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i_love_my_yorki · 01-28-2006, 03:23 PM

I couldnt put my Lucky to sleep,even tho she was crying out for me to let her go,i called my husband in tears,he came home from work & took my beloved Lucky .............now she is waiting for me

Maybe you could get someone else to take your beloved pet,its always so sad
but i knew i did the right decicion as my Lucky was suffering & i know i will see her again one day,healthy & rambuncious once more

margaritaville · 01-28-2006, 04:05 PM

This is a difficult decision and takes aot of courage and caring to make. About a year and half ago I had to make this decision. Actually I had made it before then but didn't have the courage. Hobbes was a 17 !/2 yo Bichon. He had irritable bowel syndrome for which he was on a special diet. From that he developed bladder stones at 9 years of age and needed surgery. The surgery left him with a urinary leakage problem and he needed belly bands. As time went by he lost his hearing and began to have a vision problem but things weren't too bad. He still played and ate well. Then came a time when he would look very confused and sllep alot. But when he was sitting with me on the bed one night he jumped off and began to have a seizure. Then next day we went to the vet. I had called ahead and they had a ready. She let me stay with him and gave him the injections and he went peacefully.
If you decide to take him and it is the compassionate thing to do as we love them and don't want them to suffer please take someone with you. I didn't and spent along time in the parking lot till I could drive home.
Several weeks later I got a lovely handwritten letter from my vet
Sorry this is so long but you are making the right decision for your baby and your Mom will take good care of her.

deb4air · 01-28-2006, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Kerri

Not really a yorkie type situation here but I have yorkies and I love everyone here so I thought I would try for some advice. I have an 18 year old poodle/lhaso apso (sp?) mix female. Her name is Flossie. She was my mothers dog and after my mother passed (when I was young) almost 12 years ago, I brought Flossie home with me. She only weighs around five pounds. Of course her age is getting the best of her. She can't see that great, can't hear and is getting on the senile side. I have made appts. on different occasions to get her put to sleep but I just can't do it. I told the vet. Dr. that I keep praying she will just go to sleep one night and that will be easier. Now, I just don't know that will happen. Since we have recently gotten Jake, our 3 month old Yorkie) she is really starting to go downhill even more. I can't let him near her. He attacks her and she doesn't have a chance. I just don't know how to do this!!! Her quality of life is gone but it is like I want her to stay around as long as possible...I rescued her after I got married. When I left my Dad's house, she couldn't deal with me leaving. She completely lost the hair on her head due to nerves. I gave her a sense of life when I brought her to live with us. I know I need to make a decision but I can't bear with the memories. I feel like I have my Mother's angel here and I don't want to let her go. PLEASE HELP ME HERE!!!!

I always believed that when the time is right you will be the first to know trusting you love this dog very much ..youll do the right thing for you both .May you have peace and love in knowing ..your love will never be far from you.

Claire · 01-28-2006, 06:10 PM

What a lucky dog Flossie is to have had both you and your mother love her. Do not think of it as Flossie passing away, think of it as Flossie returning to your mother. She will keep her company in Heaven forever. Neither will ever be lonley again for they will have each other...
I pray that God gives you the strength that you need to get threw this difficult time. Good luck to you and know that we are here, always, for you.

RowdysMom · 01-28-2006, 06:15 PM

I have a 13 year old schnauzer who has very bad arthritis. Just last month I asked the vet how will I know when his time is up. He said to watch his quality of life. If he looks like he is enjoying the family and his life - even though most of it is spent laying in the bed in the middle of the den - then he is not ready. But when he appears to not be enjoying his life because of the pain or lack of mobility - then it is time. I know I will have just as hard a time as you - it is not something I can think about very much.

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. <<<<< HUGS >>>>>

Kerri · 01-28-2006, 07:26 PM

Flossie doesn't seem to be in any pain at all. She just sleeps all the time and stares at the wall in between...along with licking her pillow excessively. If I could see her in pain that would make it easier on me. I just keep her gated in our laundry room now since we have Jake. I really think she would give out completely if Jake was around her longer than 30 minutes. She can't tolerate him and doesn't have the energy.

