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KazzyK810 · 02-10-2012, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by ladyjane

Usually the pups leave the bed ....and some sit and watch.

Maybe that's part of the problem...maybe BF is concerned about performance anxiety with having an audience...lol

BLowry · 02-10-2012, 03:24 PM

Well....I don't know if I'd get rid of the boyfriend.................yet! (unless he is a jerk LOL!) maybe you could have the furbutts sleep on YOUR side of the bed...I have 3 now....Sadie 7 yrs, Lillie 5 yrs and Bentley (our new little man) 6 months old.. I have to be honest here....it wasn't my idea to have them sleep with us...Hubby put Sadie in bed with us ONCE I was already asleep or I would have told him to put her back in her own bed....did the same thing with Lillie...although she was a little older...that's all it took...they will NOT sleep in their own beds (crates)...Bentley is very small and a wild man...he sleeps in his crate with a big puffy bed...He will probably never sleep in bed with us because he is too small and not going to get much bigger...Don't get me wrong...I LOVE having the furbutts in bed snuggled up to me but, they walk all over me!!! Literally!! LOL They keep me awake all night long! on top of the covers, under the covers on the covers, under the covers!! I've had a paw in the eye...ya...that hurt! I think they think they are climbing over mountains or something! But......I deal with it!! At this point, if they've been sleeping with you for a while, they probably will keep you up all night whining if you crate them....as for the intimacy thing????!!! we have to shut the door...and they sit there whining...VERY romantic!! LOL

Tridntrue · 02-10-2012, 03:35 PM

Before Yorkies - I was not a "dog" person. I thought it was disgusting and nasty for a dog to be in the bed. All that hair, all that smell, I would have never allowed that. I have two good friends that slept with their dogs and I would not allow them in the bed when they spent the night with me. Their dogs had to sleep elsewhere. Actually one of them WAS a Yorkie and I have since apologized repeatedly to my friend. When I discovered, by being around a few, that Yorkies really don't shed and don't smell and were so loving, I was gradually won over. We got our first Yorkie in Dec 2010. As soon as I could trust him not to pee on my bed - he was in! He goes to sleep and usually doesn't move til morning. There is nothing I love more than waking up to him wanting his morning back massage and tummy rub. When my dds were little we called this morning time "snugging and loving".

So what I am saying is. . . give the guy a chance to see how different and lovable Yorkies are. He may change his mind if it is presented well with no demands or ultimatums.

Tessa327 · 02-10-2012, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by ladyjane

I doubt you will find any animal lover who will give you any different advice than what has been given here.

I cannot tell you how many women marry men like him and in the end give up their beloved pups to save their marriage.

My advice is to dump him now.

Quote:

Originally Posted by ladyjane

Usually the pups leave the bed ....and some sit and watch.

I hope we aren't speaking from experience

You didn't hear it from me

Loving Furgie · 02-10-2012, 05:47 PM

I had the boyfriend first and then we got Furgie. We tried to get her to sleep in her crate at first, she did for the most part. Then when she got spayed and had to have her cone on, she didn't fit in her crate! Since then she has slept in our bed. I love it, he resisted and was not happy at first...I kind of ignored his requests and just had her sleep on my side.....it is now understood she sleeps in the bed...he has accepted it and when I go to work in the am and its just him and her.....she is in bed next to him

bchgirl · 02-10-2012, 05:52 PM

Yeah, make the new boyfriend sleep in a crate.

nonni140 · 02-10-2012, 05:59 PM

I agree....He's the outsider....not them. They were there first

rubymoon2072 · 02-10-2012, 06:12 PM

i think having them on ur side will give him time to adjust...u after all r the women and we r the ones in control just dont tell him that!! haha. good luck and keep us posted.

BabyGirl Rosie · 02-10-2012, 06:52 PM

Ok, I really love the "dump the boyfriend". Hee hee. But being all serious now.

Has he been around the dogs much? Yorkies have a way of worming into hearts of people you know.

My DH LOVES my girls. I would not have ever thought that would be the case. DH is the "man's man" and it is all about being manly. Until he got these two Yorkies in his heart! Now he talks to them about how bad boys are when they have dates to the Valentine's Day Ball!!

