,992	"Love me - love my dog" ---not necessarily. Your boyfriend has some very valid reasons for not liking your little dog. But, you'll have to work together to solve these problems... and, your boyfriend needs to see that he is responsible for some (not all) of the problems that he is having with the little guy. When I had little toddlers, my husband and I had a wicker basket on top of our washing machine (which was in an alcove in the kitchen). We put everything and everything that our children shouldn't have there - car keys, wallets, etc. etc. etc. AND - if either of us failed to do that - it was our own fault!!! Not the other person's and not the children's fault. I think your little dog's chewing and playing with things he shouldn't have can be fairly easily solved. ---------------- About your dog's "jealousy" problems - A lot of the other posters know better how to handle that than I do. Good luck! Carol Jean __________________ http://tinypic.com/ipxhmb.jpg A Yorkie is worth a thousand words.

03-29-2006, 12:14 PM	#66
2WILDNCRZYORKI YT Addict Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: N. CALIFORNIA Posts: 250	Try some alternatives crating, take your pup to puppy class to see if you can redirect her chewing. Make sure she has things to chew on. Crate her when your BF wants to spend time with you. You BF needs to learn that if he loves you, and you love your puppy he needs to compromise. I could never forgive my hubby for making me get rid of one of my yorkies. Good Luck!! __________________ Mommy to Sebastian and Sweet Pea 2WILDNCRZYORKIES mYsPaCe

03-29-2006, 01:58 PM	#68
onelovelylynn My Darling Divas Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: magnolia, Texas Posts: 1,220	Kick him to the curb, and FAST !!!!! No man that is worth anything would ever make you chose between him and your furbaby... Thats just not right!!!! If he hates your dog, does he really love you???? I would say to him that we come hand in hand, and if he cant except the dog, BYE BYE... And yes do try to keep the dog in mind when leaving things out. Dog does not know any better. And your boyfriend does or at least he SHOULD. He sounds like a jealous, selfcentered kind of guy and in my book, he should have stayed with mommy. Sorry this is so harsh, but Please find a new man, one that loves you and your dog.....

03-29-2006, 02:38 PM	#70
ReggiesMom Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 179	Everything else aside, the love you and your fiancee have for each other is supposed to be unconditional. Never give up or compromise about something you feel strongly about or you will always resent him (or he may always resent you if you keep the dog). Since you had your furbaby when you met him, he's supposed to love you just the way you are. Now if you were smoking or drinking and he wanted you to give it up, THAT would be a different story. What if you had children and now he's decided he doesn't like them because they touch his things? Would you give them up for him? I don't see the difference.... Good luck! Ruth __________________ When you can't sleep, don't count sheep, count on the Shepherd. Reggie is Best!

03-29-2006, 03:02 PM	#71
hunniebunnie Follower of Yorkietology Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Cali-fo-nee-ya Posts: 1,325	looks like she's had a heart to heart conversation with her bf: http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=36908