So, my husband just told me that the house vet. is going to be stopping by our house when he is in town...he doesn't live near us. It's going to be a spur of the moment type thing. I JUST DON'T THINK I CAN DO THIS!!!!

MeganS · 01-28-2006, 07:33 PM

awww, Kerri, I haven't responded on this thread today only because I couldn't think of something to say that could possible comfort you. Now I realize there is nothing I can say that will really comfort you. I'm so sorry. This is such a hard decision one that - as pet owners - we are faced with. You have to remember that, though its hard on us, its a relief for them. If they are in pain and have lost their will to live its just the right thing to do. Its never easy. I will have you in my thoughts and prayers. Its not going to be easy, but you'll know when its time...she'll tell you.

Kerri · 01-28-2006, 07:39 PM

Thanks so much for being here for me. I know deep in my heart that it is time for her. She is so unhappy and even looks that way. I just don't know why I am feeling so selfish. I want her here forever just like I want my Mother back. I know this is a touchy subject but her being my Mother's Dog (the one who took Flossie to a drive through restaurant every night) is making it so much harder. It even makes me mad at times. My entire family (I'm the youngest child of 8) can't believe I have Flossie still thriving. She has had a good life!!! Everyone knows that and I should feel good about it but I don't think I have much to brag about!

GucciMyGirl · 01-28-2006, 07:51 PM

Kerri...
You have got me crying along with the others who have told there sad stories and I have a lump in my throat. I never owned a dog before Gucci. I am so attached to this dog it is unbelievable. My advice to you would be to follow your heart and do what your gut tells you. Your gut feelings are never wrong.
I want to share a human story with you, my mother passed away six years go, she was in the hospital and in a coma dying. The day came when I had to sign a DNR <do not rescuitate> but I couldnt bring myself to sign this form. A nurse came over to me and saw me crying and said Gina you are giving your mother the gift of love let her be happy in the everafter. I did she died shortly after and I was relieved that she no longer was suffering and was with my dad and one of my brothers who had passed.
Just follow your heart and all will be well....

Gina

Kerri · 01-28-2006, 07:57 PM

I have a lump in my throat here as well. I have had a good life but have lost the closest ones to me suddenly and even tragically. My Mother passed instant in my home house of a stroke, my sister passed in a car accident on Thanksgiving three years ago, and my Father passed last year suddenly to heart aneursym bursting. I just really fear death!!! Anyway, I love Flossie with all my heart! Seeing her go will be like another family member leaving me.

puppylove123 · 01-28-2006, 07:58 PM

im like so close to tears right now... maybe this will help you decide...

well my cousin lost her baby about 2 years ago. she told me she knew it was time when she got on the floor on her belly and looked into her dog's eyes and saw pain. she knew it was time.

i think if you see her not happy or in pain it might be time, don't listen to what i say but just think she will keep your mom company up there. it might be hard to see her leave, but i think you'll do whats right

HUGS

Kerri · 01-28-2006, 08:02 PM

Thanks! Flossie is also very skiddish! She is startled when I touch her to pick her up to take her out to potty. She can't even make it up our front steps.

A big thanks to all you guys talking me through this. I know I only have a short time with her. She doesn't even like me rubbing her anymore. Her life is pretty much the pits right now!

reneernc · 01-28-2006, 08:07 PM

I took my sheltie to the vet 3 times to put him to sleep before I was finally able to do it. Deep down I knew it was the best thing to do for him, but I was selfish and couldn't imagine being w/o him. They lightly sedated him before putting him to sleep...and the old pup came out, I was able to see him as he had not been for a long time...no discomfort and happy w/tail wagging and loving all over me. I am thankful I got to see him like that again, but I really feel bad that I prolonged the inevitable and put him through some very bad days. It was actually a relief once it was done and I think you will likely experience the same. You can then step back and appreciate the wonderful friend that you had w/o just seeing how they have become.
I hope any of that makes any sense, my heart does go out to you...

Kerri · 01-28-2006, 08:22 PM

Deep down it will be a relief to me. Flossie has no happiness at all. She doesn't even wag her tail anymore. I just hate to be the one to make the tough decision.

scrapindee · 01-28-2006, 08:23 PM

I just went through having to make the decision to let my "Ranger" go. You can read some of my recent experience on the RIP: Goodbye Ranger.

