My mom chopped off Chloe's show coat

[ironmike86]

Originally Posted by ShowGirlLola

I have to agree, I love my mom and we have a great relationship, but I'd never find her disrespecting me like that funny. I could forgive her, if she never did anything like that again, but it would never be funny.

The hair will grow back, but her mom needs to learn to respect her choices too.

Exactly.

[princesschloe1]

Thank you all for the comments, at least I know I'm not wrong for being mad at what she did. What makes it even worse is that she never even apologized for what she did and she's actually quite happy with herself and how she made my dog look.. because SHE likes it. I'm so upset because for almost 2 years I was growing everything out all nicely and now it's ruined.

[dinkster]

Originally Posted by Yorkiemom1

Now listen very closely what I say.....

I would be absolutely FURIOUS that she had the audacity to mangle my little babys hair........but I want you to think about what I am going to say.

That pups hair will grow back, and probably, in several years, you and your momma will be finding the humor in that little escapade.....

And one of these days, although you absolutely can not see it now, one of these days, a very long time from now I pray, you will be sitting alone, (remembering the past and all the things that you two experienced), sitting and remembering your momma, WISHING you could dial the time clock back and have all those years with your momma again.....even the things she did that drove you absolutely ballastic.......

Think of this as one of those crazy memories, file it away to be a warm and loving memory years from now....a memory that will actually make you smile.....

Yes.
And I do think it is okay to let mom know you will get over it, but you would like assurance that it won't happen again. If she gets defensive, giver her some time to think it over.

[OwnedByJezebel]

Upsetting! Why was your Mom watching Chloe?

[anneclaire]

Originally Posted by Yorkiemom1

Now listen very closely what I say.....

I would be absolutely FURIOUS that she had the audacity to mangle my little babys hair........but I want you to think about what I am going to say.

That pups hair will grow back, and probably, in several years, you and your momma will be finding the humor in that little escapade.....

And one of these days, although you absolutely can not see it now, one of these days, a very long time from now I pray, you will be sitting alone, (remembering the past and all the things that you two experienced), sitting and remembering your momma, WISHING you could dial the time clock back and have all those years with your momma again.....even the things she did that drove you absolutely ballastic.......

Think of this as one of those crazy memories, file it away to be a warm and loving memory years from now....a memory that will actually make you smile.....

Voice of experience no doubt♥ I would love to sit and laugh with my mom over some of the stuff she did that made me furious at the time. And your babies hair will grow very quickly and it may have a nicer color

[Yorkiemom1]

Originally Posted by anneclaire

Voice of experience no doubt♥ I would love to sit and laugh with my mom over some of the stuff she did that made me furious at the time. And your babies hair will grow very quickly and it may have a nicer color

OMG!!! Wouldnt you tho!! I miss my momma soooooooo much.....I would let her cut every hair off every dog I have here, hell shave the cat!! pluck feathers from the parakeet!!! even shave my OWN head, if only I could spend just one more day.....well maybe a month if I am going to give up all that hair!!! with that precious, kind, wonderful, loving soul! You just wont appreciate what is REALLY important in this event, until she is no longer with you...... Throw a fit, kick a tree, throw a tantrum, and then quietly kiss her on the forehead and leave it.....

[Jkpal]

Your mom knew your preference and should have respected your wishes; her likes/dislikes though noted, do not give her the 'right' to just arbitrarily change something...Maybe take her out for lunch and express just how very important it is to you that she respect your choices and that when it comes to your little girl, absolutely nobody, no how is permitted to trim, clip, or bath her, period! I, too, was growing Piper's hair and expressly told groomer to leave the hair on her head long...When I went to pick her up, the hair on Piper's head had been chopped and I mean chopped--uneven, chunky, horrible (and everyone who saw her questioned her "do"). Probably a couple months passed and I took Piper to a different groomer, explained situation and requested bath only. Well, when I picked up my girl, I was stunned! She was clean and fresh, but somehow her hair looked longer than when I dropped her off...Turns out Tammy simply worked her expertise and evened-out the choppy and just "cleaned' Piper up in general. I was ecstatic! Find a fabulous groomer and I'll bet you'll be "over" your mom's goof-up in no time!!

[capt_noonie]

Originally Posted by princesschloe1

Thank you all for the comments, at least I know I'm not wrong for being mad at what she did. What makes it even worse is that she never even apologized for what she did and she's actually quite happy with herself and how she made my dog look.. because SHE likes it. I'm so upset because for almost 2 years I was growing everything out all nicely and now it's ruined.

