Originally Posted by Yorkiemom1 (Post 4486982)

I am sure NONE of us want anyone to think their dog is crappy, for whatever reason. It is impossible to mandate or control how a person MUST feel about a post. It is impossible to guarantee that no one will ever read a post and feel absolutely positive about it. While it is so sad that some people come away "feeling" a certain way because of a post, please remember there are just as many MEMBERS who also have feelings, and their feelings are just as important as anyone elses, including any new OP.....there have been many long time members, very knowledgable people that have just given up and left this forum because they are constantly attacked about the way they post.....nothing that is outside the rules or regulations, but just because someone "feels" a poster may have gotten their feelings hurt.....the members that really had so much to give to this community, so much experience, so much knowledge, so much valuable information they could share with so many people, finally threw up their hands and walked away....just because someone did not like they way they answered questions. They were made to feel like their input was not appreciated or received well, because someone got their feelings hurt. Not that they insulted or humilated or attacked or belittled anyone, but just because someone FELT they did not like the way they answered questions....they "felt" they were spoken to unkindly. That is the real tragedy in this whole scenerio....sooooo many people will go unhelped, sooooo much expertise will be missed, simply because someone did not like the way they answered a question. You cant please all the people, all the time. While I sincerely do hope we never lose another new poster, I also REALLY pray we do not lose anymore of the respected, knowledgable, concerned people that can really help make this the most informative, most helpful forum covering dog care, available to anyone that wants to be a member.

Originally Posted by Lovetodream88 (Post 4486981)

You seem to have to out for a certain member who was just trying to help you and if she broke the rules she would have actions taken against her!

Originally Posted by MarkFromSea (Post 4486989)

Oh, who could that be? LOL It's been said multiple times, that someone chased me away, even by a moderator in a PM. I just don't post much any more.

Mother Theresa receives preferential treatment when it comes to deletions what makes you feel actions would be taken against a saint like that?

When this thread was first posted, between the title and first post, I had just skipped it. It was difficult to decipher the question. Now, with 80+ posts, I read a bit more. Some became focused on the title and ignored the question. Why bother unless ya just want to show the ugly. LOL Seems the question was valid once it was clarified and yet some still focused on the title. Why open the thread if the title offended you? Seems if "some" others would have skipped the thread, it would have answered the OPs question and remained peaceful as it should have.

Originally Posted by R-Teddy (Post 4486992)

I have to admit I found some post to be condescending. Now im not saying im a saint an haven't made mistake. I could have handled things better yes. But, for example, one poster ( dont remember their name ) that sticks out to me is when she said, she had learned to weed out the post she doesnt like, and to get over them. ok great, then why didnt she just weed out my post she didnt like and get over those? Is not that just as bad as she was accusing me of doing?

Originally Posted by MarkFromSea (Post 4486989)

Oh, who could that be? LOL It's been said multiple times, that someone chased me away, even by a moderator in a PM. I just don't post much any more.

Mother Theresa receives preferential treatment when it comes to deletions what makes you feel actions would be taken against a saint like that?

When this thread was first posted, between the title and first post, I had just skipped it. It was difficult to decipher the question. Now, with 80+ posts, I read a bit more. Some became focused on the title and ignored the question. Why bother unless ya just want to show the ugly. LOL Seems the question was valid once it was clarified and yet some still focused on the title. Why open the thread if the title offended you? Seems if "some" others would have skipped the thread, it would have answered the OPs question and remained peaceful as it should have.

Originally Posted by MarkFromSea (Post 4486999)

I agree... originally, I just skipped this entire thread. If I can do it, anybody should be able to. LOL Once the question was clarified, seemed fine.

Here's an idea>>>> Make it so an OP has control of their thread, make it so an OP can delete any response to their thread and the ultimate choice of deleting the entire thread. I'm in a couple other forums that allow that... It seems to work somewhat. It doesn't stop negative postings so much, but they do go away quick enough.

Originally Posted by MarkFromSea (Post 4486994)

LOL another simple post of mine deleted....... wow...

Originally Posted by Lovetodream88 (Post 4487003)

Because you continue to bash a member and yt you need to just let it go.

Originally Posted by MarkFromSea (Post 4486999)

I agree... originally, I just skipped this entire thread. If I can do it, anybody should be able to. LOL Once the question was clarified, seemed fine.

Here's an idea>>>> Make it so an OP has control of their thread, make it so an OP can delete any response to their thread and the ultimate choice of deleting the entire thread. I'm in a couple other forums that allow that... It seems to work somewhat. It doesn't stop negative postings so much, but they do go away quick enough.

Originally Posted by shelbysmom (Post 4487038)

I think this thread became messy for a few reasons. The OP is already frustrated because she has been through heated questions about her byb decision. I imagine she titled the thread because she didn't want a repeat smackdown. It was a good title, got those that are passionate interested. Some of the first feedback remarks were from someone that may not have seen or been part of the other thread so lots of the same criticism innocently came up. The most passionate "offenders" are those that have been through this and it's a personal issue.


When someone goes looking for a pup there are better and best ways to strive for a dog that looks and acts like a Yorkie and is as healthy as a good breeder can plan. Even doing that does not guarantee you won't have issues but at least you will know you tried AND you are not supporting someone who is either abusive (puppy mills) or ignorant (byb).

We need to help people who are searching for advice and support people who are struggling with a poor decision.