Wondering if he might warm up to them?

megansmomma · 02-10-2012, 07:14 PM

Glad that I never had this problem. My husband is the first one to put all 3 into bed with us and likes that Doodlebug is a back cuddlier

LovinOurYorkies · 02-10-2012, 07:17 PM

My girls don't sleep with us bc I don't sleep well when they're in the bed all night. They sleep in their large kennel next to my side of the bed, and I always drape a piece of my clothing over it when we go to sleep

I'm wondering... Does he have a specific issue with them being in the bed? Is he worried he'll roll over on them... or can't sleep bc they curl up next to him, or between the two of you...???

Donnainohio63 · 02-10-2012, 07:21 PM

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Originally Posted by CouversMom

My solution would be to dump the boyfriend!

This was gonna be my suggestion. Sorry but my babies sleep with the Momma, hey I got an idea.....Get the boyfriend his own bed. HAHAHAHAHAHA

AprilLove · 02-10-2012, 07:26 PM

Hmmm, a conundrum...

Well, if your boyfriends name is Ricky, and yours is Lucy, there shouldn't be a problem...

But if that isn't the case, then dumping the boyfriend is the best outcome, lol.

Seriously, it is your home, and your babies, he should respect that

Yorkiemom1 · 02-10-2012, 07:46 PM

Right on target, margaritaville!!!! The "new addition to the established family" is the boyfriend, and he has to be TOLD CLEARLY, SO HE CAN UNDERSTAND EXACTLY WHAT IS BEING SAID, that HE is sleeping in THEIR bed!!! As long as they will allow him to sleep in their bed, he should be thankful. If they change their minds, HE will sleep on the floor!

ladyjane · 02-10-2012, 08:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KazzyK810

Maybe that's part of the problem...maybe BF is concerned about performance anxiety with having an audience...lol

Good point!

02-10-2012, 03:24 PM	#17
BLowry My furkids Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 4,625 Blog Entries: 1	Well....I don't know if I'd get rid of the boyfriend.................yet! (unless he is a jerk LOL!) maybe you could have the furbutts sleep on YOUR side of the bed...I have 3 now....Sadie 7 yrs, Lillie 5 yrs and Bentley (our new little man) 6 months old.. I have to be honest here....it wasn't my idea to have them sleep with us...Hubby put Sadie in bed with us ONCE I was already asleep or I would have told him to put her back in her own bed....did the same thing with Lillie...although she was a little older...that's all it took...they will NOT sleep in their own beds (crates)...Bentley is very small and a wild man...he sleeps in his crate with a big puffy bed...He will probably never sleep in bed with us because he is too small and not going to get much bigger...Don't get me wrong...I LOVE having the furbutts in bed snuggled up to me but, they walk all over me!!! Literally!! LOL They keep me awake all night long! on top of the covers, under the covers on the covers, under the covers!! I've had a paw in the eye...ya...that hurt! I think they think they are climbing over mountains or something! But......I deal with it!! At this point, if they've been sleeping with you for a while, they probably will keep you up all night whining if you crate them....as for the intimacy thing????!!! we have to shut the door...and they sit there whining...VERY romantic!! LOL __________________ Brenda

02-10-2012, 03:35 PM	#18
Tridntrue Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Franklin, TN USA Posts: 104	An alternate view Before Yorkies - I was not a "dog" person. I thought it was disgusting and nasty for a dog to be in the bed. All that hair, all that smell, I would have never allowed that. I have two good friends that slept with their dogs and I would not allow them in the bed when they spent the night with me. Their dogs had to sleep elsewhere. Actually one of them WAS a Yorkie and I have since apologized repeatedly to my friend. When I discovered, by being around a few, that Yorkies really don't shed and don't smell and were so loving, I was gradually won over. We got our first Yorkie in Dec 2010. As soon as I could trust him not to pee on my bed - he was in! He goes to sleep and usually doesn't move til morning. There is nothing I love more than waking up to him wanting his morning back massage and tummy rub. When my dds were little we called this morning time "snugging and loving". So what I am saying is. . . give the guy a chance to see how different and lovable Yorkies are. He may change his mind if it is presented well with no demands or ultimatums.