Does your mom watch her often? Does she ever help pay for Chloe's vetting or grooming? I think she was totally out of line, and the fact that she knows you are upset and didn't apologize and even HAPPY about it seems like a big slap in the face to me.

I say if you are an adult, not living with mom, and mom doesn't help pay for anything she has absolutely no right and she should apologize. Not only does it sound like she didn't respect your wishes, she doesn't respect you by not apologizing.

[MzLynnC]

How terrible, hope she realizes how this has effected you both. Hope Chloe wasn't stressed out over this.

[ironmike86]

Nobody is saying "Hate" your mom. Stop talking to her. But by doing something against your wishes is wrong. I dont live my life the way my mom says I should. Missing your mom or not talking to her is off topic imo. Mine mother inlaw fed my kid garbage. So by not doing as I wishes she lost the chance to watch my child. I would do the same for my dogs.

[buddybear]

Originally Posted by princesschloe1

Thank you all for the comments, at least I know I'm not wrong for being mad at what she did. What makes it even worse is that she never even apologized for what she did and she's actually quite happy with herself and how she made my dog look.. because SHE likes it. I'm so upset because for almost 2 years I was growing everything out all nicely and now it's ruined.

This sounds like something my mom would do..... in so many areas of my life....... not respecting that you are an adult.

I found out that my mom had severe mental issues later in my life. I knew something wasn't right but no one ever addressed it. I hope this isn't an ongoing thing with her.

[Russpilot]

I would simply tell mom that her terrier privileges are now revolked. Do not leave your dog with her, do not let her socialize with the dog, nothing if it can be avoided. She needs to learn respect.

[Wylie's Mom]

Originally Posted by jp4m2

I'd warn mom she'd better sleep with one eye open cause you feel she in need of a new hair-doo herself.

LOL, perfect. I'd put a scissors on her bed table so she wakes in the morning and sees it .

Originally Posted by princesschloe1

Thank you all for the comments, at least I know I'm not wrong for being mad at what she did. What makes it even worse is that she never even apologized for what she did and she's actually quite happy with herself and how she made my dog look.. because SHE likes it. I'm so upset because for almost 2 years I was growing everything out all nicely and now it's ruined.

Yes, you absolutely should be mad and should have gotten an apology. It was both passive aggressive and just plain aggressive behavior. Not to even mention how colossally disrespectful it was - it's well beyond that. It's very hurtful to be disrespected by someone like this, I totally get it. In the scheme of things, is it smaller potatoes bc it's hair? Well, sure. But it's not about the hair here, it's about her disrespecting your wishes, and *very* purposely so, at that! And that's a load of BS in my book.

You don't disrespect those you care about.

[Verbena]

Originally Posted by Yorkiemom1

Now listen very closely what I say.....

I would be absolutely FURIOUS that she had the audacity to mangle my little babys hair........but I want you to think about what I am going to say.

That pups hair will grow back, and probably, in several years, you and your momma will be finding the humor in that little escapade.....

And one of these days, although you absolutely can not see it now, one of these days, a very long time from now I pray, you will be sitting alone, (remembering the past and all the things that you two experienced), sitting and remembering your momma, WISHING you could dial the time clock back and have all those years with your momma again.....even the things she did that drove you absolutely ballastic.......

Think of this as one of those crazy memories, file it away to be a warm and loving memory years from now....a memory that will actually make you smile.....

Perfectly said !

I had to laugh. . . You brought up a memory I have not thought of in a long while.

My little, rubenesque Italian Grandmother. (Father's Mom) we lived in a mother daughter home with them. The most sweetest person in the world. She would crochet and sew. She would sit in her chair with a hasic in from of her. As kids, and even as teenagers, we would sit on the hasic and lay our heads on her stomach. she would brush our hair or play with it. Not paying attention, she proceeded to take her scissors and cut my bangs. She felt they were too long and they were in my eyes. I jumped up, mouth open, and was very upset. I ran upstairs and told my mom. That is all I remember of what happen. She has been gone for a every long time now. And still when I think of that story I smile and laugh. . . Like you said a loving memory. . . Thank you so much for letting that memory pop into my mind today. I needed that laugh.

[DBlain]

that sure would be upsetting especially if you are an adult and take full financial and physical responsibility for your pup. Is that the case, or are you a minor living at home with a pup your parents bought.