Not quite 100% Yorkie related but gotta rant.

[CrimsonLuvsLola]

My job has absorbed all of my time now, and its taking me away from the most important thing I have. My family (dh and furkids). My supervisor, who was hired new to the company about 2 months ago, doesn't do a DAMN thing in my department. She's had the job about a month now, she only got it over me because she had a degree. Forget the fact that I have 3 YEARS experience in the company and was way more qualified. (I quit school to work full time for this company, when mom needed help with bills). I end up having 10+ hours of overtime a week when I already work 40 hours guaranteed. She is always switching her schedule to have extra days off without telling me, and calling in. She is apparently unhappy with the position and wishes she hadn't taken it. Hmmm, YA THINK?? You only have been there 6 weeks and you shouldn't have taken the SUPERVISOR job? NO WAY!!!!!! Too much pressure??? Too much work with too little time and pay??? REALLY? It frustrates me to no end! I put in 32 hours in a matter of 3 days last week not to mention I was sick and had ended up with 48.5 hours by the end of the week. I spend more time at work than I do at home AND sleeping combined. I'm exhausted, cranky, and I just plain miss my FAMILY! I miss taking Lola and Sammy out to the lake to play. I want to take Koukla out shopping and playing and start training her and working with her. I want to have the time to groom and love on my babies, clean my home, keep teaching my rats new tricks, or just watch a movie and cuddle with my hubby! I wanna be at home once in a while. I'm just barely 22! My coworkers don't get why I didn't get promoted and don't think its fair to work me like a damn plow horse! ( I also somehow find time to volunteer at a horse rescue in all this). I'd like to go spend more time with my horses too but I just cant. The money is great but I'd rather be poor than work to death at a young age. I quite possibly had my piercings and tattoos count against me for the promotion (discrimination) but my manager swears he didn't. My work family loves me very much and my managers admit to being lost without me, but enough is about enough. I'm gonna talk to my supervisor about stepping down if she can't handle it and let me take over. That way I can write my own schedule and work out a way to fit my life into work. She even had the gall to tell me that she may abandon me completely to work part time for sprint. Hell wouldn't be any different I'm already doing all the work and taking all the shifts! Sorry but I had to rant, maybe I can get some opinions on how to approach my manager about the subject too. I'm just 1 person and its so much work. I can do it but I need him to work with me so I can have time at home before the hubby and "kids" forget who I am LOL

[My lil friend]

You have described my life before I started staying home. I had several pets,worked more than 40hrs a week ( I was the supervisor),had a baby. I told my DH while we were still in the deliver room with child #1 that I would go back to work so he could finish college,but next kid would be in approx 2yrs and I was NOT going back. 22months later I had child #2,did the 6weeks paid leave and then two more weeks not paid to just think about it. It was the most freeing thing that I have ever done,never looked back. That was the good part. The flip side of that coin was I cut our income by 2/3,Im the one that made the money at the time. We did without ALOT. I learned to pinch a penny until it screamed. There were no vacations,dinners out or throwing parties for quite a few years,but I had friends that were in the same boat and we would put our heads together and just make it work.
I am sorry that you are being worked to death. I have a son your age and he is working 40+ during the day and putting himself through college at night,he does not live under my roof.
Try to work it out with the higher ups. Take in all of your options as to wether you want to look elsewhere,,would it really be any better. As for the piercings and tats,if they are in the open it does make it a bit more difficult for you in the work place. Not everyone in the generation above you is openminded enough to see past and just see a brite young woman.
A word of wisdom from my dad "you have to decide what you are willing to give up,inorder to get what you want". I have found this to be true over and over again.
I wish you peace and blessings

[DBlain]

good advice from the poster above. I commend you at 22 for working so hard, I am much older and I hate to say it but I notice there are a lot of people your age who are not willing to work as hard. I am not sure if you just wanted to get your frustration out or you would like some advice, so hopefuly you will not be offended if I offer some. Before talking to anyone at your company you have to decide what you want and then start takin calculated, well though out steps to get it. I have always agreed with the school of thought, if you want a job promotion you have to look and act the part of the job you want. So look to others in higher up positions for guidance, if your company is conservative and managers have no visible tatoos and piercings you will have to find a way to cover them, same goes for hair color and how you dress. If you are in advertising or other artistic professions an artsy appearance would probably be OK. See if you can figure out how to befriend someone that is two levels above you that is willing to be a mentor. Don't complain and don't gossip, and don't ask your supervisor if she wants you to take over, that is not something to discuss with her, the last thing a supervisor wants is someone gunning for their job, even if she does not want it. However if you don't need the money and would like reduced hours you can see if that is a possibility, but keep in mind that finding a new job is not easy right now. Sometimes the way to get ahead is to interview in your field with a similar company, often you will be able to create a new image of more importance for yourself at a new place where at your present company they will always view you as part of the office pool. I know you don't want more on your plate but this is really the time, does your company pay money towards schooling, if so perhaps you might want to look at going back and working towards a degree, this will help your options. Good luck

[My lil friend]

DBlain, more good advice and food for thought.

[Roccosmommy]

I'm sorry you're so overworked and frustrated...been there, done that, STILL doing that for the past 20 years. I tell myself every day that I'd rather complain about my job than complain about not having one. However, my single piece of advice to you before you speak to any supervisor/boss at your company about your situation:

Do not complain - offer a solution.

Good luck to you!