It is a hard decision, but if your dog is in pain, can't be touched, and quality of life has diminished, it is time to let your mom have her back.

My prayers are with you.

01-28-2006, 06:15 PM	#35
RowdysMom Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Central Texas Posts: 2,624	I have a 13 year old schnauzer who has very bad arthritis. Just last month I asked the vet how will I know when his time is up. He said to watch his quality of life. If he looks like he is enjoying the family and his life - even though most of it is spent laying in the bed in the middle of the den - then he is not ready. But when he appears to not be enjoying his life because of the pain or lack of mobility - then it is time. I know I will have just as hard a time as you - it is not something I can think about very much. I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. <<<<< HUGS >>>>> __________________ Rex & Rowdy's Mom

01-28-2006, 07:33 PM	#37
MeganS Donating YT 7000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: New Jersey Posts: 12,016 Blog Entries: 1	awww, Kerri, I haven't responded on this thread today only because I couldn't think of something to say that could possible comfort you. Now I realize there is nothing I can say that will really comfort you. I'm so sorry. This is such a hard decision one that - as pet owners - we are faced with. You have to remember that, though its hard on us, its a relief for them. If they are in pain and have lost their will to live its just the right thing to do. Its never easy. I will have you in my thoughts and prayers. Its not going to be easy, but you'll know when its time...she'll tell you. __________________ Megan "I have my dreams, I have made plans." - The Pirate Queen All Gave Some; Some Gave All

01-28-2006, 07:58 PM	#41
puppylove123 Waiting for my Little Girl Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: miami, florida Posts: 1,313	im like so close to tears right now... maybe this will help you decide... well my cousin lost her baby about 2 years ago. she told me she knew it was time when she got on the floor on her belly and looked into her dog's eyes and saw pain. she knew it was time. i think if you see her not happy or in pain it might be time, don't listen to what i say but just think she will keep your mom company up there. it might be hard to see her leave, but i think you'll do whats right HUGS __________________ Nicole Im getting my girl in 2 months!!! I Marie and My Little Girl!

01-28-2006, 03:23 PM	#31
i_love_my_yorki YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 705	I couldnt put my Lucky to sleep,even tho she was crying out for me to let her go,i called my husband in tears,he came home from work & took my beloved Lucky .............now she is waiting for me Maybe you could get someone else to take your beloved pet,its always so sad but i knew i did the right decicion as my Lucky was suffering & i know i will see her again one day,healthy & rambuncious once more

01-28-2006, 04:05 PM	#32
margaritaville Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: west long branch, n.j. Posts: 4,457	This is a difficult decision and takes aot of courage and caring to make. About a year and half ago I had to make this decision. Actually I had made it before then but didn't have the courage. Hobbes was a 17 !/2 yo Bichon. He had irritable bowel syndrome for which he was on a special diet. From that he developed bladder stones at 9 years of age and needed surgery. The surgery left him with a urinary leakage problem and he needed belly bands. As time went by he lost his hearing and began to have a vision problem but things weren't too bad. He still played and ate well. Then came a time when he would look very confused and sllep alot. But when he was sitting with me on the bed one night he jumped off and began to have a seizure. Then next day we went to the vet. I had called ahead and they had a ready. She let me stay with him and gave him the injections and he went peacefully. If you decide to take him and it is the compassionate thing to do as we love them and don't want them to suffer please take someone with you. I didn't and spent along time in the parking lot till I could drive home. Several weeks later I got a lovely handwritten letter from my vet Sorry this is so long but you are making the right decision for your baby and your Mom will take good care of her.

01-28-2006, 06:10 PM	#34
Claire YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Louisiana Posts: 484	What a lucky dog Flossie is to have had both you and your mother love her. Do not think of it as Flossie passing away, think of it as Flossie returning to your mother. She will keep her company in Heaven forever. Neither will ever be lonley again for they will have each other... I pray that God gives you the strength that you need to get threw this difficult time. Good luck to you and know that we are here, always, for you.

