My husband is going to be SO MAD at my yorkie!

[cheryl000]

Originally Posted by jerodancrystal

Brandy is going through her puppy stage. I went through it with Homer, and my husband wanted to get rid of him to because he was tearing up the carpet in our apartment & chewing in the walls. Homer climbed out of his pin with or without a cover on it. He out grew the chewing within a few months and now the only thing we have to worry about is Homer finding the box of tissues on the end table. I think Yorkies have a love for paper.... Talk to your husband, I am sure he will see how much you love your furbabies and come around... (military guys need to feel like they have control at home... hehehehe mine thinks he does....)

Thank you. I'm so glad I've finally found someone who understands where I'm coming from and made it work without being so critical. I will try pinning a blanket and if that doesn't work, I will get her used to a crate even though she will probably hate being in there by herself without Bailey.

[Twinkie_love]

Im sorry I feel for you but he also agreed in getting the dogs didnt he?
So he is fully responsible for this decision as well.
He should be trying to find solutions to the problem with you instead of expecting everything from you.

[cheryl000]

Originally Posted by Twinkie_love

Im sorry I feel for you but he also agreed in getting the dogs didnt he?
So he is fully responsible for this decision as well.
He should be trying to find solutions to the problem with you instead of expecting everything from you.

I feel like some people are trying to portray me as a bad owner or something. (not you twinkie, but a couple people on here) I did take the steps to puppy proof the house. I guess the big issue in it is my husband.
He basically told me to do whatever I want, but he's the one who picked up Bailey. Things just changed after I got Brandy. He used to pet Bailey and play with him and let him out to go potty and do other things for him. Now I do 100% of cleaning up after them, playing with them and feeding them. He sees them more of an annoyance and it seems like he's always looking for an excuse to get rid of them. I keep telling him that dog's aren't disposible. I keep thinking that if he pets the dogs he will love them. But he just seems to hate them, even though I told him that Bailey hasn't had an accident in the house for weeks and if the dogs do it's my fault for not taking them out. It's like talking to a brick wall. I love John too but I don't want to fight over this.
I know John and he doesn't love the dogs. He will be really upset over the project being destroyed.

[Raven]

So sorry you are going through this. On a bright note, she sounds very smart
and energetic!!!!!
The blanket idea sounds good! i will keep positive thoughts for you!!!!

[cheryl000]

Originally Posted by Raven

So sorry you are going through this. On a bright note, she sounds very smart
and energetic!!!!!
The blanket idea sounds good! i will keep positive thoughts for you!!!!

Thank you so much. She is very smart, I've known that from the beginning.

But now that I've sat down and cooled off and thought about it more, as of late John has been petting the cat, something I never saw him do until the past month. We have had her about a year and a half. He said having dogs has turned him into more of a cat person. He says things like "Well, at least she poops where she's supposed to." I forgot that he didn't touch her for the past year. Getting her was completely my desicion and he had said since we were together that he had hated cats (but I had seen a pic of him petting one.) Hopefully maybe the same thing will happen with the dogs and they will grow on him. I just hope it will take less than a year. For now I have just been trying to keep the peace by trying to make everyoe happy.

[Francie]

Originally Posted by cheryl000

I really hope that it will do the trick. I just hope that it will be good enough for my husband. He used to pet Bailey all the time. But he doesn't touch Brandy and after Brandy tore up Dom's project, John doesn't want anything to do with BOTH of the dogs and he keeps telling me to get rid of them. I never see him pet them anymore. He says having dogs has now turned him into a cat person. He gets mad that they don't come to him when he calls them. I told him that of course they won't come to him if he's not nice to them. I have been waiting for him to warm up to them, but it doesn't look like it's happening.

Soooo...he'll never warm up to the puppy...let him go play golf! I would just look him in the eye and say "I'm attached to this puppy...and he's STAYING! And if it means you have to put up with some unpleasant things until he outgrows this puppy stage...so be it...you're a BIG BOY!" Geez...if my father ever tried that with my mom...it would be Hiroshima all over again...

