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10-29-2012, 10:57 AM | #1 |
Love My Girls Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Decatur, IL
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| Question for Foster Moms I have had a neighbor ask me if I would foster her MIL's 1 year old Yorkie because her MIL was sent to the nursing home this weekend. This little Yorkie has lived with her mommy in an assisted living home and is in pretty rough shape. She hasn't been groomed in 6 months, has pottied in the apartment for 6 months because MIL has not been able to take care of herself let alone her Yorkie. This little Yorkie is this elderly lady's only companion and she has been asking where her little "Susie" is, if she is OK and has been begging to see her. Right now Susie is staying at the apartment along with the MIL's brother who will be leaving WEdnesday to go back home. I am pretty sure I am going to foster her until the MIL's condition either gets better or she is confined to the nursing home. My questions are: Should I get a commitment from the neighbor that if anything comes up and Susie has to go to the vet that the family will pay for it or am I expected to pay the vet? I don't mind paying for her food because I'm pretty sure she is on Beneful now and I want to change her over to a better food. I groom Macy myself most of the time so I don't mind taking care of Susie's grooming needs. Are there any details I need to iron out with my neighbor before I commit to fostering? Any ideas will be appreciated as I have never done this before.
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10-29-2012, 11:01 AM | #2 |
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| I would talk to her about vet expenses... Be prepared to pay should something happen. I've only ever fostered for rescues and shelters and they cover vet expenses. I am dog sitting right now for a family that is trying to re-home their yorkie, but if he were to get sick... They would pay for his vet bills.
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10-29-2012, 11:35 AM | #3 |
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| If you take her, I wouldn't count on getting reimbursement, just be glad if you do. I'd go into it fully aware that I might be fully caring for this baby in every way. Most situations like this seem to have little funding for the dog involved.
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10-29-2012, 11:51 AM | #4 |
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| I want to have a frank talk with my neighbor before I take Susie and get as much of the details ironed out before I commit. This is kind of a unique situation....not quite true fostering because there is a chance she may be going back to her mommy. I want to help my neighbor out and her MIL but I don't want to be taken advantage of either. I am on good terms with my neighbor so I think we can trust each other if we decide on terms. I appreciate any suggestions.
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10-29-2012, 12:04 PM | #5 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member | Ok maybe I am a little more cynical, but I am from NY lol. I would speak to her frankly. Anything you agree upon, I would get in writing. It would cover you just in case there is a problem that she needs to go to the vet. Vets are costly. You don't want them to take advantage of your kind nature just because ATM they don't want to be responsible for the yorkie |
10-29-2012, 12:10 PM | #6 |
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| Many poor old people get dogs they really can't afford but desperately need for emotional support. And when anything happens, many really just don't have the funds for their vet care if the dog needs much treatment. In my experience, the children really aren't usually that excited about paying for their parents' dog's vet care unless they are real doglovers and fairly well-off themselves.
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10-29-2012, 12:11 PM | #7 |
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| Plus I could not help but wonder what if she goes into a nursing home would you have the option of adopting the fur baby since she might be bounded to the family at that point?? |
10-29-2012, 12:20 PM | #8 |
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| Do you know why your neighbor isn't taking her MIL's dog herself? Is it because she can't afford another dog or just too busy but can fund its upkeep, medical needs? Did she offer to pay when she asked the favor of you?
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10-29-2012, 12:27 PM | #9 |
Love My Girls Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Decatur, IL
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| That is another point I want to make sure is iron out. If she goes in a nursing home I want to be sure I have first chance at getting Susie I don't know how Macy will feel about sharing her house with another dog so I thought fostering would be a good way to find out. This woman lost her husband in June, started going downhill after that and had to go into an assisted living situation. The dog was a gift from her kids while her husband was still living and everything was fine until the husband passed away. My neighbor has a puppy and 3 small kids and didn't think she could handle her MIL's dog too. Good point, I will get everything in writing.
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10-29-2012, 12:31 PM | #10 |
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| If you are willing and it is acceptable maybe you could even offer to take the pup for visits to the MIL |
10-29-2012, 12:42 PM | #11 |
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| I was planning on taking Susie to visit her mommy if I foster her. I know if it was me in the nursing home, I would be worried about Macy so I know what this woman is going through. Her nursing home isn't that far from my house. Right now the family has a lot of things going on beside the MIL being in the nursing home and my neighbor said she would get back with me. Also, my neighbor's husband had an episode with a pulmonary embolism a couple of weeks ago and he just went back to work today. Sometimes when it rains it poors for some people.
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10-29-2012, 12:56 PM | #12 | |
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10-29-2012, 01:27 PM | #13 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | I took Nikki in when his owner had a stroke. He was a very senior dog and his owner couldn't afford his care before I took him. I was able to help her out with vet and food expenses. When she had the stroke I knew taking him in would require accepting responsibility for his complete care asa she would never be able to care for him. I took him every 2 weeks to the nursing home her kids( who would have but Nikki down or to a shelter) moved her to. She was so excited and would be waiting at the front door of the nursing home for Nikki. It was the most rewarding feeling I ever had knowing that her mind was at ease knowing Nikki was being cared for and loved. If you are in a position to take on the responsibility I don't think you will ever regret it. My 3 girls adjusted to him. He lived with me for 2 1/2 years and I had to send him to the Rainbow Bridge a couple of months ago. Please keep us posted.
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10-29-2012, 05:28 PM | #14 |
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| Thank You for helping. I foster and when I do it on my own (not through a rescue or sponsor) I pay for everything just like it is my own dog. When a dog is placed for adoption the fee, is always the same $500.00. This does help to cover some of our costs. But, I never come out even. I also work with Alzheimers patients and do therapy visits with my Yorkies. Visits are such a blessing to the elderly. Please do what your heart tells you to do. And do take Suzie to visit her Mommy. Please get everything out in the open with the elderly persons children. Be blunt about money and what you will and won't do. If you want to adopt Suzie give them a reasonable time period for fostering. Get an aggreement in writing if possible. God Bless you and prayers that this will work out for every one.
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10-29-2012, 05:47 PM | #15 |
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| It sounds like to me if the MIL is going downhill and being admitted to a nursing home (and not senior living complex) that she likely isn't going to improve. If you want to keep the dog yourself, you need to get them to sign a surrender form. If you want to take the dog to visit the MIL that's up to you, but usually with rescues, we are not allowed to bring the dog back to the original owner bc it's confusing for the dog. As for vet bills, if you get them to sign the dog over to you, then you take care of vet bills, unless you can get the dog into an actual rescue, but even then it's only necessary vetting that's paid for. I always pay for nail trimming, food, clothes, grooming supplies, etc out of pocket. If you want him to be put in rescue, and aren't already a foster for a rescue, you'd have to find one that would take you and this dog. Not sure how that would work. I did foster a yorkie before I was officially a foster mom with a rescue group, and he was also given up by an elderly woman. I at first intended to keep him, but Uni would torment and bully him, so I interviewed families myself until I found a match. I assumed all vetting while I had him. Whatever you decide, I agree with the others, get it in writing.
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