01-28-2006, 07:26 PM	#36
Kerri Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC Posts: 121	Flossie doesn't seem to be in any pain at all. She just sleeps all the time and stares at the wall in between...along with licking her pillow excessively. If I could see her in pain that would make it easier on me. I just keep her gated in our laundry room now since we have Jake. I really think she would give out completely if Jake was around her longer than 30 minutes. She can't tolerate him and doesn't have the energy. So, my husband just told me that the house vet. is going to be stopping by our house when he is in town...he doesn't live near us. It's going to be a spur of the moment type thing. I JUST DON'T THINK I CAN DO THIS!!!!

01-28-2006, 07:39 PM	#38
Kerri Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC Posts: 121	Thanks so much for being here for me. I know deep in my heart that it is time for her. She is so unhappy and even looks that way. I just don't know why I am feeling so selfish. I want her here forever just like I want my Mother back. I know this is a touchy subject but her being my Mother's Dog (the one who took Flossie to a drive through restaurant every night) is making it so much harder. It even makes me mad at times. My entire family (I'm the youngest child of 8) can't believe I have Flossie still thriving. She has had a good life!!! Everyone knows that and I should feel good about it but I don't think I have much to brag about!

01-28-2006, 07:51 PM	#39
GucciMyGirl YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Brooklyn, NY Posts: 550	Kerri... You have got me crying along with the others who have told there sad stories and I have a lump in my throat. I never owned a dog before Gucci. I am so attached to this dog it is unbelievable. My advice to you would be to follow your heart and do what your gut tells you. Your gut feelings are never wrong. I want to share a human story with you, my mother passed away six years go, she was in the hospital and in a coma dying. The day came when I had to sign a DNR <do not rescuitate> but I couldnt bring myself to sign this form. A nurse came over to me and saw me crying and said Gina you are giving your mother the gift of love let her be happy in the everafter. I did she died shortly after and I was relieved that she no longer was suffering and was with my dad and one of my brothers who had passed. Just follow your heart and all will be well.... Gina

01-28-2006, 07:57 PM	#40
Kerri Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC Posts: 121	I have a lump in my throat here as well. I have had a good life but have lost the closest ones to me suddenly and even tragically. My Mother passed instant in my home house of a stroke, my sister passed in a car accident on Thanksgiving three years ago, and my Father passed last year suddenly to heart aneursym bursting. I just really fear death!!! Anyway, I love Flossie with all my heart! Seeing her go will be like another family member leaving me.

01-28-2006, 08:02 PM	#42
Kerri Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC Posts: 121	Thanks! Flossie is also very skiddish! She is startled when I touch her to pick her up to take her out to potty. She can't even make it up our front steps. A big thanks to all you guys talking me through this. I know I only have a short time with her. She doesn't even like me rubbing her anymore. Her life is pretty much the pits right now!

01-28-2006, 08:07 PM	#43
reneernc Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: alabama Posts: 807	I took my sheltie to the vet 3 times to put him to sleep before I was finally able to do it. Deep down I knew it was the best thing to do for him, but I was selfish and couldn't imagine being w/o him. They lightly sedated him before putting him to sleep...and the old pup came out, I was able to see him as he had not been for a long time...no discomfort and happy w/tail wagging and loving all over me. I am thankful I got to see him like that again, but I really feel bad that I prolonged the inevitable and put him through some very bad days. It was actually a relief once it was done and I think you will likely experience the same. You can then step back and appreciate the wonderful friend that you had w/o just seeing how they have become. I hope any of that makes any sense, my heart does go out to you...

01-28-2006, 08:22 PM	#44
Kerri Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: NC Posts: 121	Deep down it will be a relief to me. Flossie has no happiness at all. She doesn't even wag her tail anymore. I just hate to be the one to make the tough decision.

01-28-2006, 08:23 PM	#45
scrapindee Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Redlands Posts: 4,842 Blog Entries: 2	I just went through having to make the decision to let my "Ranger" go. You can read some of my recent experience on the RIP: Goodbye Ranger. It is a hard decision, but if your dog is in pain, can't be touched, and quality of life has diminished, it is time to let your mom have her back. My prayers are with you.