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05-14-2012, 04:36 PM | #1 |
Max Main's Mamma Donating YT Member | Nephew slapped my Yorkie...now, slapping myself! Yesterday, my DH and I had planned on going to our family's houses separately and my mom wanted to see Max so I brought him along. To make a long story short, I ended up at my in-laws with Max. I knew my niece and nephew would be there but I thought I could either hold Max or take him in another area away from the kids (2 and 4 years old). I decided to take little Max out back and away from the kids while my DH spent time with his family INSIDE. My nephew ran outside to see Max and I immediately scooped Max up. I told my nephew to pet him nicely and he did. Then, my nephew slapped him and ran away. I told my nephew that I would put him in time out if he did that again. My sister in-law said "sorry!" We left after that and I will never allow my baby around them again under any circumstance. I couldn't help wonder your opinion on 1) Do you provide consequences to your non-immediate family members (nieces and nephews) ? 2) Would you tell your dear, loving sister-in-law (from DH's side) that her kids are out of control and she must get a grip? They are aggressive and behaviorally a major problem!! Thanks!
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05-14-2012, 04:58 PM | #3 | |
Ringo (1) and Lucy too! Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: On the Edge of Glory
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I definitely would tell his parents' because they need to teach him how to act around animals. Bottom line - their behavior probably beyond your control - unless you are babysitting or something. I definitely would keep my yorkie away from their hot little hands.
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05-14-2012, 04:59 PM | #4 |
Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator | Oh my gosh...what a tough one...I bet you were so upset on the inside and had to hold a lot back. For me, I would rarely ever reprimand someone's kids or my relatives etcetera. BUT, the one absolute exception is if they mistreated an animal. I would address it immediately w/ the child, in that moment, and later talk to the parents. I had to do something similar w/ one of my neices when she was about 3 or 4. She handled Wylie incorrectly..in a way that could've really hurt him...so, I stopped her, took Wylie gently away, and gently tried to explain my concerns...and then I showed her how to properly handle him. Of course, she BURST into tears and I felt like a jerk...but, it was still the right thing to do. Even when uber gentle, the little kidlets can just explode into tears bc they feel so bad about doing something "wrong"...and like they're in trouble. She recovered in about 15 seconds (as 3-4 yrs olds sometimes do), and then she was totally fine...and handled Wylie better, and she felt proud that she was doing it the "right" way....so then, she kept picking him up over and over using the new method bc she was so proud . All's well that ends well.
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05-14-2012, 05:07 PM | #5 |
Ringo (1) and Lucy too! Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: On the Edge of Glory
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| I agree with gently explaining your concerns - but I wasn't sure what the OP meant by 'consequences'. My mind went directly to time out or some such. Yes, I definitely would explain why we can't do that. But - I would go no further unless it was my child. Sounds like Mom and Dad need to get on the ball!
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05-14-2012, 05:09 PM | #6 | |
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Thanks!!
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05-14-2012, 05:20 PM | #7 | |
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Thanks love!
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05-14-2012, 05:27 PM | #8 | |
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05-14-2012, 05:33 PM | #9 | |
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05-14-2012, 05:44 PM | #10 |
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| I will say our whole family raises the kids in our family. So if Isaiah is out of line my brother will say something to him or correct him with no issues from me. Bad kids drive me nuts!!! But bad parenting is even worse!!!! If your sister in law had any sense she would realize that a child treating an animal wrong is cause for concern IMO. I can never ever imagine Isaiah doing anything to mistreat Coco and Georgie or anyone else's animals. Heck he doesn't even want to kill a spider or mosquito! BTW I am sorry poor Max was slapped If it was Georgie he would have tried to bite the little boy LOL
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05-14-2012, 05:52 PM | #11 | |
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Okay...sounds like how I grew up. It is still this way with each generation. I know it sounds bad but you know...."It takes a village" and all. I don't smack my kids. Because they know better. My nieces and nephews on the other hand.(The ones which the parents aren't parenting) Will get swatted from me or my hubby if they are completely out of control. The parents just look at them and tell them "see...you better listen" Somebody has to do it. But honestly.....they listen better to me and my hubby then they do to their mommy and daddy. Sadly we also pay more attention to them. They come to us instead of their parents when they need something if we are around.
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05-14-2012, 06:07 PM | #12 | |
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05-14-2012, 06:53 PM | #13 |
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| If that was my niece or nephew and the mother wasn't doing anything, I would have gotten down to eye level with the 2 or 4 year old, held them gently by both wrists, and said very firmly "No hitting. Hitting hurts and we don't EVER want to hurt Max!" The key here would be making eye contact. Raising children is very hard, but consistency is key. Clearly the issue here is not a bad child but rather a lazy parent. Obviously the mother wasn't very concerned, which would have made me even more apt to correct the child. Honestly, I would have even done that with a stranger's child at a park (except the wrist holding).
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05-14-2012, 06:56 PM | #14 |
Katie Scarlett's Mommy Donating Member | I am allowed to put my nephew in time out if need be, but of course his mother told me I could. I would not do it unless she told me to. But any harsher punishment...that comes from his Mom and Daddy. I think if it was my SIL, I would say something. I would be polite about it, but I would voice my concerns.
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05-14-2012, 07:04 PM | #15 |
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| God help me if my nephew slapped Tatiana. First of all, I would scold the child. Second of all, I would talk to the parents, and explain why I would put some boundaries between their children and my dog. I consider myself Tatiana's protector. I take that role seriously. Incidentally, if the situation was reversed, and Tatiana bitten one of their kids, I would completely understand if they behaved the way I would. Thus, I think I'm acting with integrity. Last edited by MidnightUnicorn; 05-14-2012 at 07:05 PM. Reason: Typos |
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