02-10-2012, 05:47 PM	#20
Loving Furgie Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Tucson, AZ, USA Posts: 217	I had the boyfriend first and then we got Furgie. We tried to get her to sleep in her crate at first, she did for the most part. Then when she got spayed and had to have her cone on, she didn't fit in her crate! Since then she has slept in our bed. I love it, he resisted and was not happy at first...I kind of ignored his requests and just had her sleep on my side.....it is now understood she sleeps in the bed...he has accepted it and when I go to work in the am and its just him and her.....she is in bed next to him __________________ Mindy and Furgie

02-10-2012, 05:52 PM	#21
bchgirl Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: at da beach Posts: 15,444 Blog Entries: 2	Yeah, make the new boyfriend sleep in a crate. __________________ Deb, Reese, Reggie, Frazier, Libby, Sidney, & Bodie Trace & Ramsey who watch over us www.biewersbythebay.com

02-10-2012, 06:12 PM	#23
rubymoon2072 Cedric♥Lola♥Keylo Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Gilford, NH, USA Posts: 9,209	i think having them on ur side will give him time to adjust...u after all r the women and we r the ones in control just dont tell him that!! haha. good luck and keep us posted. __________________ Cedric N Lola N Keylo RIP Punkee Princess

02-10-2012, 05:59 PM	#22
nonni140 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: North Las Vegas, NV, USA Posts: 105	I agree....He's the outsider....not them. They were there first

02-10-2012, 06:52 PM	#24
BabyGirl Rosie I ♥ my girls! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: With My Yorkies Posts: 18,980	Ok, I really love the "dump the boyfriend". Hee hee. But being all serious now. Has he been around the dogs much? Yorkies have a way of worming into hearts of people you know. My DH LOVES my girls. I would not have ever thought that would be the case. DH is the "man's man" and it is all about being manly. Until he got these two Yorkies in his heart! Now he talks to them about how bad boys are when they have dates to the Valentine's Day Ball!! Wondering if he might warm up to them? __________________ Momma to three sweet Yorkie girls Rosie Marie, Mikki Leigh , and Lily Mae Grace!

02-10-2012, 07:14 PM	#25
megansmomma Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: S. W. Suburbs of Chicago, IL Posts: 12,235	Glad that I never had this problem. My husband is the first one to put all 3 into bed with us and likes that Doodlebug is a back cuddlier __________________ “Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.” Mark Twain

02-10-2012, 07:17 PM	#26
LovinOurYorkies YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: MS Posts: 638	My girls don't sleep with us bc I don't sleep well when they're in the bed all night. They sleep in their large kennel next to my side of the bed, and I always drape a piece of my clothing over it when we go to sleep I'm wondering... Does he have a specific issue with them being in the bed? Is he worried he'll roll over on them... or can't sleep bc they curl up next to him, or between the two of you...??? __________________ Tracy Tillie & Bella Tanna DD DS DH

02-10-2012, 07:26 PM	#28
AprilLove My Three Hearts Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Wrapped around their paws :-) Posts: 7,190	Hmmm, a conundrum... Well, if your boyfriends name is Ricky, and yours is Lucy, there shouldn't be a problem... But if that isn't the case, then dumping the boyfriend is the best outcome, lol. Seriously, it is your home, and your babies, he should respect that __________________ MaryKay AprilLove Wubs Moosie R.I.P. Bailey & BitsyRoo

02-10-2012, 07:46 PM	#29
Yorkiemom1 Rosehill Yorkies Donating YT Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Houston Texas Posts: 9,462	Right on target, margaritaville!!!! The "new addition to the established family" is the boyfriend, and he has to be TOLD CLEARLY, SO HE CAN UNDERSTAND EXACTLY WHAT IS BEING SAID, that HE is sleeping in THEIR bed!!! As long as they will allow him to sleep in their bed, he should be thankful. If they change their minds, HE will sleep on the floor!