Francie

[cheryl000]

Originally Posted by Francie

Soooo...he'll never warm up to the puppy...let him go play golf! I would just look him in the eye and say "I'm attached to this puppy...and he's STAYING! And if it means you have to put up with some unpleasant things until he outgrows this puppy stage...so be it...you're a BIG BOY!" Geez...if my father ever tried that with my mom...it would be Hiroshima all over again...

Francie

So they DO grow out of this right? I never had this problem with Bailey or my other dogs in the past. I will definately tell him that. It is just hard to keep the peace sometimes. Last week I got so mad at him because I thought he was serious when he told me he had listed the dogs for sale. I yelled at him and ran to the computer to check. Then he told me he was just kidding. I really had thought he was serious.

[Chelsey]

Cheryl000, if i sounded harsh in previous replies i DO apologise. I DONT mean that YOU are a bad yorkie owner at all. Its hard for me to read that any adult would and can get mad at a puppy, a puppy needs a LOT of attention and i do believe that you give as much of YOU as you can to your puppy. I feel sorry for you because i KNOW you love your fur babies and its sad that your husband feels differently about them. I wish i had an idea on how to soften him up to them!


Before my husband and i started looking for potential breeders we spoke this through for months. We made these decisions together and both feel 100% responsibility for them.

I honestly hope for you that he wont be as mad as you expect him to be when he finds out what happend! I'll be thinking of you and hoping for the best. Please keep us posted OK??

[Chelsey]

Cheryl000 yes they outgrow the chewing up of things. Chanel has chewed on EVERY piece of wooden furniture in our home! I have owned yorkies since age 16 and she is the FIRST one that has EVER chewed on things so it shows that they all are different.

I would try what Francie said in her reply

[cheryl000]

Originally Posted by Chelsey

Cheryl000, if i sounded harsh in previous replies i DO apologise. I DONT mean that YOU are a bad yorkie owner at all. Its hard for me to read that any adult would and can get mad at a puppy, a puppy needs a LOT of attention and i do believe that you give as much of YOU as you can to your puppy. I feel sorry for you because i KNOW you love your fur babies and its sad that your husband feels differently about them. I wish i had an idea on how to soften him up to them!
Before my husband and i started looking for potential breeders we spoke this through for months. We made these decisions together and both feel 100% responsibility for them.
I honestly hope for you that he wont be as mad as you expect him to be when he finds out what happend! I'll be thinking of you and hoping for the best. Please keep us posted OK??

Thank you for the apology. It used to feel like at least Bailey was his responsibility too. But I have been the one petting them and teaching them tricks. I taught Bailey how to roll over in one night. I keep trying to get John to do the tricks with them, but the dogs only listen to me (they will sit when my son tells them to, but that's about it.) John doesn't want to go on walks with us. The closest thing I had gotten him to do was a yorkie meetup. But still things haven't changed.
My husband is not attached to these dogs if they do the wrong thing he doesn't understand that it's not their fault. He doesn't see them as babies like I do. He got mad at me once for holding Brandy while I was on the computer when I had told Dom that I couldn't hold him anymore when I was on the comp. It's because Dom is too big and heavy. I don't know if John is really jealous or what his problem is. It just wasn't this way at first.

[Francie]

Originally Posted by cheryl000

So they DO grow out of this right? I never had this problem with Bailey or my other dogs in the past. I will definately tell him that. It is just hard to keep the peace sometimes. Last week I got so mad at him because I thought he was serious when he told me he had listed the dogs for sale. I yelled at him and ran to the computer to check. Then he told me he was just kidding. I really had thought he was serious.