[jacquelinebabco]

Originally Posted by Roccosmommy

I'm sorry you're so overworked and frustrated...been there, done that, STILL doing that for the past 20 years. I tell myself every day that I'd rather complain about my job than complain about not having one. However, my single piece of advice to you before you speak to any supervisor/boss at your company about your situation:

Do not complain - offer a solution.

Good luck to you!

I agree with this.

[deonk1]

I just wanted to jump in and say I know exactly how you feel. I'm almost 23, and have paid my way through college and every month I look at the bottom line and want to cry, because I work so hard and have nothing to show of it.

I want to let you know that the hard work will eventually pay off. I think those wiser than us have given great advice. I often post lots of rants and rambles in the off topic discussion thread and have found our friends here have great advice to give.

So I hope it all works out. *hugs* it will get better.

[southernbelle04]

So sorry! Sending you big hugs!

[mom2two]

wow I think you are an amazing young woman , all the advice above is good advice but something comes to mind the saying"dont be so busy making a living that you forget to have a life"' you do need to squeeze out some time for yourself and your family somehow,if you are not happy. Best of luck

[givemecouture]

I'm sorry that you are going through this! I'm a firm believer that your life shouldn't be your job...well of course unless you want it like that.

I truly hope that all of your hard work will pay off and that the company you work for soon wises up to your sup!

I really hate saying this, cuz I love that YT is a place to be friends and chat about our yorkies AND our lives but..... Just be careful of ranting online about your job. Ive seen too many folks get caught and let go because of it, only reason why I even mention. Would hate to see anything like that happen to you or anyone on YT!

Sorry


But back to your situation. I am sure that your sup's boss will soon catch wind of her antics. After all, she is costing them more money in the long run. They have to pay for her "sick" time and now are paying you over time!

Like another member said- stay positive at work when dealing with this situation. Even when you are ticked off, if you talk with someone about it, have a clear cut problem+solution. That way you sound mature and capable, and it is already obvious she is neither.

I know you miss your family, and I'm sure they miss you too. But, this can't go on very long.

Did you apply for the supervisor position when it was available?

[DBlain]

very good advice about not talking about in on public forums. so easy to trace back to you.

[gracielove]

You have been given some very very good advice by DBlain. You seem to be a smart woman with a good work ethic so I hope you consider what has been said. I know it seems unfair that people would judge you by your exterior rather than what you produce but life is not fair. The type of situation you describe in your work place happens way too often. Management brings in someone from outside the department to run the place. The person is not happy and takes advantage of their position. I can't tell you how often I have seen this. Many companies will let you work yourself to the bone but this is not all they look at when promotion time comes. I have also seen poor management skills abounding in recent years. You say you quit school to take this job. The reality is that they do look for that degree when it comes to management and supervisor jobs.

As stated, don't gossip or complain to co workers. You may think they are loyal but when push comes to shove they are out for themselves. That pay check is important and everyone wants a raise. If you approach your supervisor as you suggested my guess would be she would take it right back to management. Not good.

All in all money is important but you need to have a life also. The things that happen outside the work place are the lasting and important things in your life. You have to have peace at home or you cannot be your best in the work place. Maybe if you cut back your hours for a while they would actually miss having you there. If not it might be time for a new job. I hope you are able to step back and look at your situation objectively and form a plan of action.

You have several animals in your care and they need more time spent with them. It seems you are under a lot of pressure with the way things are right now. Hope a solution comes to you soon.

[TwoforFun]

Originally Posted by gracielove

You have been given some very very good advice by DBlain. You seem to be a smart woman with a good work ethic so I hope you consider what has been said. I know it seems unfair that people would judge you by your exterior rather than what you produce but life is not fair. The type of situation you describe in your work place happens way too often. Management brings in someone from outside the department to run the place. The person is not happy and takes advantage of their position. I can't tell you how often I have seen this. Many companies will let you work yourself to the bone but this is not all they look at when promotion time comes. I have also seen poor management skills abounding in recent years. You say you quit school to take this job. The reality is that they do look for that degree when it comes to management and supervisor jobs.

As stated, don't gossip or complain to co workers. You may think they are loyal but when push comes to shove they are out for themselves. That pay check is important and everyone wants a raise. If you approach your supervisor as you suggested my guess would be she would take it right back to management. Not good.

All in all money is important but you need to have a life also. The things that happen outside the work place are the lasting and important things in your life. You have to have peace at home or you cannot be your best in the work place. Maybe if you cut back your hours for a while they would actually miss having you there. If not it might be time for a new job. I hope you are able to step back and look at your situation objectively and form a plan of action.

You have several animals in your care and they need more time spent with them. It seems you are under a lot of pressure with the way things are right now. Hope a solution comes to you soon.

[My lil friend]

You might consider arranging a full weekend off,maybe even add a Monday or Friday. Do not answer your phone unless it is family,do not go to parties. Spend the time refreshing and thinking about what you really want. Begin forming a list of goals for the next year. My DH and I do this every year,twice. We take the day after Christmas to discuss us,the kids,our financial goals for the year,vacation when and where. We then take NY day to firm things up a little. We have done this for 27yrs and it has helped us to keep an eye on our finances,our kids goals and our relationship goals.

[CrimsonLuvsLola]

Thank you everyone and HUGS to all! I specifically didn't say the name of my company because of the whole online ranting thing. Also, they just officially banned all overtime, so now we are going to have to split the work evenly and when her end of the tasks aren't taken care of, it will speak for itself. You guys are awesome and I love you all!