I'm sorry...that is not funny...that is abusive..subtle or not. You are a family and partnership...you're not a child he can take a "toy" away from. And why are you the official "peacekeeper"? Everyone in the family needs to "step up to the plate" to create a harmonious environment. And sometimes we all need to compromise on our "comfort zones"...thats what family life is about!

and Yes, the puppy will outgrow the most destructive phase...but he's always going to be a terrier...so if you or your family member have anything of value...they need to learn to keep it out of reach of Godzilla!

Good Luck!

Francie

[Marie]

Puppies go into chewing and destructive stages but they do outgrow it. I know is hard but try to be patience. I hope an Xpen cover is the answer to prevent Brandy to climb out of the x pen. I hope your husband give Brandy a chance and learns to love her. Good luck.

[cheryl000]

Originally Posted by Francie

I'm sorry...that is not funny...that is abusive..subtle or not. You are a family and partnership...you're not a child he can take a "toy" away from. And why are you the official "peacekeeper"? Everyone in the family needs to "step up to the plate" to create a harmonious environment. And sometimes we all need to compromise on our "comfort zones"...thats what family life is about!

and Yes, the puppy will outgrow the most destructive phase...but he's always going to be a terrier...so if you or your family member have anything of value...they need to learn to keep it out of reach of Godzilla!

Good Luck!

Francie

I don't know if I would use the word "abusive." I believed him because he had been telling me to get rid of the dogs and I have been telling him no. I would have deleted the ad and told anyone who called that it was a mistake. I have never felt as close to a dog as I feel to Brandy. Bailey has a special place there too. I can't imaging life without them. I sometimes even fear what I would do if somethings where to ever happen to her

I don't mind doing most of the housework because he is the one working all the time on the ship and I'm staying at home going to online college to finish my degree. I would just like to see him at least interact with the dogs, then maybe he wouldn't be so hard on them. I told him that I could make another project with dominick, but he said it wouldn't be the same.

[waistfull]

cheryl000,
I know how hard it is to have a puppy. I have 2 12 month old brother and sister. My husband really loved them at first when they were very small and we could tell what they were going to do. We crated them. I love the crates. (They now sleep in the beds with us) My husband is a very demanding person who likes to be in charge of his "castle". He's a very good man, but during the potty training and teething phase, he would get very frustrated. For some reason they loved his things, shall I say they loved to destroy his things! LOL When they were about 4 months old, Bubba was out back and a stranger walked by our fence and tried getting in. Thank God we keep it locked. Well needless to say, Cricket is Daddy's precious girl, and Bubba is Daddy's best buddy and is "all muscle like Daddy". I think your husband will come around after your pup goes through some of the puppy phase.
As for the ornament, maybe you son could make another one, and years from now you can look at the replacement and laugh at how crazy your pup USED to be!! hugs from me to you and you can pm me or email me if you want. I'm pretty handy at making a bad situation turn around.
Here's a big (((((((HUG)))))))))
Michele
tidd@comcast.net

[Francie]

Originally Posted by cheryl000

I don't know if I would use the word "abusive." I believed him because he had been telling me to get rid of the dogs and I have been telling him no. I would have deleted the ad and told anyone who called that it was a mistake. I have never felt as close to a dog as I feel to Brandy. Bailey has a special place there too. I can't imaging life without them. I sometimes even fear what I would do if somethings where to ever happen to her

I don't mind doing most of the housework because he is the one working all the time on the ship and I'm staying at home going to online college to finish my degree. I would just like to see him at least interact with the dogs, then maybe he wouldn't be so hard on them. I told him that I could make another project with dominick, but he said it wouldn't be the same.

Hmmm...well...I guess the best thing is just sit down with your husband and "Agree to Disagree", with the understanding that you would not expect him to be "Attached" to the dogs...but that you WOULD expect him to respect you and the fact that you want to keep your animals..that you love them...and that he would have to treat them "kindly". If he never learns to "Gush with enthusiasm" over your pups...so be it. I'm sure there are several things of your husband's that you could cheerfully throw in the trash...but you live with it.

Francie

P.S. Maybe your husband could do some "one on one" 'time with Dominick...and build a pup-proof project!